To think it's inconsiderate to do gender reveal on Christmas Day

[FestiveOstrich]

A distant relative of mine has announced they will be doing their gender reveal on Christmas Day. It's not their first child and they previously announced their engagement on Christmas Day too.

AIBU to think they should do it another day so Christmas remains about the whole family?

I'd just congratulate them and then put it out of my mind.

I've genuinely never cared if anyone else is having a boy or a girl- as in either one makes no difference to me.

YANBU

Gender reveals are bonkers and for narcissists. On Christmas Day is just rude!

If they were doing it at another couples engagement party/wedding I would agree, but they aren’t taking the spotlight away from anyone else at Christmas plus more family will be together so I don’t see the issue.

Just ignore it. Congratulate them later in the week. It really doesn’t have to even ripple your consciousness.

I think 'gender reveals' are dull and pointless (other than for the parents) at any time of year, but I don't think Christmas is worse than any other day. Will the relative be with you on Christmas Day? If so, just congratulate them and return to what you were doing. If it's online/text message/Whatsapp etc. simply ignore it.

Are you actually spending Christmas day with them? If not, how does it affect you?

It’s inconsiderate to do one any day. Awful thing to do. But particularly bad on Christmas, if they have any family or friends who haven’t had a straightforward journey to parenthood.

This ^^

Saved me typing it.

What are they expecting everyone else to do? Surely they just say ‘hey everyone, we’re having a girl/boy’ and everyone else says ‘ah, lovely!’ and carries on with their day?!

Any big ‘gender’ reveal is cringe and dull beyond belief. I couldn’t however care less if they did it tomorrow. Are you worried that Christmas will be offended?

Well she's unreasonable to announce her plans - why on earth would anyone care about their gender reveal?

But how is it inconsiderate to do it on Xmas day? I don't understand. They'll reveal it, you'll get a text or something, say "that's nice" and go about your day. How will it change anyone's Christmas?

I think gender reveals are gross, but I can't see why Christmas Day is any more inappropriate than any other day. How on earth do you police people to ensure that every interaction is about "the whole family"? Presumably it won't take more than a few minutes to perform whatever corny stunt they have planned?

If there is someone attending who would find it personally distressing, that would be a reason not to do it.

I’m sure Jesus won’t feel outshone 🤣
unless they’re doing it mid your dinner why do you care?

Maybe they'll carve the turkey and a load of pink balloons will fly out? 🤣🤣

I don't play those games.

I wouldn't watch or respond or go to it or whatever they expect.

Gender reveal is bollocks anyway.
Though I wouldn't be so impolite to say it to someone's face, I would be thinking:
"First, it's Sex not gender, second, fuck off." 😁

Merry Christmas - Grinchy.

What do you mean, so Christmas remains about the whole family? Is no one allowed to share news? A new baby is related to the whole family anyway.

I think gender reveals are nonsense and would roll my eyes. But I also don't understand your specific issue about it being done on Christmas Day.

You will.get loads of snippy, its sex not Gender reply,s
I think.people who do these are are really wrapped up.in themselves ,nobody other than the parents and maybe the Grandparents really cares .

Extreme

I feel neutral about gender reveals. I can’t get people who are really into them or really hate them. Some are silly but I can’t see it affecting the day. I’d just say congrats and move on with Christmas

I wouldn't care at all. Literary. Nobody cares about the sex of a baby apart from the parents and sometimes the grandparents. It's just a 'oh that's nice' and move on surely?

Just say congrats! It’s hardly like it’s going to take up the whole day. Everyone will say “oh lovely” then move on with their day…

Is this going to be one of those threads that runs and runs before the OP comes back to tell us how it affects them?

If it’s a distant relation I’m struggling to see how it impacts you? Just say congrats and move on.

How’s it relevant to you? Surely they can do what they want. You won’t be there.