Spooky thread alert

[Youngmewouldsaywhat]

I am a grown up woman and my mother passed away recently.
I was very very sick last week and feeling a bit sorry for myself as thinking nobody really cares if I am not well apart from DH who’s been fantastic. In laws are not very demonstrative but to be fair don’t expect anyone to look after them either and when sick they tend to disappear. My own siblings tend to contact me when they need something but not very good if I need the support.

Anyways I survived and I am getting better every day. Now the spooky bit.

i went for a nap this afternoon as I felt exhausted and then I woke up with a bolt as I had something planned. I overslept so I sat up right quickly and opened and closed my eyes in the room that was dark but not too dark as it was 4 pm. Oh well I swear I saw my mum sitting up in bed all bathed in purple light. It was her alive and chatting like keeping me company.
I am sure it was not a dream as I was dreaming something totally different (I remember the dream) and she wasn’t in the dream. She was more like casually sitting up in the bed next to me and looking like her usual self I remember before she passed away. This didn’t scare me but made me feel like she was next to me saying look I am still here.

what is my AIBU?

AIBU - I imagined this and deceased relatives don’t come back to see us
AINBU - there’s still some conscience of deceased ones floating around and I just happened to capture some

I am puzzled tbh as it’s never happened to me. Maybe I am experiencing delirium 😜 but I am not that sick anymore just very very fatigued.

and since I am in bed not well… I would love to hear your spooky stories if you have any.

if you don’t believe please be kind…and let’s keep an open mind. It’s really nice to think that my mum was there today!

My biological father died earlier this year. We were estranged and hadn't spoken for almost a year before he died.

A couple of weeks before he died I started smelling his tobacco around the place. The day he died I saw him in the front garden, and the day after he was there again, just briefly.

I didn't know he had died until 4 days after...I received a letter through the post from his sister.

Think he may have come to say goodbye.

I was cutting the grass ( huge area, ride on mower I was still a bit of a learner on) so as concentrating hard. Saw DH leaning casually against a tree watching me, this was about a year after he died. He was there and gone in a second but very clear.
Years later after I had to have my beloved cat pts I felt him land on my bed, exactly the jump he’d do from the window sill onto the bed.

I never know what to make of this. A few weeks after my dad died, I was upstairs in my house (lived alone), middle of the morning, and I heard my dad shout my name as if he was at the bottom of the stairs. He always said my name in a very unusual way - differently to everyone else with the emphasis on the first syllable. I didn't question it, it was so normal, like he hadn't died and he was there calling me to get me to take something downstairs for him when I went down. I just went to the top of the stairs to see what he wanted and expected to see him. He wasn't there and I remembered why. I went downstairs and looked in the rooms. Of course he wasn't there. But I definitely heard him. It wasn't unclear, it was very clear, there was no radio or tv on. I can't explain it.

@LuluBlakey1 I know what you mean.
I heard a recently passed relative call my name loudly and clearly as though they had just walked in the door. I was caught off guard. Ran to the door all exited forgetting they had passed and nobody was there. I was so baffled. I was going to sleep and thinking about her. The last thing I did was stroke her face and kiss her forehead but accidentally kissed her eyebrow. As I was falling asleep I said I love you and miss you and I felt someone stroke my eyebrow and my face went warm. My mum and I have smelled a strong perfume in the car at the same time whilst talking about a deceased relative. I have a lot of vivid colourful dreams about relatives who have passed. They always have a message for me to pass on.

This is SO long - sorry!
I had a friend in her 40s who had bowel cancer and had been receiving treatment for 7/8 months. By the end of this we weren’t in contact as she and DH had hunkered down while she had treatment, but gave very positive updates about the Drs they were working with etc….
I had no idea how she was doing and found myself wondering if I should send her another card or if she might feel up to going out to a garden centre (something she said she wanted to do).

Anyway, it was late, so I thought I’d sort that out in the morning and in the meantime, I was learning a piece on my piano - I’m rubbish at reading music so it was completely absorbing. I’d been doing this and concentrating hard for at least half an hour.
Suddenly, and it feels so weird saying this, I sat bolt upright and all I can really describe it as is as if I was having some kind of vision in my mind. Everything was blue - very, very vivid mid-blue - and I had a view as if I was her in a room, pulling a kind of extendable/ accordioned (?!) breathing tube out and then everything went dark. I could see her standing facing either a tall wall or curtain with a gap in it (almost like a gap in a stage curtain ) and heard her, in her Yorkshire accent, say ‘shit! Oh no, no, no!’ And pause to look back because she knew she was leaving her DC.
She then sounded very sad and said ‘Right. Oh, okay, then’ as if someone had explained something to her and she slowly walked through the gap.

I seemed to ‘come to’ and was looking at my music book. I thought, no, this can’t be…this is ridiculous, I’ve never had this before, it’s just me probably slipping into a daydream. But it was SO. vivid it completely scared me - more that I had completely zoned out while doing something. Obviously I thought it would be an impossible coincidence if she had just died.

The next two days I didn’t hear anything, so presumed this was just a weird occurrence and I must have been suggestible in some way because I had been thinking about her.
But I then received a call from her DH explaining that she had passed away two days previously and he had been so distraught, he was only just calling around friends now.
The other weird thing is that I’ve never been in a hospital setting and seen the particular tubes that I saw in the ‘vision’. I always saw her with thin nasal oxygen tubes, but when I saw a photo of her on her last day, everything was as I saw it - the same tubes, everything.

I have a similar story I have never actually told anyone.

A few weeks after my mum died I was drying my hair upside down and I very clearly heard my mum shout my name. Nothing since.

But, on the day of her funeral, whilst travelling to the crematorium,I saw a hare at the side of the road. Just sat there. Next to a fairly busy single carriage way A road. It was near a field but still. Was her favourite animal.

My DM died in March this year. I've been incredibly down and teary ever since, understandable. I just wanted Christmas to pass. Went through the motions for my DS and he's a very happy boy with his presents, so all good there.

Tonight I saw a very clear white orb to the left of my vision. I've been sitting at the computer, like I normally do. It made me jump as it came down and twirled before disappearing. Can't help feeling like it was my DM sending a message to keep going. Anyway, it made me cry.

@Andthereyougo - omg, I've had this so many times (lots of pets over the years) and I always feel like they've come back to snuggle up, show their love. Oddly it never scares me although a thud on the bed should do.

We don’t fully understand it - we don’t know what happens after death but YANBU OP. It’s hugely comforting in my humble opinion.

My wonderful Dad died from cancer a few years ago. He was receiving palliative care at home. I was staying there to be with him and my stepmother. I had a dream whilst there that I was at home in my house and suddenly saw my Dad in the lounge. When I asked what he was doing there, he held his arms out, smiled and said “I’ve come to say goodbye” before giving me a big hug.
The next day my Dad lost consciousness and never recovered, apart from calling out for his mum on one occasion.
I believe this dream was Dad saying goodbye to me and after he died I found it hugely comforting. 💐

There’s a bit in the book A Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Night Time where the ND protagonist says that (and I paraphrase) once upon a time people thought rainbows were mystical, because they didn’t have the science to understand them, and that maybe one day we’ll view ghosts like this. I take a lot of comfort from that perspective.

I've never believed in ghosts and have always believed that there's an explanation for odd things that happen to people. But today, something happened that I just can't explain.

I live on my own, and yesterday I had to have my lovely dog put to sleep quite suddenly. This morning I got ready for work. I was about to leave the bedroom to go downstairs and leave the house, I noticed the duvet was crumpled from where I'd sat on it. So I straightened the duvet, smoothed it all out, and left the bedroom to head out to work. When I got home later on, I went upstairs to get changed and as soon as I walked into the bedroom, I noticed that the duvet was all crumpled and flattened near the top by the pillows. It was exactly where my dog used to sleep on my bed when I was at work. Also, the exact size/shape of her. It was as if she'd been lying on the bed and then got down. I know I fully smoothed out the duvet. I know the bed wasn't left like that. No one else has a key to my house. I've checked all the access doors and everything was locked up.

I just cannot explain it rationally. It's so weird and has really done my head in.

@SedentaryCat I read somewhere that when we die all the relationships that we had that didn’t work out take a total different dimension. I mean it’s like we are all playing a part in this world but when we die we all go back to making peace with everyone we wronged. It was all just a play…

I know this might be triggering for some people and I don’t want to diminish the pain some of our deceased inflicted on the people they leave behind … but by and large it’s a release for those staying behind to make peace with events by forgiving and moving on from painful experiences caused by people who are no longer in this world

@gano that would freak me out but then I would find it comforting.

i have heard of people still feeling deceased pets on the bed at night or even my grandma used to say that when grandad died she still felt he was lying next to her.

for some reasons it reminded me of prople still feeling a limb even after it’s been amputated. Like the mind tricks you into thinking that piece of you it’s still there ?

@LemonLimeDivine what a beautiful thought that he was saying goodbye ❤️

My brother in law died this year, relatively young.

On the day before his birthday (the first since he died) a robin flew into his and my sister’s house, and on the day after, a robin flew into his sister’s house.
The end of November so not a part of the year when the doors are open for a second longer than they need to be

@TheSilentSister big hug to you … nobody prepares you for how you are going to feel afterwards . First birthday … first Christmas etc etc are worst. Totally felt it. 💐❤️
The more I read on this thread the more I believe These signs are there to comfort us.

@Heyhoherewegoagain I saw and heard a robin today!! So out of season.
One of my close friends always sees a Tobin around the anniversary of her dear dad’s death and she thinks the same and talks to him.
Sending a hug

@Youngmewouldsaywhat thanks for the hug, and many more to you!
I think if you’re open to signs you’ll get them, usually when you don’t expect them. My dh is totally cynical, so I don’t speak to him about any of it, but I just think if it brings you comfort, then you grab it.
Hope you’re feeling less poorly soon

Beautiful, beautiful posts. Appreciated.

I had almost exactly the same dream just after my dad died. ❤️

@merryandbrightdelight what a comfort to think that your grandparents are still somewhat living the same life in a parallel world and sometimes the worlds collide!

I heard the higher the consciousness and willingness to see the signs… the higher the probability of people experiencing these type of phenomena 🙏🏻❤️

@Bigcoatweather that would really spook me up! You must have had a very strong link with your friend. How can we logically explain these type of events… the more I read the more I believe!

Thank you everyone for sharing. Parents calling out names also seems quite common.

I am sure there is a book on these type of events that was written by a nurse doing palliative care but now the title escapes me

A few months after my mum died I was lying bed after the alarm went off thinking about getting up. I must have dropped off to sleep again (which I never do - literally the only time this has happened) and I found myself on a hillside and my mum, probably in her 40s (she died in her 80s) walked towards me and enveloped me in a big hug. Her voice boomed so loudly in my ear 'i still love you Wren and I'm so proud of everything you've turned out to be'. I heard it as if she was yelling in my ear and I woke with a start (and quickly wrote it down!!) I would love to believe it was a message from my mum, but even if it wasn't a 'visitation' I know it was a message - my brain remembering how she loved me and replaying it. A tribute to her that her love is so deeply embedded within my subconscious, I bet she would have said it if she could (I had not long since completed my first degree as a very mature student).

Another time was quite lovely and spooky. We adopted her cat after she died (Daisy) and on the first anniversary of her death me and my son were singing Daisy Daisy to her and stroking her when a thank you card (from a friend) and a white feather plopped off the noticeboard and landed at our feet, scaring the life out of us!! That was the one and only time anything has fallen off the noticeboard. It's all a bit silly but .. ah well. It's a comfort xx

When I was little I used to have a conversation with an older lady. DM is convinced it was her late mother, who she loved and misses dearly. When she asked me about it, I would only say it was an old lady I was talking to.

I’m sorry your mum has passed and I hope you found it comforting- whatever the experience was. 💐Glad you feel better.

I nursed my mum until the end then moved house 8 weeks after she passed. One afternoon I was having a nap and woke with a start to hear her calling out for me. I got up quickly and went looking for her then realised she had never been inside that house.