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To ask who you tip at Christmas and how much?

208 replies

ChocolateCinderToffee · 17/12/2023 17:52

Inspired by another thread.

Postie?
Hairdresser?
Cleaner?
Window cleaner?
Gardener?

Anyone else? Do you tip people who are in any way friends even if you pay them for a service? Do you give gifts rather than money?

OP posts:
BlackJacktheDog · 05/12/2024 07:48

Just the dog walker who I tend to give a small gift and a voucher for about £50.

Even in a smallish village we don't have a single regular postie and I have no idea if the bin crew are the same each week or not.

I cut my own hair and do my own cleaning, so I suppose I also could give myself a tip Grin

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:48

LividSleep · 17/12/2023 20:08

This is making me nervous because I don’t have anything at all left to tip these people that I’m now worried are expecting it.

I’m on the bones of my arse scraping by to pay people just what I owe them in the first place.

They're not expecting it.
They are well aware that some folk aren't rolling in cash.

WalterdelaMare · 05/12/2024 07:49

Bin men £20, postman £20, cleaner £50.

I buy my beautician a nice gift.

DilemmaDelilah · 05/12/2024 07:50

Cleaner - yes, £20 and some handcream
Gardener - yes £20 and some flapjacks (both come for 2 hours a fortnight)
Massage therapist £20 and a little present (she has been coming to me once a month for about 9 years and we know each other well)
Posties - no, there are lots of them and I make them flapjacks and provide water throughout the year
other delivery people see above
bin men no - we have to leave our bins at the end of the drive and I'm not convinced that anything we leave for them would still be there when they get there

pinkpantherxxx · 05/12/2024 07:51

I'd say gardener or window cleaner anyone that has to work outside in this frosty cold I'd be hating my job right now if I was outside for work a tip doesn't have to be huge either I was in the nail shop yesterday and an old man tipped an extra £5 for his pedicure and that £5 brought smiles and much appreciation it's a sign to show your greatful it doesn't have to extravagant amounts of money :) xx

BigDahliaFan · 05/12/2024 07:54

I tip the hairdresser every time.
Cleaner a weeks' wages, and I might get her daughter a present.
Binmen, no, though one year when we'd had loads of building work and our bins had been a pain I left them some beer.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:54

ChocolateCinderToffee · 01/01/2024 21:03

To show that you appreciate them for doing something you can't or won't do for yourself.

I mostly can and will do these things myself, but if someone does it for a living they're already being paid.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:55

BlackJacktheDog · 05/12/2024 07:48

Just the dog walker who I tend to give a small gift and a voucher for about £50.

Even in a smallish village we don't have a single regular postie and I have no idea if the bin crew are the same each week or not.

I cut my own hair and do my own cleaning, so I suppose I also could give myself a tip Grin

I vote for us all giving ourselves a tip. 😬

Pumpkincozynights · 05/12/2024 07:56

I used to work in a school and it was lovely just to get a Christmas card from the children, very thoughtful. Plus lots of them bought gifts which contrary to popular opinion, were always greatly appreciated.
I remember baking dds teacher a cake after dd insisted we do it. Apparently he was overjoyed and told her there was no way he was putting it in the staff room! She did say he cut himself and the TA huge slices then offered the lady who came in to listen to readers the finest piece feasible before hiding the rest in his cupboard!
Dd also insisted we buy him a chocolate Father Christmas. He gladly took it, unwrapped it and bit the head off and ate it in one go in front of the entire class.
Happy memories.

Gcn · 05/12/2024 08:00

I work in public sector and am strictly not allowed to accept financial gifts, so am a bit shocked at all these bin men picking up extra tenners at Christmas. Gross misconduct for me and would get sacked for accepting.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 08:02

Gcn · 05/12/2024 08:00

I work in public sector and am strictly not allowed to accept financial gifts, so am a bit shocked at all these bin men picking up extra tenners at Christmas. Gross misconduct for me and would get sacked for accepting.

I do wonder if the binmen actually receive some of these 'taped under the bin lid' gifts. 🫣

Changingplace · 05/12/2024 08:03

Nobody, and nobody tips me at Christmas so all and all it’s equal.

CarrieMoonbeams · 05/12/2024 08:11

Our postie and our Evri courier get £20 each. They're both fantastic, they really go above and beyond and they're so well liked in our village.

The way my hair appointments work out, I don't see my hairdresser in December but she gets £10 every time I go anyway.

The wee garage round the corner is brilliant - they often do wee bits of work on our cars for free, so they get one of those big boxes of Nestlé chocolate bars.

Edited because I forgot to add the vet staff - they get boxes of Christmassy things (mince pies, Stollen bites, Christmas cake slices etc) "from" our pets. Not hand/paw made of course!

We don't have a cleaner, dog walker or gardener.

Stretchedresources · 05/12/2024 08:12

The paperboy gets a tenner.

gingercat02 · 05/12/2024 08:16

Cleaner gets cash, and a card hairdresser gets a bottle of wine and chocs/biscuits. No one else.
And no, I don't get a Christmas bonus as asked above

Cynic17 · 05/12/2024 08:18

In 40 years of work, I have never had a bonus at Christmas - they just don't happen in the public and vo.untary sectors. So I don't understand why I might tip someone just for doing their normal job.

UpUpUpU · 05/12/2024 08:18

I’m not a tipper either. I don’t even tip in restaurants unless the service has been brilliant.

Like others have said, it’s their job that they are paid for.

I wouldn’t even think to tip the bin men or postie. I live on a culdesac and the bin men reverse the lorry into the street, empty the bins there then leave them in a line across the road so whoever is next in or out of the road has to move them all…

I do however all say thank you and give my appreciation with words.

Rocknrollstar · 05/12/2024 08:23

Cleaner gets an extra week’s money
So does gardener, window cleaner
I tip hairdresser and beautician (who both come to house)
I didn’t tip the dental hygienist yesterday or the osteopath. But why not?
I don’t take chocolates into the GP surgery either but I think I did the year DH was very ill and we used them a lot.
I used to give gifts to my mother’s carers and the people in the office where she lived.
As a teacher and then university lecturer I never got any gifts neither did my pharmacist husband.

Chillilounger · 05/12/2024 08:26

I top my hairdresser the same as i do after every haircut, otherwise no one. Didn't realise it was a thing....

KnickerlessParsons · 05/12/2024 08:38

None of them. Most of those people earn more than me. The window cleaner has a house in Spain!

purser25 · 05/12/2024 08:40

Postman Milkman Window cleaner then three different lots of bin men recycling garden waste and normal waste all a tub of chocolates given at the very beginning of December they seem to be pleased especially the bin men. Luckily the sorting office for the post is nearby so hand it in and they put it in his slot

RubyRedBow · 05/12/2024 08:55

I feel like a grinch now but… nobody.

Hair/beauty/nail prices have increased so much that any tip I used to give has now been swallowed up by the price rise.

We have a different postie/delivery person every day and 9/10 they post stuff or leave in a safe place. There is zero interaction.

Bin men? No. They come at 7am, miss collections or you have to go hunting for your bin.

I can’t believe people hand so much cash over as tips. I need that money for my own family.

HospitalitySux · 05/12/2024 09:04

I can't afford to tip anyone, I haven't visited the hairdresser in years, I don't see the bin men, have a cleaner or anything else like that and as I'm in hospitality myself I don't have time in December to go out and celebrate because it's all hands on deck so no opportunity to tip in restaurants etc because I'm not using them.
Don't treat anyone differently if they tip or not, don't expect it and don't work somewhere that adds a service charge (not that that stops some people demanding it's removed though, which is always an interesting conversation!).
I don't get all the angst over it though, I mean if you don't want to tip then don't and if you want to then do, but why can't whatever decision is made be respected without flinging insults and sarcastic comments around?

Tel12 · 05/12/2024 09:06

Bin men, postman, window cleaner, supermarket delivery, veg box delivery

Wildywondrous · 05/12/2024 09:12

I'm a dog groomer and receive christmas tips, usually a fiver but since having kids have a few customers who give me 10 or 20 to share between them.
I always save my tips and buy myself something special that I wouldn't usually treat myself to, I dont want them ending up paying bills.

I dont expect anything and love just a card too with a nice message, it's equally special if someone takes the time to buy a £1 box of matchmakers etc and wrap it up.