AIBU for not helping out with my friends kids

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'm on maternity leave with a 7 month old. It's pretty intense and I really value my time alone which is not often as my husband works a lot.

I met my friends for lunch recently. One brought her twins (11 months) and the other her one year old. My friend with the twins took a limited time off when the babies were born and they are been minded by a nanny week days.

My friend with the twins upon arrival told me (not asked) that I would be "helping her with the twins" i.e. feeding them their solids/purees. I have no problem in playing with them etc but I would never expect anyone else to feed my kids and brushed it off saying I was hoping to enjoy my lunch. My other friend interjected to say I should enjoy my free time.

AIBU for not helping?

When people want to make the standard social etiquette that it's wrong to touch/hold/kiss/coo over babies, they can't expect help later on.

Family/friends touching, holding, cooing over my babies is fine. Kissing isn’t but that’s not because I’m being precious. It’s because there is a risk of passing on unnecessary germs or viruses such as cold sores. The cold sore virus can be fatal in babies and that risk is not worth the potential upset of an adult not being allowed to kiss my baby.

Even in spite of all that, I never demand help from anyone for my children. I will ask politely but it’s never an assumption.

She is working FT and has 1yo twins. You are on maternity leave with one child. You frankly sound jealous of her

I can assure you I am not jealous of her. My post was to highlight that we have very different channels of support

If you read on beyond that comma in my sentence I think you'll find out why.

Nah, still not seeing it.

They are 11 months old , why can't they feed themselves . Surely by 11 months she's learnt how to feed her own twins

I think you're overly sensitive. The back ground is more the big issue here. I'd say she's a stressed mam with 2 babies and saw her friends free arms and thought you'll be helping me today.
To be honest if my friend said that I'd have said throw the good one to me and mines a cappuccino!