To stay home tomorrow and not visit in laws

[Whenthebirdssing]

Plan tomorrow is very early start. Travelling for five hour to in-laws with DH and DC. I no longer want to go because…

1. I’m getting my period and I’ve got gynaecology and digestive issues that mean I’ll have severe cramps, feel sick and faint, have loose stools and feel miserable and paranoid. IM peri meno.
2. after a lovely day I just got home from dropping family home and DH had a go at me and I don’t want to be in his company. It’s stressful.
3. I’m exhausted and could really use the two days to be by myself.

But DC will be gutted. Guilt is overwhelming. In-laws will expect me to present as fine. There will be no nurturing. I could be cheeky and ask to have a bath (would be so good for me’ but I know I’ll be judged as a princess and demanding.

would it BU to stay home alone (bloody bliss!)

You are not well

No lengthy explanations needed

No "I could go if I really had to and would be allowed a Bath"

No, you can't go as you are not well. It is such a shame.

Your DH can surely manage to parent a 9 a d 13yr old for 2 days

They go without you

Being married does not mean you have to do every single thing together always and always anyway, you know

First reason is more than valid to opt out.

No other reason is necessary. But second reason would definately make me opt out .

Have a lovely relaxing day at home.

Mums/single parents do it all the time. I'm sure he'l be fine.

100% this.

And I just realised I was late to the thread!

I hope you're feeling better today OP. But just for future events that you cant make it to because of your health, just explain it to the children.

Most kids have far more empathy than a lot of adults these days. They would understand. And it's good for them to know some of the symptoms you have to deal with so they can understand too.