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AIBU to ask why people hate NYE so much?

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Kat256M · 30/12/2023 17:22

Maybe not hate as such but people are just done with the festive spirit after the 26th. I am not British so it seems weird to me, we always used to celebrate NYE more than Christmas, the big family gathering is usually on January 1st.

Is it just that everyone is over it by then? Or because there seems to be more pressure on Christmas dinner? Just curious really.

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 30/12/2023 21:35

I like New Year's Day. It feels fresh and new. New Year's Eve not so much. I'm going out this year as husband is playing a gig at a party and DD can come but it still feels like a forced attempt to have a good time. I've never liked it really

Vettrianofan · 30/12/2023 21:39

I love it for Chewing the Fat, great comedy makes it.

LSGX · 30/12/2023 21:39

Can't bear NYE. I don't drink and it's a long night for me.

We're hosting tomorrow night and I've decided I want it to be the last time I see a new year in. From next year onwards I want an early supper with my husband and an early night. Very happy to make a nice brunch on NYD for friends and get everyone out for a walk.

lapochette · 30/12/2023 21:44

I'm Scottish and Hogmanay and NYE was always a big celebration both with family and friends. So much happy memories of these times but all my close family have passed. I have DH and DC and DH comes from a large family who love to celebrate and fortunately they all still have each other. My hearts just not in it although I'll stay up and see in the new year.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/12/2023 21:44

I really hate it. Another bloody year to get through.

voxnihili · 30/12/2023 21:46

I used to love it when I had somewhere to go - always liked a good party. But these days I spend the evening alone and it’s a stark reminder that on the night of the year that people spend with their nearest and dearest, I have no one who chooses to spend it with me. I don’t normally mind a night in alone, but NYE really gets to me.

CleverLilViper · 30/12/2023 21:53

I'm not too fussed on NYE and never really have been.

I don't hate it, and do "celebrate" it with a takeout and still have all my decorations out. I will be going to my parents for New Years Day dinner, but I don't drink much and prefer to stick a good film on and watch that and then fall asleep, normally missing midnight as I can't stay awake that long.

I'm also hoping the fireworks/noise isn't too bad this year. I really can't be arsed with listening to my neighbours shit taste in music on blast at midnight so I'm hoping that there is a massive downpour and that prevents any planned garden parties or indeed, fireworks, even.

I am nothing if not a party pooper, but neighbours can bore off with the relentless blasting of Sandstorm by Darude as if we're in 1999.

Decemberdodo · 30/12/2023 21:54

I've never liked it much, can't stand auld lang syne (and now it's in my head, damnit!!).
But, the past couple of years we've had a bit of fun just playing games and dancing about at home with the kids, and now I'm looking forward to it!

Akeevah · 30/12/2023 22:03

I just find it anxiety inducing. Highlights how quickly time is passing. I often feel I’ve wasted the year (even remember feeling this the year I became engaged and graduated with a first from Oxbridge).

Hocuspocusnonsense · 30/12/2023 22:03

NYE is expensive. Lots of pubs charge entry or sell tickets, cabs are double the price or thereabouts, childcare is mega expensive. NYE is fun when you’re young and childfree or if you’re going to a house party but everything in between is just a bit too much effort and expense.

mrswhiplington · 30/12/2023 22:22

Chuffaluffa · 30/12/2023 17:38

I used to love it, but actually for maybe the last 5/6 years or so the world has seemed so bleak that bringing in another year of shit and wanton destruction doesn’t feel like the party it ever used to be. But maybe I’m just getting miserable in middle age.

You sound just like me.😄

Squeaky2023 · 30/12/2023 22:23

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/12/2023 21:44

I really hate it. Another bloody year to get through.

Until the sweet release of death?
I feel you.

Squeaky2023 · 30/12/2023 22:26

It's just the arbitrary passing of time, one second to another with a different number at the end. No guarantee that anything will be less shit.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 30/12/2023 22:27

I cba with NYE. I am 50 now and have teens so stayed at home since I had them. Used to go to friends and before that went out but it was always meh and a pain to get home. I don’t drink now so I’ll need to stay up to be taxi to my eldest.

NYD I like though. I watch the NYD concert from Vienna, go for a walk, see family and have a lovely dinner but less pressure/hectic than Christmas

Sarah2891 · 30/12/2023 22:30

I just find it really depressing for a number of reasons. Some of those have already been mentioned.

SENDhelp2023 · 30/12/2023 22:32

I find it depressing, such anti climax

stayathomer · 30/12/2023 22:34

The line: ‘should auld acquaintance be forgot’- reminds me of people we’ve lost. Plus made to stay up past ten o clock and hug people when most of my family are far away so I can’t hug them. It is the only day of the year that puts me in rotten humour. If I was single I’d be in bed by nine!

FluffyFanny · 30/12/2023 22:38

I love New years Eve and always stay up to welcome it in. It's a time to reflect on the past year and make plans for the next year ahead. I also have lovely memories of family celebrations- when I was a child my parents would have family around for drinks and a buffet and we all played cards- games like Chase the Ace, Newmarket etc. and we placed bets using 2ps and 1ps (I was always allowed to win and remember counting up the coppers and spending them on sweets at the local shop).

In my late teens and 20s NYE was a time to party with friends- going out in fancy dress to the local nightclub, or spending the night in Edinburgh in a cosy pub or a log cabin or a cottage somewhere.

Since having children it's been a family day but DH and I have always tried to make it special- board games with our dd when she was small and then champagne when she went to bed. Now she's 18 she's out partying herself, and we like to have a few drinks at our local and then watch the festivities on Tv with a cheeseboard and glass of something nice. Times have changed but i can't ever imagine not seeing in the new year. My 80 year old parents still stay up!

QueenOfHiraeth · 30/12/2023 22:44

I'm in my 60s now and, when I was young, Christmas was time with family and New Year with friends. Usually someone would have a party and we would all pile out through the back door just before midnight, wait for the church bells to ring then sing in the street before going back in to resume drinking and partying. That, of course, stopped as we all had children, jobs, travelled, etc.
Over the years I feel more maudlin about it as it highlights the passage of time and those who are no longer here with us

boraborainbovember · 30/12/2023 23:02

Akeevah · 30/12/2023 22:03

I just find it anxiety inducing. Highlights how quickly time is passing. I often feel I’ve wasted the year (even remember feeling this the year I became engaged and graduated with a first from Oxbridge).

OMG same.
In my case it's probably because I have loads and loads of resolutions/goals.
Even though I achieve 'big' goals I judge myself for all the little failed ones like eating healthy, exercising etc etc.

Haydenn · 30/12/2023 23:04

Because a meal in my local pub goes from £30 to £120

mrsbyers · 30/12/2023 23:08

It’s a family celebration for us as we have a family birthday but tomorrow we are going for a family Sunday lunch and then I will be at home with husband in evening - might see midnight in might not especially as we’ve both got some sort of flu bug , it was always a bigger deal when younger and going out on NYD was the busiest day of the whole year (NE England). I think now trying to get taxis anywhere puts us off - a couple of years ago we were charged £50 for a ten minute on NYE

WickerMam · 30/12/2023 23:08

TitaniasAss · 30/12/2023 17:54

I'm Scottish too and it was a huge deal when I was younger, it just doesn't feel the same anymore.

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Same here. It is still a big deal for my parents ( more NYD, rather than NYE), but its just another day to me really. I don't hate it, as I try to enjoy every day, but it's not special.

Sunday12 · 30/12/2023 23:13

For me it’s the expectation to have a good time. To be invited and included in something. The thought of everyone else celebrating and being involved. Me just lonesome and not a part of it. That’s always felt incredibly lonely. With Christmas I eat and buy lots for my children so it’s a different vibe completely for me

Clafoutie · 30/12/2023 23:50

madeinmanc · 30/12/2023 21:28

I blame that awful dirge Auld Lang Syne for getting you all emotional about lost friendships and relationships at just the wrong moment. If you've lost someone or had a breakup it just is too much to bear.

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I think you’re right about that, never really occurred to me before.