My mother in Law and I have a very strained relationship she oversteps a lot of boundaries and it came to a huge argument. I keep a civil relationship for the sake of my partner and child. We previously asked that she does not do a Christmas Eve box for DC as this is a tradition we would like to do for him, she agreed but every year since has done a stocking with all the same items in it as a box would have. I have let this go as he gets his box from us and the stocking whenever we give it as she usually gives this to him a few days before Christmas, he is too young to remember so we can give it to him to open when we like. Last year she labelled the presents in her house that were from her as “from Santa” we reminded her that Santa only came to mum and dad’s house so those presents were from her. Anyway this year she handed him an envelope I thought it was a card so opened it with him at home, in it was a letter from Santa a tradition we have done every year for him. Am I being unreasonable to think this is overstepping the boundaries and it is time to let us live these magical moments? I text her after we opened it thanking her but reminding her anything from Santa comes from us and not her. I’m asking as I don’t want to create more arguments if I am in the wrong!
YABU-let her do Santa things
YANBU- you’re the parent you should have those moments