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To pee in the night

57 replies

Fudgeycake · 25/12/2023 01:12

Staying at the inlaws and I'm excruciatingly embarrassed to pee during the night. The bathroom is right next to their room, on the other side of where their bed is. I don't want to wake anyone up. Shall I pee downstairs and also risk waking people and have them wondering what the hell I'm doing down there at 1am?

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brainworms · 25/12/2023 01:13

Seriously?!

Just pick a loo and use it. 🙄

Ablondiebutagoody · 25/12/2023 01:14

Nobody in the house cares that you are going for a pee!!! I would go with the closest for your own convenience

meganorks · 25/12/2023 01:14

Just go for a wee! Maybe put paper in the loo to avoid loud pee noises. Don't go downstairs. That is much weirder and then they will assume you have gone for a shit!

Babla · 25/12/2023 01:15

Just do it

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Fudgeycake · 25/12/2023 01:16

Growing up, if I used the loo in the night my dad would often wake up in a panic and come storming out of my parents' room asking what the hell I'm doing up in the night! I'm in my 30s and still paranoid!

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Fudgeycake · 25/12/2023 01:19

Haha @meganorks yes that's what I was also thinking about going downstairs. OK will use toilet paper. It's more the flush I'm worried about rather than pee noise

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 25/12/2023 01:25

Pee as loud as you like

Then bellow “MERRY PISSMAS!” at the top of your voice, fart then burp.

Then off you pop back to sleep for some sweet, sweet Z’s

Catsmere · 25/12/2023 01:34

So your father was an arsehole who had no idea how female bladders work. Doesn't mean your inlaws are like that, does it? Have you stayed with them before? They may well need to go to the loo at night too, like most of us do as we age.

theduchessofspork · 25/12/2023 01:36

meganorks · 25/12/2023 01:14

Just go for a wee! Maybe put paper in the loo to avoid loud pee noises. Don't go downstairs. That is much weirder and then they will assume you have gone for a shit!

I think they just assume she’s trying not to disturb them (and who cares either way).

But unless they have paper thin walls I wouldn’t worry about it.

FreshStart90 · 25/12/2023 01:38

Wee quietly with toilet paper placed in the loo first; if it was me I’d probably go downstairs as surely the noise from the flush downstairs won’t be as loud to everyone sleeping?

Herbiebanannas · 25/12/2023 01:38

This is where men have the advantage of being able to go in the sink, and then just run the tap gently to avoid the flush noise.

sprigatito · 25/12/2023 01:39

Did you grow up in a home where you weren't allowed to use the toilet at night? I did, and I still feel a bit nervous doing it in case someone bellows at me...and I'm 46

You can't lie there busting for a wee, so you have to bite the bullet and go. You know if anyone did actually complain they would be insane!

mrsfollowill · 25/12/2023 01:44

I swear I get up at least once a night- there is no way I could not! Just go to the nearest loo and then flop back into bed, I normally (at home) still have my eyes shut and leave the light off!

Fivepigeons · 25/12/2023 02:30

It's not normal to get angry or even annoyed at people going to the toilet in the night. That is not how the majority of people behave. What your dad did was abusive. Just go to the toilet and rest assured majority of people out there will not behave like your dad.. and the few who do are unhinged

Bluelightbaby · 25/12/2023 05:47

I’d have a pee and then not flush tbh

Eminybob · 25/12/2023 06:06

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 25/12/2023 01:25

Pee as loud as you like

Then bellow “MERRY PISSMAS!” at the top of your voice, fart then burp.

Then off you pop back to sleep for some sweet, sweet Z’s

I may have woken the house up laughing at this 🤣

StragglyTinsel · 25/12/2023 06:06

Just pee. Don’t overthink it!

CorporaINobbyNobbs · 25/12/2023 06:13

This is where men have the advantage of being able to go in the sink

😞 do men really do this???

BCBird · 25/12/2023 06:13

When I stay with others or they stay with me, there is a rule we don't flush in night. Putting toilet paper down will reduce noise. Bathroom.is right nxt to.my room. Reaction of ur dad is odd

Mumoftwo1312 · 25/12/2023 06:15

If you were my guest, I'd be very happy for you to wee as often as you like in the night but fgs please flush

Edit - this is response to a pp suggesting don't flush

Mumoftwo1312 · 25/12/2023 06:16

And yeah I'm appalled that some people grew up not being allowed to wee in the night? That really is abusive and unhealthy, that could give kids UTIs

Astonishing · 25/12/2023 06:42

Eminybob · 25/12/2023 06:06

I may have woken the house up laughing at this 🤣

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Same, just woke the baby up I've been settling for 40 minutes, really tickled me.

Cyclistmumgrandma · 25/12/2023 07:03

When I stay at other people's houses I just ask before bed time if they prefer me to flush or not overnight. Problem solved.

Catsknowbest · 25/12/2023 07:12

Just put some loo roll in the toilet and do it! I've got my brother in law staying and the toilet is literally on the other side of the wall to his bed- and it's tough because I'm in peri menopause and need to see about 3 times a night!

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 25/12/2023 07:15

Herbiebanannas · 25/12/2023 01:38

This is where men have the advantage of being able to go in the sink, and then just run the tap gently to avoid the flush noise.

Um, no they don't. That's horrible, especially at someone else's house.