Spooky thread alert

[Youngmewouldsaywhat]

I am a grown up woman and my mother passed away recently.
I was very very sick last week and feeling a bit sorry for myself as thinking nobody really cares if I am not well apart from DH who’s been fantastic. In laws are not very demonstrative but to be fair don’t expect anyone to look after them either and when sick they tend to disappear. My own siblings tend to contact me when they need something but not very good if I need the support.

Anyways I survived and I am getting better every day. Now the spooky bit.

i went for a nap this afternoon as I felt exhausted and then I woke up with a bolt as I had something planned. I overslept so I sat up right quickly and opened and closed my eyes in the room that was dark but not too dark as it was 4 pm. Oh well I swear I saw my mum sitting up in bed all bathed in purple light. It was her alive and chatting like keeping me company.
I am sure it was not a dream as I was dreaming something totally different (I remember the dream) and she wasn’t in the dream. She was more like casually sitting up in the bed next to me and looking like her usual self I remember before she passed away. This didn’t scare me but made me feel like she was next to me saying look I am still here.

what is my AIBU?

AIBU - I imagined this and deceased relatives don’t come back to see us
AINBU - there’s still some conscience of deceased ones floating around and I just happened to capture some

I am puzzled tbh as it’s never happened to me. Maybe I am experiencing delirium 😜 but I am not that sick anymore just very very fatigued.

and since I am in bed not well… I would love to hear your spooky stories if you have any.

if you don’t believe please be kind…and let’s keep an open mind. It’s really nice to think that my mum was there today!

I have loads of "woo" stories despite not really being a massive believer in woo. The most recent being xmas day. Me and my mum were watching the kids open presents from SIL and chatting about SIL and DH who we lost a couple of years ago when we heard a massive crash in the kitchen.

3 large, cast iron baking tins I had rested on the back of the oven, right at the back, not near the side or front, had fallen off the oven and landed about 3 feet across the kitchen. The oven wasn't on. No person or animal had been in the kitchen for at least an hour. No windows were open. My mum thinks it was DH letting us know he was here and I have no other explanation.

A few weeks after my father died, my mum and I heard him walking up the stairs and across the ceiling in the room above our heads, we both heard it at the same time and our house was detached so it could not have been sound coming from the house next door. We where so shocked at the time but took some comfort that he was checking up on us. If we both hadnt of heard it at the same time i wouldnt have believed it had happened.

Thank you all for these lovely posts!
I am reading them all and they are heart warming.

I love how our minds make connections amongst events and signs that are unique to us only and that makes the experience even more valid as if there was our own personal language with our loved ones that we keep interpreting.

It is giving me huge comfort to feel I am not alone into this.

My DD just cried out in her sleep “Go away!”. Very loud and clear and unsettling and not like her at all.
She is asleep again now but I have a terrible feeling of dread and cannot sleep. My grandad is very unwell and I have a sense of foreboding, like the world has gone silent. It may be the wind outside or my insomnia. I just hope I’m wrong.

Lovely stories I had just got the book too listen too as well. 💐

In my native culture we believe that when people die their souls hang around the living world for a few months afterwards. So we have a normal funeral and then about 3 months later another ceremony to put them to rest as it were. Anyway when my grandmother died, I was bereft as she brought me up and was more of my mother so to speak. The week after she died I got up for work as usual, had a shower as usual and flipped on the radio as usual. It was an old analogue radio with the dial always set to LBC. Dial never got moved - had dust on it (this radio was only ever used by me for about 20 minutes every workday morning, and I always just fipped it on at the mains then off again when I was ready to leave for work). Instead of the usual LBC, I heard a priest conducting a religious ceremony in our native language which I used with my grandmother (she was always hoping that I would engage more with our own traditional religion and culture). After about 10 seconds it stopped, there was a split second silence and then LBC came on. I found it deeply comforting.

I'm a believer! Although it's not happened to me personally, my mum said this happened to her when she was ill before. She woke up from a nap and saw her DM just sat there smiling, then she rubbed her eyes and looked again and she was gone!

Also when my dad passed, over the 24h before he died he swore blind his dad was stood at the bottom of his bed. He was also having conversations with and shouting out the names of other relatives who had previously passed years before

I think it's lovely when these things bring people comfort, but I'm not really a believer.

So many of these instances happen when people are ill/ have been sleeping. We use only a fraction of our brains and I believe that the supernatural and paranormal can mostly be put down to physiological or psychological factors.

I think you can look for and find comfort in the world's and nature's signs - a little like confirmation bias. A rainbow arching across the sky when a loved one passes. Bird song breaking out on a rainy day, hearts in clouds etc. A good friend of mine died last year and What a Wonderful World played at her funeral. It featured in the London Eye new year's eve medley and I smiled remembering her and how she embraced life to the full and loved nature.

Hope everything is ok

I remembered some more. When we went up to hospital, the day before my mum died she asked why *Socks, (Not real name) one of her favourite cats that died over 10 years ago, was sat over there. Of course we couldn't see anything. I asked if he wanted her to go with her. She said, I think so. But I'm not ready yet.

Thank you for this thread Youngmewouldsaywhat. :) I have been down a rabbit hole of books on Amazon after suggestions on this thread. You have also given me information I hadn't known before. Thank you.

@DoIgotothefuneral there’s so much of these experiences with pets shared on the internet and on mumsnet (I went down the mumsnet search hole!) especially that it seems odd not more of this is talked about.

This thread has given me so much comfort too. I watched a movie last night called “Foster” and it was about an angel helping grieving parents.

So much narrative and so many movies … sometimes I wonder if these authors resort to calling these works of art regarding angels and afterlife as a way of sharing their experiences without the risk of being called bonkers? 😜

@Whatafustercluck you have all rights to feel that way. The way I see it … it goes both ways. Hasn’t been proved so could or could not be true. But we don’t know.

Our minds are so powerful.. if you can have a body without life why can’t you have life (souls) without a body?

I am asking more and more these questions to myself and I find comfort in like minded people who believe. But I totally respect people who don’t as I was one of them not so long ago.

@MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy that happened to my mum too! She saw all her relatives that had passed away the day before she died. She saw a woman bathed in white light that she thought was an angel or Holy Mary (I couldn’t understand her words tbh by then)

at the time I thought her brain was preparing her for death and what a beautiful to do it

@MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy wow your mums experience is so similar to mine that gives me the shivers!!!

That is a really special message OP and I'm happy for you, genuinely. I wondee if those with some knowledge of such matters would answer why my parents haven't gave me a little message to say hello and that they are ok etc nor my husband's mum (who died far too young?) ? Maybe they didn't love us or give a shite about us and thought bugger them, not giving them a message from the other side. Hope you are okay, OP. Grief is awful.

I'm sure that's not the case, I'm sure they loved you. Maybe people have to have 'a gift' to be able to see these things. My gran was a twin and she and her sister always said that whoever went first would do whatever they could to contact the other. My gran's sister passed first and my gran looked everywhere for signs from her but nothing.

@Notappeared i wonder that too. Why is this happening to me so late in life? I would have never considered anything like this before.
In the last few years I have started meditating seriously. It helped me with anxiety during lockdown.

And my meditation/yoga teacher says that it’s like learning a new language. Initially it doesn’t make sense but then you can open channel of understanding that go beyond what you had set to learn … but who knows!!!

certainly not something I was born with or I deserve for some special reasons.

I think we see what we focus on… and I am currently focus more on spirituality with unforeseen benefits maybe?

Placemarking (to return & contribute later)

I’m sorry for your loss 🩷❤️‍🩹

Nearly 18 months ago I lost my friend, well we were on verge of getting together when he suddenly had a heart attack and died at our desk at work. I never really believed in anything until he passed. At the start I had a couple of dreams where I couldn’t see him but knew he was there. He told me he was still around, but we needed to speak to each other in code. I told him to leave hearts, so then I started to see hearts everywhere, esp in clouds.

I saw a medium who said he tries to get my attention by touching my shoulders, but had never mentioned I felt something touch them. The dreams I had last year I could see him, but he usually just stood in front of me smiling whilst I spoke to him. Always knew he was either deceased or dying in them. The last dream I had was the night my mum was diagnosed with cancer, he was hugging me saying she will be ok (thankfully will be).

but the oddest experience is when I tried reiki. Lady knew nothing of me, said I’d been changing my views on life, identified I was grieving, said how I think I’m going mad but it really was him in my dreams and she could feel him around my shoulders like he was hugging me.

i still don’t know what to make of this, but would like to think it’s him ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

@Captaingizmo what a lovely / sad story.
sending you a huge hug as I can feel the pain of the loss and the grieving of what could have been but will never be in this time and space at least. 🥰💐❤️

Maybe you guys have a soul contract where you love each other deeply but were not destined to be together in this life time? Comforting to think that somehow in another life you are together?

Not sure what to believe or not but the thought of a guardian angel that cares about me on the other side would make me feel better. ❤️‍🩹

Who knows what real and what’s not but they say we create our own reality?

I understand what you are saying. My nan was my life when I was young and she died when I was 4. I've never heard anything from her. I used to wonder why, if she still existed, wouldn't she get in touch with me?
Since my mum died I have spent hundreds (I know. :( ) on supposed psychic mediums on Etsy. They were all rubbish. Then I thought I'd give it one last go, and found a lady that was quite expensive, so I was expecting a lot! lol And she had good reviews. Well, she came through. I know I got a message about my mum because of the way our relationship was talked about. I just know it was her and keep listening to the recording.
(I also did a pet one and whilst most of it was right, she was wrong on the health of the animal.)
If anybody wants her shop name just ask. I don't know if we are allowed to do that on this site?

Scientists cannot yet comprehend how the world works at its very core, think black holes etc. so in my my mind, it's entirely possible, anything is possible. Humans are not omniscient so we can't rule it out.

Thank you. I Hope so too. I’ve never met someone I clicked so much with and thought I’d settle down with like him. Our last conversation was even about whether we wanted children.

funnily enough I had reiki from same lady on new year Eve and she said we will meet in the next life. She asked if my dreams of him had stopped, which they have done now. Not had one for months. I honestly never used to believe in this type of stuff, was always very logical but I can’t work out how she knew this stuff unless she has some kind of gifts.

I had a missed call from my mum not long after she died. Her phone had been returned to factory settings and given to her friend, so my number wouldn’t have been in it any more.

Take comfort in your visit. I’m sorry for your loss.