Ds has moved back home after a rough couple of years.
We've welcomed him back into our home but feel he shouldn't be an inconvenience to us.
Examples are...
He parks right outside our house where we used to park so we have to find somewhere else to park or drive home hoping he's not home yet so we can park there.
He sits in the chair I like to sit in so I am always hoping he's not in it so I can sit there.
He sits in the lounge all evening until bedtime so we don't have any privacy to chat without him joining in and is always listening to our conversations, piping up with "who was that?" "When was this" "what was that" when we are talking, he also moves around the house silently, so often we'll be in the kitchen having a conversation and suddenly look up and he's crept in and heard all that, the lounge is off the kitchen so he can hear everything.
I just think if I moved back in with my parents I'd want to cause them as little inconvenience as possible, his attitude is he pays his road tax so can park where he wants and if the space is free he'll take it, which I agree but if we hadn't let him come back to live in our house we would be able to park there, sit where we want and have a conversation.
I'm really struggling to make this work, I feel like he never goes out, he's always there and it's a huge disruption us.
On the other hand he has nowhere else to go right now so I need to make it work before resentment builds and we end up falling out.
He also has ADHD and a lot of energy and I find it too much and just need some piece of an evening, I work long hours and get home tired so tend to unwind on my phone or watch TV and he will constantly ask why is everyone so quiet? What's up everyone? Nobody talking?
I'm finding his high energy quite draining as an introvert.