To be slightly annoyed at nephews comment

[mrsaxos]

My DS who is in his early 20's is a similar age to his cousin. Recently DS commented on a social media post by his cousin which included a photo of said cousin smoking a cigarette, DS commented "don't smoke, you're so crazy" His cousin then commented back saying "Did your mum hack you".

I am very anti-smoking and I have to admit nephews comment just king of irked me a bit. Am I being unreasonable, DH who doesn't smoke as well thinks I am."

Pun intended? Whatever the case, v good 😊

Tbf the cousin’s reply was politer than what I’d get from my cousins if I posted something like that!

This. I hate smoking. Saw my mother suffer with emphysema. But it's absolutely none of my business if others smoke and I'd never comment on it. Your son shamed his cousin. His cousin shamed him right back. Rightly so

How utterly ridiculous.

Now vaping is commonplace kids are reverting to cigarettes, they've missed previous generations dying from smoking related illnesses. I'm impressed your son called him out on it.

This got to be a wind up!!

So your son made a judgemental comment, his cousin came back with a mildly bitchy, misogynistic retort, and now you’re ‘irked’ about the retort?

Maybe you should all step away from social media for a while.

A word of advice. Stay away from the younger generations Social media.
Especially family members.
Then build a bridge and get over it 😅

I'm filtering the replies.

Get a fucking grip.

YANBU. Smoking is disgusting and I wouldn't hesitate to tell a family member or friend so.

They're both in their 20s so old enough to make their own decisions and have their own arguments. If your DS had been 10 you might have had a point.

What are you so offended about?

Your DS tried telling his adult cousin what to do/not to do and so the cousin rightly sent a response saying he’s acting like a mum.

Is your DS offended or just you?
Because it sounds like DS and his cousin are playing around and you’re trying to make it into something it’s not.

It's not misogynistic, the Op is fiercely anti smoking and it's obviously rubbed off on the son.

It was just a joke/teasing

Nothing wrong with what your DS said (good for him for trying to discourage someone from smoking. But your nephew's comment wasn't awful either

For Christ sake.
It's Christmas eve😅 have you got nothing else to worry about
Sit down with a fag and a gin and unclench!

so what did you want him to say

youre right dear cousin im filthy and disgusting

get a grip

And I'd tell you where to stick your opinion.

🙄

Yabu

I can't work out why my previous post was deleted?

I said YANBU and essentially that Mumsnet is full of alcoholics and smokers and so most of the replies will reflect that? You only have to read a few threads talking about alcohol consumption and what people think is normal, to know this.

Stating facts is hardly offensive. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yabu, but good for your son. It is pretty dim to take up smoking nowadays and it does affect other people.