To only want one source of noise at a time?

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Probably small problem but this morning the TV is blaring and various toys of the kids are making the noises they do. Then DP starts Alexa playing loud Christmas songs. I really was getting a bit stressed with it - DP gets all grumpy and says we can surely play Christmas songs but that TV and toys (and kids) is too much!

Be too much for me too.
Can you take yourself out for a walk? Have a peaceful bath on your own?

I don’t think that will happen before 2025!

Did he object to you turning the TV off?

TV and music on at the same time would drive me insane. I find that sort of clashing noise really stressful! Fine to put Christmas songs on, but clearly nobody is paying attention to the TV if there are Christmas songs playing and the kids are playing with their noisy toys, so just turn the telly off.

I HATE this, it literally causes a physical reaction in me and I feel such anger almost immediately.

Turn off the tv, the cacophony would drive me nuts.

It was Alexa I turned off. No just grumbled a little bit

Not unreasonable, I feel totally on edge/stressed with kids tv sounds and DH listening to music (seems to happen a lot here) DH doesnt get it either.

Sounds like a nightmare. I sometimes get twitchy when people are talking & the TV’s on - all those noises together would have me switching the lot off or going elsewhere.

I am so in agreement with you. Multiple sources of sound really does my head in and like Keeva said, it almost causes a physical reaction in me. I'm getting agitated just thinking about it.

Same. Absolutely does my head in. DS has SN and has the tv up really loud at times. It makes me RAGE.

Even one source of noise is irritating, the situation you describe would have been totally overwhelming fo rme. When DH is out for the day I have the whole day in silence, I feel so much more relaxed and myself and contented, but it's hard to live that way. DH likes to have a radio or tv on in the rooms he moves between. If I'm staying in one of those rooms for any length of time I do turn it off, but it's particularly jarring when there are two different sources. I'll then sometimes find him in the loo on his phone. Ffs. Over the years we've learned to compromise. Long journey will have half the time in noise and half the time without, mornings where we have a lie in with tea/coffee and breakfast in bed is without the radio on.

I've got auditory processing issues and it honestly sends me into a meltdown when there are too many noises at once so you've got my sympathy.

Yanbu

I’m ND and simply cannot have too many noises going on at once.

I have noticed it seems to be generally men who need to fill the silence with noise but women crave the silence. I can only think it's because of two reasons. They aren't around children enough or they don't have their single train of thought continually being interrupted since most don't plan/think about life admin.

Both H and FIL have to put the TV on as soon as they wake up even if they don't return to that room for hours (or in FILs case he goes out to the shops, I mean...wtaf?). My DBs always have music on in the background, again they don't feel the need to be in the same room as the player. Just give me peace and quiet!!

I have ADHD. There are about 12 different soundtracks going on inside my head at any given moment and none of them have off switches. Welcome to my world.

Same.

This is me in my parents’ house. Kitchen radio on at deafening volume to an empty room, tv blaring in the living room, often without anyone watching it, another radio playing in the bedroom, plus my father’s CB radio squawking from somewhere. I’m neurotypical, don’t have any auditory processing issues, have a noisy child, and happily go to loud indoor gigs. I just find the multiple sources to which no one is listening unbearable.

Check out loop earplugs; total game changer!! Initially got the Quiet ones for husband’s snoring but now have the Engage ones for when I’m overstimulated during the day. x

How does that work with young children, seriously? I ignore them?

Yes!! I can't even handle music on with conversation. I have to turn it off. We have music on at home all the time so quite often it's on and off constantly if the kids talk to me. The way the ads are louder and blaring is horrible, I have to lower the volume until they are over. (Is that just a US thing? Our ads anywhere, on steaming even are 10x louder than the actual music or show/movie) I get very overwhelmed with multiple sources of noise. Outdoors it's not much of an issue when it's expected, like at a park or a concert. If my child screams at the playground I will make them lower their voice if it goes on for awhile. When other parents don't do that I feel like my head will explode. I'm very likely undiagnosed ND not sure if that is part of it.

That's why I don't use them. Also doesn't work with PTSD hyper vigilance.

I would get irritated by any one of those sounds alone. The whole world is too noisy.

Well on a day like this, their dad is there so they can go to him.

Why can't you go for a walk or a bath like others have said? He is there to deal with them.

I hate multi noises too - it's just rude to play sounds over a TV that someone is already sat watching.

Same. Bloody nightmare.