So I have this constant disagreement with my DH that children naturally prefer their mum and it has nothing to do with the parenting style.
A bit of background:
I have two DC (DC 3yo and DC 1yo) and with my DH we always split everything 50-50. I was never the type of mum that I wanted to breastfeed as I wanted the kids to sleep in longer stretches and I wanted my DH to do nightshifts too. We also split maternity/paternity leave to have each of us 6 months. So I would say we have pretty much spent equal time with each child and we are both very hands-on in every aspect of their lives. In terms of parenting style, I have to admit that my DH is a bit more the one that disciplines them and I am a bit "weaker" and more easily give in.
Now to the point, for the past 6 months, I have been on a part of my mat leave and I have to say lately I am very frustrated and my patience is very limited as I hardly spent an hour without any of the kids. I have done the odd dinner/drink with friends but still, I feel I am always with one if not both of the kids. And when I am with them they are glue to me, either mentioning mummy mummy every other word (the older one) or crawling towards me (the younger one)
My DH claims that I am not very good at disciplining them that's why I cannot ever leave them alone in the playroom to play and get a break. When my DH is alone with the kids, he can always leave the oldest one to play alone for like 30 min and maybe 10 min the younger one. But with me, it never works.
AIBU to think that the kids are glue to me cause I am the mum and they are naturally bonded to me rather than not good to discipline them?