Present pics on social media

[Bramleyyapple]

feeling disheartened at social media pictures people I know are uploading. Hundreds of presents wrapped for their babies that are under 1 years old. I haven’t been able to buy mine that many. Aibu to feel disheartened and not good enough

It's mostly trash off temu that the kid won't touch and will clutter their house. Don't sweat it. Grass is greenest where it's watered.

It's quite easy to wrap a load of old tat for a photo, especially nowadays with those cheap wrapping bags from Amazon

FWIW @Bramleyyapple I actually felt physically sick putting the presents under the tree (hadn’t put them under until last night to remove temptation). We didn’t actually purchase very much but family have gone totally overboard. I wouldn’t worry about it, everyone has a normal amount for them. I think we have faaaaar too much but others would think it was lean.

A friend of mine said she knew someone who saved boxes through the year to wrap and make their piles of prrsents look bigger for Instagram.

A baby just needs love and cuddles.

People who do that are doing it to show off. They think invoking jealousy will make themselves feel better. Truth is they look ridiculous and no one is impressed. Try to picture their credit card bills!

Give me a picture of a dog in a Santa hat any day.

No baby needs hundreds of presents. I think you should congratulate yourself because you're not being wasteful and silly. Just because someone has bought hundreds of presents, doesn't make them a great parent.

I never post anything like this. So many out there who can't do it for their own children. Enjoy your Christmas and stay off social media!

Absolutely this, I think it’s so tacky. I actually stopped buying gifts for a family because of this - they were friends who were gradually becoming more distanced anyway, then I sent Christmas gifts one year with no response. The only way I knew they’d arrived on time was when I saw them in a photo of a present pile with the caption ‘my little ones are just soooooo spoilt.’ No thank you came after Christmas and I haven’t sent gifts since.

Stop looking and comparing.
Some people get little throughout the year and have loads at Christmas/Birthday, whereas others get what they need at the time and so smaller piles at Christmas/Birthday. Some people also wrap up loads of useless tat.

If you want your child to truly enjoy Christmas Day, then it won't be toys that make them happy. They're too young to 'want' anything they can't see.

Does your baby enjoy bathtime? Maybe give them a nice long bath with plenty of playtime.

Is he/she walking? My toddler loves leaving the house for a walk - how about going for a walk around the block?

Is there a TV programme you enjoy watching together - e.g. Show Me, Show Me or Tik Tak on Cbeebies? You could sit and watch together. Join in the dancing and singing.

Your child will enjoy doing things with you, not playing with plastic tat.

Don’t look!! You’re in charge - unfollow these people

And yet the fridge thread on here is full of photos of bulging fridges full of wine and food and anyone objecting is called every name under the sun.

The people saying that some of them are probably empty boxes just wrapped up for effect? Is that really a thing? My mind is blown! How sad and tragic is someone's life that they have to do this?

I've seen a few on Facebook this morning but I've just enjoyed a quick eye roll and carried on.

That's just utterly bonkers levels of showing off.

We wrapped random things up for our two year old as she likes pulling the paper off, her favourite to unwrap yesterday was a bag of dog treats.

I think we all need to realise that we all do things differently, and that's ok.

(My fridge is very full but it's because it's a small 'fill the gap' scenario until we get a better normal sized new fridge freezer again).

There's no need to piss on someone else's chips.

OP just accept everyone does christmas differently and enjoy your day.

I got my under 1 6 presents, all of which came off vinted, were off marketplace or were hand me downs from friends. She has opened one present and is currently playing with the remote control 😂
The fact you’re even feeling this way is proof of what a great mother you are. Try to remember though that the magic of Christmas is not in the gifts. It’s in being together, spending all day appreciating each other, eating together etc. Have a lovely day

This 100% this. Leave people be

Just keep off SM for a few days, for all you know they could be wrapping up empty boxes. I genuinely can't picture in my mind how big or small my present pile was as a child, I can remember the big pile of tiny selection boxes though as my Gran had lots of friends who all seemed to buy me one, never met these generous ladies but was in awe of the sweet pile stacked up, the cheapest value items are the ones that stick in my mind!

I'd rather have a well thought out treat every week than 50 on one day :)

The worst Christmas I ever had was (not coincidentally) the lady big family Christmas I ever attended and the reason was a present mountain. My sisters mother in law had bought my sisters family so many presents that the whole present opening saga took over four hours. Everyone was so bored and fed up by the end of it, even my sisters children and the MIL was looking very embarrassed. Anyway so too many presents also takes the fun away, far rather have less personally 😁

I always feel that there's something wrong with people who post those photos on SM. They're insecure I think. It's embarrassing to see photos of a mountain of presents when you know they're not even able to afford it. That makes me sad.

Aw, the most important gift you can give your child is a loving home, they won't remember what presents they got on their first birthday.

Anyway, I suspect most of the wrapped boxes are empty!

My children are adults now and have their own children so a few years of Christmas presents 😂

we have a budget, I spend £150 per person, that really adds up ! But we are lucky we can afford more if we wanted but I feel that’s more than enough. They have nice things under the tree and seem happy. I second guess my actions when their ILs might spend more but then I remember we’ve financially helped them all year, money to pay their bills, food, towards expenses they are struggling with, money the other parents don’t give. Not just money, but baby sitting, cleaning, moral support everything being a parent is about.

so what I’m trying to say is, it’s not what’s under the tree on Christmas morning, it’s the love and support you give all year that counts.