Present pics on social media

[Bramleyyapple]

feeling disheartened at social media pictures people I know are uploading. Hundreds of presents wrapped for their babies that are under 1 years old. I haven’t been able to buy mine that many. Aibu to feel disheartened and not good enough

This is honestly baffling on so many levels.

I never seem to have enough time to do the basics coming up to Christmas never mind wrapping fake pressies !

Nowt so queer as folk.

My son, in the eyes of others, gets a good heap for Christmas. Not just from us but from all our family. He's 12 now and will thing I have never and will never go is upload pictures to social media of them. It's just a bit gross and at the end of the day, I don't expect anyone else to care.

Those people are just common and over compensating. It's never about the children, it's always about them.

Don't street honestly l. My nephew when he was two had almost 12 presents due to number of aunts and uncles you bought him one present. He was so overwhelmed in opening them he got fired after half of them. He wasn't interested just ripped open paper and threw whatever it was around.

Even though noone had gone over the top I remember thinking wow this is too much

My toddler was causing a few problems trying to snatch my 4 year old's presents. I've blown up a balloon and he's now having a fantastic time. What more does a 1 year old really need?

Op, thinking of your post just now.
My kids have been up hours.
DS is still on present no2. Has no interest in anything else..
Except maybe that his sister has chocolate.
Please don't feel like it's the massive piles of gifts that make a difference.

Also worth noting, he wouldn't have cared for present 2 unless DH literally opened it for him

A baby doesn't need any presents, because they have no idea what is going on.
Lots of presents is wasteful and environmentally damaging.
Putting pictures on social media is tacky and.... well, lots of words I probably can't use on a public website.
Simple and restrained is definitely best, OP.

My son was 7 months old on his first Christmas (he’s no 9). I went crazy buying him a load of shite he didn’t need. He had about 30 presents. I ended up keeping 2 and donating the rest.

Babies don’t need presents.

For my son’s first Christmas he got a little blanket with lots of tags of different textures sewn on. He loved the used wrapping paper and twinkly lights.

he’s 18 now and while we could afford to go mad, we don’t. He still loves getting a stocking and the gifts he got - total value of everything would be less than £300. He’s so grateful and appreciative and it’s lovely.

my in laws used to due huge sacks of presents for the kids. It was generous but ultimately a waste of money. My parents did one present but have been doing monthly savings instead and he will now have thousands to put towards university.

Mine gets a stocking and one present under the tree from santa, plus 2 or 3 more from us parents. Then a couple more from grandparents and I struggle to cope with adding that much new crap into my house, when I see those photos of presents everywhere I just think those children must have really chaotic messy bedrooms.

Why are you so influenced by what other people do? The fact you have a present for your kid means you are more privileged than many. Put it into perspective instead of wanting to compete with SM. I have a 1yr and only got her 2 small gifts. I have an almost 8yo and he got many more. Why? Because my 1yo doesn't care and wouldn't even be bothered. My dd got books and other small things and 1 main present. I honestly could afford 100s too, but that would be stupid of me. Switch off SM if it's affecting you this much.

Who reported my post saying I thought the OP had posted this thread to be sneery at how other people did Christmas?! 😂 Cant believe MN deleted it! Ooo, look at me having an opinion.

I have my suspicions 👀

Made me laugh though, and distracted me from my DS monologuing for 20 minutes now! His dad is listening.

I scroll past those pics, just like the ones showing vast plates of roast dinners. One person in particular I know does it, and I just think it says an awful lot about them and not in a good way.

Just think how stupid they are and don't worry.

But no one is going to enjoy that many presents. Small children will be done at 2 and play with the box, which is great, imaginary play.
there aren’t possibly that many things that a child wants or needs- and just think of the nightmare when they have to tidy up.
is your child adequately closed, fed, and has a book and an empty box? Then you are doing just fine!

I could not agree more. I saw a quote on anther post on mumsnet I had never heard before. Money talks. Wealth whispers. It's so tacky and low class these bragging pictures. You never know what a person is going thru and those pictures could hurt someone. And I think if you go into all kinds of debt to show off you have issues.

People should be allowed to post what pictures they like. Just be happy for them instead of sad. So what of thats their idea of a good Xmas it isn't mine and why would I feel bad or sad it isn't the same.

If you are happy with your life and decisions than seeing what other people do shouldn't impact you.

Overall, if all I got from Christmas were a pair of socks and shampoo, I would still be happy. Yes, if it's gifts of money, it can go towards bills. If it's gifts like socks, slippers, etc., then they are helpful for day-to-day items. If it's gifts related to my hobbies, then all the better.

That said, for me, it's friends, family, and just being myself that make Christmas special. My semi-partner also contributes to the joy of the season. Yes, I can understand the perspectives of others' gifts, but to me, everyone is part of a system where each person receives different things. Unless we were all one size and received the same gifts, overall, it is what it is.

Present pics on social media is tacky! Money can’t buy class! Presents are nice but it’s not the most important part of Christmas - spending time together doing things you enjoy are. Kids are more likely to remember silly games and snuggling up watching films in years to come than the gifts they got.

All baby needs are a couple of presents. I actually feel depressed about people buying literal piles of stuff, it's just too much. They label it as love but really will every single toy on that huge pile be appreciated? Most will end up in landfill, and I know everyone complains about kids not using most of the stuff they get, but every year they go for the same extravagant pile of presents?