To not want the screaming and destruction in my life anymore

[PicaK]

Sen kid.
Just had enough this morning

Hi hope you are okay. Sounds like you are having a tough time.

I'm right here with you. I'm so tired of listening to the histerical laughing all the time. I'd like peace at home.

Sending gentle hugs and warm vibes.

No matter how tough things get at home, I have never once referred to either of my Neurodivergent DC as 'SEN kid'.

Sending love ❤️

@Ontheperiphery79 do you really think that judgement is helpful right now for the OP? I'm sure she loves her child, and accepts her child. That doesn't mean you can't find it frustrating and depressing at times.

Well aren't you a fucking saint, good for you. Have a medal. What on EARTH do you get out of shitting on the OP who is obviously at the end of her rope?

She maybe doesn't have the energy to write a big long waffly spiel complete with PC descriptors.

I know the feeling op, especially with the Xmas holidays coming up, so no break in sight.

Just do what you need to do to get through the day, hopefully tomorrow is more peaceful for you 💐

And no matter how smug I get, I'd never be smug enough to comment something like this on a struggling mother's post.
I guess we're both saints in different ways.

Twat.

So what? What difference does it make if we use the long winded term or OPs abbreviation? Are you superior for using your term? No, I don't think so. And your comment is unhelpful as you're shaming OP, when they're already struggling.

It’s so hard isn’t it? My DS is 20 now, there were many times I would wish he’d just go away. The first ten years nearly broke me. Things got easier with time. Now he’s lovely. He still makes a lot of noise and jumps around a lot but the screaming eventually stopped.
Sending a hug and absolute understanding.

Sorry OP, hugs. Sounds like a nightmare. I've one on the very mild end of things so no screaming or destruction but other less dramatic stuff... I used to literally fantasise about him going away to boarding school on a bus. I'd wave him off and shed a tear then go back to my house knowing he would return in 8 weeks or so for half term. Then I'd turn back into myself until I had to switch on Mum of SEN kid mode again for the hols. If only...

Thinking of you OP. It’s so incredibly hard isn’t it. I have a SEN kid too and omg sometimes I want to run and away and cry.

Feel for you, OP

Got quite a few stares at Morrisons today.

Took me taking her out the trolley and rocking her back and forth before it seemed to register with people why a child of her age may be acting that way.

It's relentless, thankless. Please take care of yourself. You're allowed to vent and ask for help.

Mine had a mega meltdown at the park, screaming, shouting making her sounds, bit my face whilst I tried to carry her home, then kicked me and threw her water bottle at the TV, she's been up since before 5 with no hope of slowing down for hours yet, it gets enough. Sending you huge hugs x

Quite.

I hear you OP. YANBU.

Hope you're okay, OP and that you've got some RL support to get you through tough days.

I've got one very routine-driven ND child upstairs in a raging huff because they've got to go to school tomorrow even though, in their words, "it's just going to be CHRISTMAS SHIT and I don't want to do CHRISTMAS SHIT, I want to do MATHS!".

I have another ND child downstairs watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer (latest obsession). You'd think watching TV would be peaceful but no. Watching TV involves him leaping out of his seat to jump up and down before dumping back into the seat Olympic high-jump style followed by log-rolling back and forth on the sofa, then some more jumping up and down, then braying laughter at anything remotely funny, then up jumping again.

I love them both dearly but some days I'd like to love them from a greater distance.

Hope you're okay.
Know th feeling My DD is really stressing me at the moment. Appreciate its not her fault. But there's just no help or support out there for us and I can't help but feel I do resent her sometimes.
She's only 8 and been kicked out of 2 mainstream schools in a year. No one will take her on as she's so complex without an EHCP. It really sucks sometimes.
If you ever want to vent feel free to message me.

Do you have any respite care? If not, contact the council and ask for an urgent social care assessment.

I feel,so much for you. Mine is an adult now and has caused so much anxiety, grief and bitterness over the years, especially the last year ironically, that i find myself half wishing he wasn’t here. I wish you and all the despairing parents the best. X

Solidarity and hugs OP ❤️

I'm sure she doesn't do it to their face.

Maybe she's just being concise and doesn't actually owe us in depth details of her child's diagnosis?

Prat

I'm so sorry, OP. While my own kids (grown up now) didn't have any disabilities, I taught in special schools for four decades. I loved those kids, which is easy when you only see them from 9 -3:15 Mon to Fri in term time. But gosh, many of their parents and siblings had such a hard time.

I wish I could help, but all I can say is that it's okay to feel the way you do.