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AIBU to ask why people hate NYE so much?

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Kat256M · 30/12/2023 17:22

Maybe not hate as such but people are just done with the festive spirit after the 26th. I am not British so it seems weird to me, we always used to celebrate NYE more than Christmas, the big family gathering is usually on January 1st.

Is it just that everyone is over it by then? Or because there seems to be more pressure on Christmas dinner? Just curious really.

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coxesorangepippin · 30/12/2023 20:35

It's because it's a miserable occasion. The holidays are over. Work looms. A miserable, dark, cold January beckons. What's to celebrate? Nothing.

^^

This really

JamSandle · 30/12/2023 20:36

Papillon23 · 30/12/2023 20:33

I've got friends who say they hate new years eve, and I think it comes from trying to have a big fancy party or a major night out.

I like to make sure I do something - it's an excuse to have people over really. I usually keep it simple - good food, good wine, good company. Maybe board games, maybe music and chatting.

I don't have massive expectations which I think are usually the route to disappointment - just a nice night with friends.

Yes - I think a big part of the anti climax comes from the expectations people put on it.

Pineapplewaves · 30/12/2023 20:39

It symbolises the end of Christmas and the holiday period, soon be time to take the tree and decorations down, most people go back to work on 2nd, nobody has any money left (they spent it all on Christmas and got paid early) and it's a few weeks until pay day, the house is a tip and needs cleaning and tidying all over again......

IamMummyhearmeROAR · 30/12/2023 20:43

Baldieheid · 30/12/2023 17:58

It's a night in for us. We're in Scotland and suffer the excruciating scottish TV tartan tat show each year just to see if Jackie Bird falls over pissed one year (it'll never happen, she's a total professional).

We went to Princes Street in Edinburgh the last year it was a free for all, before they limited numbers and it was the most terrifying experience of my life. I fell over and only someone grabbing my jacket stopped me being crushed. I lost my friends (pre cheap mobiles, so once separated, that was it) and walked 4 miles home alone as there were no taxis about. Got in at 5am ish, frozen and soaked and cried solidly for the next full day. It was traumatic. Jackie Bird is as exciting as it gets for me now.

Hogmanay 94 I was at a house party in the Meadows then on to the celebrations in Princes Street. I lost my sister there as it was crazy busy and didn't find her until 11am the next day. 😀

Hibye23289 · 30/12/2023 20:52

I think it's the panic of making the most of it and starting a new year with expectation and new ways but Jan 1st is always so grey and miserable

boraborainbovember · 30/12/2023 20:55

GirlsAloudReturnMadeMyYEAR · 30/12/2023 20:20

NYE used to feel different to me but as I've got older I think any excuse to get together with people, get dressed up if you fancy it and have a drink or nice food is a day worth celebrating. Technically you can do this any day but I love it. I celebrate indoors having gatherings and indoor do's though with either a takeaway pre ordered or party food and karaeoke in the living room. Usually have a Christmas present or two or three to use too, infact the karaeoke machine was one one year. It's nice, just not the same as Christmas.

Well then this thread isn't for you!
Reflections aside. I love getting together, nice food and drink.
Just not at great expense and in an extremely crowded place.
If your house was a 20 min walk away I'd happily accept and come and have fun!

itsnotmeitsu · 30/12/2023 20:57

@ChristmasSugarplumFairy > 'Exactly this. I howled like no human you've ever heard at that the turn of 2020/2021 because my DS2 was stillborn in June 2020 and I felt like I was leaving him behind again, ...'

So, so sorry to read about your loss x

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 30/12/2023 20:57

I'm a very long standing AA member. We call NYE "amateur night".

An Alcoholic Anonymous NYE party is enormous fun.

apronbellybarbie · 30/12/2023 21:00

I hate the celebrations, how much they cost and don't understand the desire of other people to get drunk.

I celebrated when I was younger with a party and some drinks, etc. But now that I'm a mum of 4, I love staying home and bringing in the New Year with my partner and children watching fireworks out of the window or on the TV. That's enough for me 🙂

Userelderly · 30/12/2023 21:03

I hate the fact it’s forced fun on one night. If you go out you have to stay past 12 even if it’s not the best night. Had a few good ones in my 20s but mainly it was over-priced and over-hyped. Now in my 50s I sometimes go for an early dinner and get home before 12. Tomorrow will be at a local friend’s for a few glasses of fizz. Hate January and the back to work feel of NYEve. Roll on spring!

Clafoutie · 30/12/2023 21:04

ChristmasSugarplumFairy · 30/12/2023 17:53

Exactly this. I howled like no human you've ever heard at that the turn of 2020/2021 because my DS2 was stillborn in June 2020 and I felt like I was leaving him behind again, just like when I left the hospital without him, walked away from his coffin at the funeral home, walked out the crematorium knowing he would never be whole again. Exactly the same feeling. Not logical exactly but very real.

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Seems inadequate to say it but, I’m so very sorry. Flowers

Clafoutie · 30/12/2023 21:07

Kat256M · 30/12/2023 19:39

Yes that does happen! I kept seeing "book now for Christmas dinner" posters from the end of August. Everything went Christmas/red/festive overnight from 1st of November around here, shops etc.

Don't get me wrong I love Christmas but it can be a bit much for most people after 2 full months of Christmas music in shops!!

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Easter egg displays seemed to appear in shops on 26th… 😩

LumiB · 30/12/2023 21:07

I love it all, Xmas day for grtting together with family (we don't celebrate Xmas in the traditional sense) then its my bday so I grt to celebrate that in-between and now its nye! A time to reflect on the year, have my final regrets and reset myself for the new year.

Since people down the street love their house parties and screaming in the streets I now go away ...currently doing a 2 day spa break 😌

I'll be going to a club this year and finally there is music being played that I love so yeah very much excited 😁

mummysherlock · 30/12/2023 21:08

I don’t see what there is to celebrate. Christmas is over, we are now going into January which is the longest, bleakest, most depressing month of the year. It will soon be time to go back to work which will be be a case of ‘same shit different year’

Oh and all this ‘new year new me’ bollocks and the pressure to have a New Year’s resolution: During the most depressing month of the year I have no desire to make changes, would much rather do this in March when everyone else has given up lol

Ratfinkstinkypink · 30/12/2023 21:10

Because it signifies another year without DH and I feel further away from him and more alone with each new year. I wasn't ready for his death (I don't suppose I ever would've been) and for some reason New Year really rubs it in.

5128gap · 30/12/2023 21:14

It marks the end of the Christmas break and the beginning of the most depressing part of the year. Its over sentimentalised, with too much encouragement to dwell on the past. Do something 'special' and its an expensive palaver. Do nothing and you get FOMO. Go out and you can't get to the bar, you can't get a taxi and at midnight you're either stuck in the toilet queue or hugging people you've never seen before while the people you care about are nowhere in sight.

TheFormidableMrsC · 30/12/2023 21:17

I used to love NYE. It was a massive thing when I was in my teens and twenties and I loved a massive night out with all my friends and getting dressed up. I've been a parent for 25 years. So 25 years ago was the last time I went out on NYE. Now I feel I have to see the new year in but it's a chore. Shame really but it is what it is!

Cherrysherbet · 30/12/2023 21:20

It’s depressing.

Makes me think of people I’ve lost.
I hate it. I worry about what the new year will bring. What will happen by this time next year?

Doesn’t make me feel jubilant at all.

Catsmere · 30/12/2023 21:22

I hate the fucking noise. I hate loud parties at any time. A succession of noisy neighbours in my 20s ruined my health and gave me anxiety that’s lasted decades. I used to get overnight trains just to be away from NYE.

Hedjwitch · 30/12/2023 21:25

I hate it. Always find it incredibly depressing. 2024 will start with a funeral for one of mums friends, and will be swiftly followed by the death of a dear friend currently on end of life care.
Not much to be positive about really.
And am in Scotland so will endure the fake tartan forced jollity and " wha's like us?" garbage.

madeinmanc · 30/12/2023 21:28

I blame that awful dirge Auld Lang Syne for getting you all emotional about lost friendships and relationships at just the wrong moment. If you've lost someone or had a breakup it just is too much to bear.

Shodan · 30/12/2023 21:29

Too many drunk men using it as an excuse to cop a feel, grab you and try for a snog.
Crowds everywhere.
Expensive.
But...I would quite like to go to a house party with friends, if one was offered. It hasn't been, so I'll be staying in with ds2 again.

Actually the best ones were when I was waitressing- controlled bonhomie and big tips 😁

grafittiartist · 30/12/2023 21:30

I live NYE!
Optimism, celebration, much simpler than Christmas, so I prefer it.

FredaFox · 30/12/2023 21:32

I was fine with new year and have had some lovely nights out and even went to London & Trafalgar Square from the north a few times but once I hit my 30s I really started disliking it.
I get quite reflective and often low at new year, I avoid going out, don't want to push my maudlin feelings on others

Additionally going out at new year places are full, no seats, queues at bars, pay to get in everywhere and the once a year w⚓️ are out who don't know how to behave, it's forced fun. It's not the best night of the year

Banana34 · 30/12/2023 21:32

Well my stepdad died on New Years Eve when I was 17. Having to do CPR on the bedroom floor and then tell family that he had died… yeah pretty shit day!

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