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AIBU to ask why people hate NYE so much?

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Kat256M · 30/12/2023 17:22

Maybe not hate as such but people are just done with the festive spirit after the 26th. I am not British so it seems weird to me, we always used to celebrate NYE more than Christmas, the big family gathering is usually on January 1st.

Is it just that everyone is over it by then? Or because there seems to be more pressure on Christmas dinner? Just curious really.

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Judellie · 30/12/2023 19:52

It's my birthday NYE but no chance of just a meal and trip to the cinema without paying astronomical prices. I don't drink alcohol as I have never liked the taste and I don't like crowds and fireworks. The teens may stay up to see the New Year in on tv but the last time I did, I had a bad head all day. January's awful enough without starting it off with a headache. Like most people, I detest January, there's no reason to celebrate it's arrival. It just means deleting loads of emails about dry January and veganuary, neither of which hold the slightest interest for me.

Newsenmum · 30/12/2023 19:52

@ChristmasSugarplumFairy 😢

MabelMoo23 · 30/12/2023 19:53

I’m not really bothered - although NYE will always have lingering sadness for me. A very good friend passed away on NYE 12 years ago, and I also lost my 3rd baby on NYE after going for a 12 week scan and finding no heartbeat (despite a scan at 8 weeks where there was a heartbeat). Because of the backlog over Christmas and New Year it took 2 weeks for me to have surgery. I felt like I was waiting to pass my baby. Just horrific

we now have two children, so we are going out for a bit of food in the pub in the afternoon to celebrate with them, as they are the reminders that life goes on - then home for telly and maybe a glass of fizz once they are in bed

MerelyPlaying · 30/12/2023 19:56

The worst thing about going out - anywhere - on New Year’s Eve is that you can’t leave early if you’ve had enough, you ‘have to’ stay till after midnight. Makes it a bloody long evening.

I’m going to have dinner with a friend, come home about 9.30 and be in bed before midnight. It was never a big thing for me and now I’m older it just makes me feel sad.

Newsenmum · 30/12/2023 19:57

I also hate all the kissing and HAPPY NEW YEAR! makes me want to curl up into a ball. Introvert much 🤣

margotrose · 30/12/2023 19:57

It's just another day - I don't really understand the significance/point of it, really.

Crazycatlady79 · 30/12/2023 19:59

I only dislike it these days as it's the anniversary of the worst time in my life, but that aside, it's just another day for me.

golf7 · 30/12/2023 20:00

@Poem4funeralhelp
They all kick and bang their doors at midnight. As you can see from my user name I do the same job. Back on nights new years day x

BooBooBaloo · 30/12/2023 20:03

It's the forced fun aspect for me, everyone is supposed to be out living it up, but to be honest I'm just done with socialising by that point. I hate the logistical nightmare of going out, having to stay up past midnight, fireworks (god I hate fireworks), spending loads of money to go places we normally go, and then having to go straight back to work.

whiteshutters · 30/12/2023 20:05

Another Scot here and Hogmanay was always great fun when we were young - getting to stay up late, see all the family, have the Hogmanay stuff on the TV etc and a big meal on New Year's Day. Even as older teens we would hotfoot it back home for midnight to "see the year in" then off out we would go again.No mobiles then. Men would go to the New Year's Day football. My Mum would clean all the house and we would open the windows to let the old year out and the new one in. It could be very maudlin though as things were said like " who knows where we will all be next year" and yes as someone else mentioned those we had lost that year. It was a neighbours and family thing when I was young but now it is just a commercialised event. I am usually in bed now - remember the fond times of family who are no longer here and a community that doesn't exist in the same way anymore. Gee whizz - that is maudlin. 😂

Newsenmum · 30/12/2023 20:06

I also love the beginning of spring! That’s more of a new year for me.

alpenguin · 30/12/2023 20:10

I don’t drink alcohol and for all my life Hogmanay celebrations have been about people drinking until the wee hours of the morning. It’s so damn boring.

I dont mind hanging out with people having a drink, even to oblivion but it’s so forced on Hogmanay. Then there’s the wishing everyone a happy new year, another enforced convention that I can’t escape. It’s just awful.

Kalevala · 30/12/2023 20:12

TwilightSkies · 30/12/2023 17:32

It’s grim. It’s the middle of winter. Cold, dark, everyone’s skint.
For me new year is the 1st of March. It FEELS fresh, new and hopeful.

For me it's when the snowdrops start to come out, the first (well first widespread) signs of awakening. Like first light before sunrise. Jan 1 is more like a bit past midnight.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 30/12/2023 20:14

I’m all for celebrating Christmas until Twelfth Night, I love the traditions that go with it as we see out the last of the Christmas days before the quiet of January.

But New Year’s Eve is not for me. Firstly, in the pagan tradition, new year starts at the end of October. But even just going along with it is a bit rubbish. Any other night of the year where we have “out out” plans and I’m there with bells on. But suddenly pubs charge for ticketed entry. The bar is five deep. Taxis cost a fortune but public transport stopped hours ago. Town centres are horrendous. Going home before midnight is Not Done.

I’ve had some of the worst nights out of my life on NYE - whether it was being let down by people, getting stranded or just the expectation that it will be a good night versus the reality - so I don’t “do” NYE. Well, I have some wine and watch the fireworks out of the window, which seems a lot better than going out!

AgnesX · 30/12/2023 20:16

New Year is just another day and I feel so bad for not thinking of it as any other.

There's no hard end or new start it's just another day.

I wish I had more hope but I don't.

Imuptoolate · 30/12/2023 20:17

Because It is marking the end of December, the most exciting month of the year and the beginning of January, the most depressing month of the year!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 30/12/2023 20:18

Ponderingwindow · 30/12/2023 17:29

It is mostly celebrated with a late night of drinking. It just holds no interest for me.

Yes, this. Plus all the maudlin looking back, random drunks, random drunk men kissing me in pubs. Yuck.

It's still Christmas for me 🙂 Nice dinner, chocolate, something good on TV and I'm happy 😁

fromhellsheartistabatthee · 30/12/2023 20:19

Because it's too close to Christmas and there are at least ten weeks to get through before the first hint of Spring.

GirlsAloudReturnMadeMyYEAR · 30/12/2023 20:20

NYE used to feel different to me but as I've got older I think any excuse to get together with people, get dressed up if you fancy it and have a drink or nice food is a day worth celebrating. Technically you can do this any day but I love it. I celebrate indoors having gatherings and indoor do's though with either a takeaway pre ordered or party food and karaeoke in the living room. Usually have a Christmas present or two or three to use too, infact the karaeoke machine was one one year. It's nice, just not the same as Christmas.

JamSandle · 30/12/2023 20:22

I dont hate it. It just doesn't really interest me.

CarrotCake01 · 30/12/2023 20:24

I never really grew up with a NYE tradition so it's never felt particularly special.
The only memories I have of NYE from childhood was a massive village party to see in the new millennium and one year when I was in Primary School my mum went to a party at the neighbours house and promised she'd be back by midnight to be with me but came back off her tits an hour or so late.

For me personally, I find New Years depressing, I always have. Last year was just lonely and shit, as was the year before etc I doubt next year will be any different 😂

JamSandle · 30/12/2023 20:25

Should also add I don't drink so traditional NY celebrations bore me. But I enjoy doing something NYD.

whiteshutters · 30/12/2023 20:31

Ah the Millennium New Year - when we were all waiting for the planes to fall out of the sky 😫

Papillon23 · 30/12/2023 20:33

I've got friends who say they hate new years eve, and I think it comes from trying to have a big fancy party or a major night out.

I like to make sure I do something - it's an excuse to have people over really. I usually keep it simple - good food, good wine, good company. Maybe board games, maybe music and chatting.

I don't have massive expectations which I think are usually the route to disappointment - just a nice night with friends.

Mills86 · 30/12/2023 20:34

TwilightSkies · 30/12/2023 17:32

It’s grim. It’s the middle of winter. Cold, dark, everyone’s skint.
For me new year is the 1st of March. It FEELS fresh, new and hopeful.

As a teacher, it’s always been September 1st that’s for resolutions and fresh starts for me. I love the autumn for this reason. March 1st makes perfect sense to me though too.

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