To not want the screaming and destruction in my life anymore

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Sen kid.
Just had enough this morning

💐Hope tomorrow is better- it’s good to vent.

Is there something in the air today? Mine has been a nightmare all day when he's usually a total delight.

Are you able to step out just for a few minutes? I put the bins out verrry slowly this evening.

Bless you OP, you sound at the end of your tether. The only advice I can give as another mum of an special needs child is to take this moment seriously. Sit down your nearest and dearest. Tell them how on the brink you are. If it’s compassion fatigue then for the sake of you & your child, you need a break and a more sustainable caring plan. It’s okay to have limits in your mental capacity. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your child. This gig is tough. Sending a hug. X

People talk differently to you, who knew. Maybe stop being so judgemental given you have an insight into the OPs problems.

Oh bog off Tracey!

Bully for you.

Sending hugs Op 🫂. I'm a single parent and sole carer to an SEN child and there are definitely times when it's an absolute bugger.

Thank you so much guys for the kind words.
Yesterday was tough. I've had the cold thing (probably covid, didn't test) for 2 weeks and the house had gone to shit around me as I just focused on work, school, feeding the kids and collapsing.
It was first day I felt ready to clean even tho I knew my child needed to go out. But it was disgusting and needed cleaning. One of less than a handful of days in the last 8 years when I haven't compromised. And yes I asked for help from my family and no they couldn't because they needed to go to the supermarket. So her room got trashed while I cleaned.
She has sen. It's not a insult it's a fact. I was feeling desperate and it wasn't a day for long explanations. I'm touched that so many of you realised that.
FASD, adhd, attachment issues that ping pong between avoidant and anxious. It's a heady mix and it breaks my heart to see her struggle and to know she'll never live independently, never have her own family.
Today is a new day.

Noise dulling earplugs are your friend

Mine is very nearly 31 and i get you op. Some days its so hard and the judgement you get from other people doesnt help. My son had a meltown this morning because he couldnt get his shoes on by himself and wouldnt let me help him. @Ontheperiphery79 it must be so nice to know you are so perfect. Op do you get any help from ss? you sound like you could do with a carers assessment to get some respite perhaps? Get in touch with them and see if they can help you.

Here is your medal

Fuck me 🙄

So so sorry OP. You have been dealt an awful hand in the card game of parenting, and deserve our fullest sympathy. It must be horrible for you this time of year seeing families together doing fun Christmas things and your life feels like a shit show and a prison sentence.
Sending my very best wishes.

@Ontheperiphery79

No matter how tough things get at home, I have never once referred to either of my Neurodivergent DC as 'SEN kid'.

What a truly shitty post.

I hope you read it back and realise how unnecessary and unkind it was.

OP I noticed you mentioned FASD. Is she adopted? If so, have you investigated support options? I know social care and support is shockingly bad, but I do know of an adopted child with FASD whose parents get support, which was initially started through the DC's school getting things in motion and going from there.

Can you get any respite?
And as for the "SEN kid" issue, I doubt the OP was being deliberately inflammatory but wanted to succinctly state her problem and had neither the time or energy to elaborate on her child's disability.

I know this feeling. So tired of being headbutted and shouted at and bitten. It’s a matter of time until he breaks my nose. Thinking of all of you trying to get through the holidays with minimal damage.

Shut up.

OP, it sounds really hard and I’m sorry you’re feeling it at the moment.

Go polish your halo!

Hand hold OP. It can be exhausting sometimes. Nothing but sympathy here.

Make sure you practice some self care if you can. Try and eat well, get some fresh air and gentle exercise. I genuinely find it helps me on those really bad days. As the saying goes 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and you need to ensure you are well.

Is your DC in school? It's the end of a very long term and they are probably exhausted. Do you think a few calm days at home in the run up to Christmas will help at all?

OP sending you love and peace
I hope things improve soon xx

Oh well done! Fantastic!
You realise ND and SEN are interchangeable, as are DC and kid...
Maybe work a bit on your social skills, hopefully you're not talking to your children in that way.

Bully for you😏

Mine sends me crazy. I don’t seem to have your superior patience.

It's shit. It just is.

(I was up until gone 4am with DS and now I have to do a full days work. I want to cry.)

That's helpful!