To be pissed off about this (and worried)

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Asked DH to make 5 month old a feed yesterday because I was sorting other things. We use a perfect prep which I know technically isn’t recommended by official guidance, but he made it up incorrectly, putting the powder into the bottle and then adding the hot shot and the rest. I told him it was incorrect, assuming it was a one off mistake if he hadn’t been concentrating and he shrugged and said ‘yeah I know, but can’t see what difference it makes.’

It’s starting to stress me a bit to be honest as dh is lovely but lazy. I can be lazy too but not with safety surely … or AIBU? And I’m guessing if the baby hasnt had any bad reaction then all is ok?

I wouldn't worry about it. You pointed out his mistake and now he knows how to make it correctly in future.
Your baby won't be harmed or become ill.
When I had my firstborn, I spent the first few months putting the formula in the bottle before the water, rather than the other way round.
No harm was done.
Put it out of your mind.

That's how I used the perfect prep. What way do you use it? 🤔

@Mercedes45 , you are supposed to do the hot shot first then add the powder, afaik anyway.

@Rickenbackergoodgrief if it had just been a mistake that would be different really, we all make mistakes but I’m annoyed he ‘knew’ it was wrong and just carried on because he was being lazy.

But what difference does it make? I always found that the powder would stick to the scoop because of the steam. Then you may not be getting the correct measurements because you are not starting the next scoop with a not very empty scoop, if that makes sense. Hot shot in on top of formula, shake vigoursly and then the rest. The machine is measuring the water so no problem there.

I’m not seeing the problem either

It makes a difference because formula isn’t sterile, and I don’t want my baby to be ill.

As long as powder and hot shot still mix well surely it's fine? They might even mix better this way.

Yes but the hot shot and formula still mix before adding remaining water so it should still sterilise it?

But the boiling water kills any bacteria present. The bottles themselves are sterlised. Are you saying that the formula has hit the sterlised bottle 1st rendering everything unsterilised? Uh, I can't be dealing with this nonsense, baby is asleep now, I'm going to join her

I’m not sure. I thought that adding the powder to the hot water killed any bugs but I suppose there is controversy over the perfect preps being hot enough anyway. Probably stressing over nothing then, which is good.

We sterilised bottles, boiled water then kept water room temp for no longer than 24 hours, added powder at feedign time and fed room temp - on advice from my HV, repeated next night etc.

Before any one whines I am stating what we did only

I don’t think it renders anything unsterilised. Just trying to do things reasonably correctly, and feeling a bit grumpy that DH (by his own admission) couldn’t be bothered to. But then as I say I suppose we can’t be bothered to make them up ‘correctly’ hence the use of then perfect prep.

It’s exactly the same mixture. The order doesn’t change that and it has zero impact on its sterility.

I suppose the point is I asked him to make one bottle and he decided it was too much work to do it ‘correctly’, and that did annoy me. In fairness though I don’t always do everything by the book but it’s just I feel at the moment everything is too much trouble for DH, so I end up doing everything anyway!

I've always put the powder in the bottle first then added the hotshot & baby has been fine. I thought that's how you were meant to use the pre machines.
If I'm making a bottle the with boiling water from the kettle, I add the powder to the water after.

Well, that’s reassuring @mfbx5sf3, thanks.

People do it different ways, I don’t think it makes much difference.

If it helps, over here in America, the American Academy of Pediatrics doesn’t say you even need to use boiling water. Tap water is fine.

https://publications.aap.org/neokit/white-paper-parent/23728/How-to-Prepare-and-Store-Powdered-Formula-CDC?autologincheck=redirected

Also food isn’t sterile and dumping boiling water on it doesn’t make it sterile??

I did it this way too

I always put the powder in first and then added the hot shot. I thought that’s how you were supposed to do it! I don’t think it would make a difference anyway.

It literally makes no difference, as long as the powder mixes with the hot water it sterilises it. I think it's recommended to add the powder second so you don't get any unmixed dry powder stuck in the bottom. But if he is mixing it properly then you're making a fuss over nothing.

It really makes no difference. Op, there are bigger hints to worry about, you'll make yourself ill worrying on this level!

I thought that adding the powder to the hot water killed any bugs

Instead of adding the powder to the hot water, he's adding the hot water to the powder, is that right? Surely that has the same effect? Either way you have hot water mixing with the powder.

Depends if he is shaking to mix in between, as it will mix better with the hot shot

He really shouldn't be lazy and follow the instructions