To think it's inconsiderate to do gender reveal on Christmas Day

[FestiveOstrich]

A distant relative of mine has announced they will be doing their gender reveal on Christmas Day. It's not their first child and they previously announced their engagement on Christmas Day too.

AIBU to think they should do it another day so Christmas remains about the whole family?

surely that is a 2 minute conversation and the rest of the day is free for whatever you please .

It depends on who will be there for the Christmas Day, but it’s only Christmas. It’s not like it’s someone else’s occasion.

Gender reveals are spectacularly self indulgent whenever they are made. But if you don't have to be there in person, I don't think it really impacts you. Why would it dominate your day? Just respond to the message with "Oh how lovely, a little boy/girl" all the while thinking what attention seeking crap gender reveals are

Some people can’t cope when the attention isn’t on them.

Leave then too it and just cringe from afar.

It only impacts you if you let it. Say a polite congratulations and otherwise ignore it. If you're expected to attend it either in person or online just say you're busy. Which is what I'd do for a sex reveal at any time.

Gender reveals are massively naff no matter which day they’re on. More cringe that they want to do it on Christmas Day tbh. Afterwards, just say ok, now for dinner, and move on. No fuss, no foul.

I'm ancient so gender reveals are generally an enigma to me but if someone wants to do one I'd struggle to care too much. Actually I think it's less attention seeking than having a whole gender reveal party. Congratulations all round then back to Christmas.

I mean they aren’t for me, find them a bit strange but no harm done. What difference does it make to your Christmas, it will take 5 min if you day. Perhaps they see it as an ideal opportunity because all the family will be together?

Will anyone really care what the gender is ? A fleeting, congratulations/lovely and everyone moves on.

I’d only really care if another family member had miscarried or struggled to conceive or something. Otherwise why not Christmas Day? Family will all be together, seems like a good day to announce good news. Plus if you aren’t even there then surely it’s about 5 minutes maximum out of your Christmas Day while you watch online for the pink/blue smoke/cake/balloons etc and then politely say how lovely and then get on with your day!

(I do think a “gender reveal” is ridiculous and attention seeking, but each to their own)

I may be biased as we announced our pregnancy with DC1 on Christmas Day when we were with family! Everyone seemed pleased to hear about first grandchild on the way, but maybe they weren’t?!

What bothers you about it?

My thoughts exactly. Surely you just say "how lovely, congratulations" and then carry on with the day? Its not exactly going to dominate it

It's a couple of minutes of popping a balloon and waiting for pink or blue confetti to come, or whatever they have planned. Then get on with your day.
It doesn't seem much to get wound up about, unless they are expecting the Second coming of Christ 😉

In the grad scheme of things does it really matter?

Why do people think that anyone else cares what sex baby they are having?
Honestly I’d only have a passing interest if it was my own!

AIBU to think they should do it another day so Christmas remains about the whole family?

It still will, they’re just announcing while everyone is together which makes sense. Just say congrats, a few minutes of chat about it and the topics will likely change.

Them announcing (unless you’re going to add some massive backstory) is not going to effect things that much.

Can't you just be happy for them and congratulate them? We have this happening in my in law family as they are based abroad. It makes no difference to us whether it's a boy or a girl but it's just nice to share a bit of happy news and it takes literally two minutes.

Unless of course it's on mumsnet where no one cares about anything else. We've had a bit of a crap year and it's nice to have nice news.
There are some miserable people on here

Yet another American stupid thing.. why not just text/ ring everyone when they find out the scan?
My daughters did..
In my did we never knew until the baby was born.
Just say oh I'm glad then get on with your day.

I wouldn't mind, its not like it takes a whole day to say "its a boy" and for people to say congrats or pretend they care.
It's probably just a convienient time as all the family is already around and its just some news that they are excited to share. My family often shares good news at christmas as its the only time in the year we all get together to catch up- we spend a lot of the day chatting about peoples new jobs or upcoming weddings- it adds to the day, doesn't distract from it being christmas.

Wouldn't bother me. Sounds like a good time to make a happy family announcement.

I don't really see the point in gimmicky gender reveals though, although the pp's suggestion of pink or blue balloons flying out of the turkey was funny.

Maybe they think that revealing the gender of their child is a Christmas gift for all the family.

Why is it "nice news" though? Announcing a pregnancy is nice news. But it's not any nicer after you've done the gender reveal than it was the minute before the reveal - unless you actually wanted a particular sex and of course this should not be the case.

I’d be tempted to get a large banner made which you can unfurl at the time of the reveal stating in large letters “Nobody cares”.

Tbh it’s what Jesus would of wanted 😂😂

"First, it's Sex not gender, second, fuck off
Im nicking that as my standard response whenever anyone says gender! 🤣🤣🤣