Present pics on social media

[Bramleyyapple]

feeling disheartened at social media pictures people I know are uploading. Hundreds of presents wrapped for their babies that are under 1 years old. I haven’t been able to buy mine that many. Aibu to feel disheartened and not good enough

Other people's extravagance isn't a reflection on you, OP. What does a baby need with heaps of useless presents?

Feel superior that you haven’t filled your house with tat. No baby needs hundreds of presents, they need one or two people who love them very much.

100% agree with @Velvetbee. also, at risk of sounding like a massive snob, there's not much tackier than photos on social media of piles of presents.

They do it every year so I just expect to see it at this point, doesn't really bother me people have different ways of doing Christmas and different things they value about Christmas I just ignore it

You should feel the opposite. People who post that crap are embarrassing. Babies don't need anything. Just enjoy your time with your kid(s).

One or two presents is perfect xxx

People that upload these pics are honestly pathetic and desperate for likes and validation. That being said, I would consider getting off social media completely, but if that's too much for you then at least don't look at it over Christmas. No point getting upset over how other people are living their lives! Enjoy your family and forget theirs.

They just do it to show off. I’ve learned over the years that truly happy and secure people don’t post braggy things on social media.

I think it’s really crass and shows no consideration or thought for how other people feel.

It’s ridiculous OP, you don’t need to feel disheartened at all.
I don’t know why people post these kinds of photos.

And please don’t feel like you aren’t good enough over presents. You are everything to your child.

I had a few hard years when ds was small. I felt bad when his presents were a few books and little bits from the chalet shop. He never cared. He’s an adult now and only remembers those christmases with fondness.

Charity shop, even.

Social media is a joke and a lie. Some people have probably wrapped old toys or empty boxes to make it look nice under the tree! Don’t believe everything you see on SM.

I’ve got one present for each of my kids and they have received a few more from others. Christmas should be about so much more than just presents and I hope my children grow up to know that.

youre doing great! Happy Christmas!

Crass

Not a sneery thread @YoongiMarryMe it’s just when it’s people I know who have babies near or the same age as mine it does make me feel bad when they are taking photos of their living room and sofas absolutely filled with presents

I always just bought my kids one or two "main" gifts. They have never had a massive pile from me for Christmas or their birthdays. When they were younger I would wrap up bits like a box of chocolates, a new toothbrush, Primark PJs, a pack of hair ties, etc but never more than two actual gifts.

So many more people give them gifts and we've always had way more "stuff" than we need or have space for.

They're 17 and 20 now and neither of them has ever complained or expressed feeling let down by their lack of wrapped tat.

It really wouldn't surprise me if some people had wrapped empty boxes to make it look loads, people just want to brag these days.

Anyone can wrap a load of tat and post it, a child is much better off with just a few things they would enjoy.

@Bramleyyapple completely agree with @Ifancythegrinch . Children that small do not need all those presents. Let's face it, they've got no idea what Xmas is at all. I've got a 15mo and he's got 5-6 presents of me and DH and another 4-5 off family. And I just know thats probably going to overwhelm him because they still have no understanding really. I'd start ignoring SM if I were you, it's fake and mostly made up anyway. Enjoy what you have, not pine for what you think you want

My baby is 8 months and I've bought her 1 present. She doesn't need anything and she doesn't have a clue what's going on. She will also get some from friends and family. I did feel a bit guilty when my mum helpfully said I was tight 😂 But I mostly feel proud of myself for not getting sucked into pointless consumerism. Your baby just wants your attention and love, she doesn't need any stuff

No one will care come Boxing Day, including the under 1s with stacks of presents. Enjoy your day with what you have. It’s one day.

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@Bramleyyapple

You haven't been able to buy your baby 'that many', so they gave some, which is more that a lot of other babies will have this year.

youre better off buying a couple of safe, quality presents than a mound of cheaper things.

who knows if what's in the presents, is quality, 'knock off' or even empty boxes?!?! But it doesn't matter they won't understand it all anyway. Not even the next Christmas!

just try to ignore the Facebook posts

i don't 'do' social media. It's fake nonsense.

merry Christmas!!

No, you've done the right thing. I often find those that post pictures of all their presents on social media aren't actually very happy and are over compensating for something in their life.
Is your baby fed, clothed, washed and loved? That's literally all they need. Not loads of presents wrapped up under the tree.

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