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to be INCENSED by the owners of the cars on BOTH SIDES of me in the P&T spaces to ...................wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwait for itttttttttttttttttt/////////////////..............................have NO children with them,.....!!!!!!!!

59 replies

Hopeysgirlwasntbig · 14/03/2008 21:22

I can;t believe it

Even my 11 DS was annoyed!!!

I ALSO never ever ever ever thought I'd start a thread about this.

I have lots of popcorn on standby

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Yurtgirl · 15/03/2008 22:30

Miggsie - Methinks you and I are in agreement!

BexieID · 15/03/2008 22:55

I would be ragin' too! The extra space you get is what I like about the spaces. I'd hate to scratch anyones car by getting Tom in and out. I couldn't give 'too-hoots' how close they are to the store, it's the extra room you get.

I personally think the age limit should be once they are out of the group 1 car seat and are into a high back booster, which is around 4 years? Then again, Tom is 4 weeks shy of being 2, so have no experience of older toddlers/young children when going shopping!

It would also make it slightly easier for store staff to spot those that quite obviously don't have young children. Maybe even say upto the age they come out of a high back booster?

2shoes · 15/03/2008 23:06

By kaa0901 on Sat 15-Mar-08 21:57:25
sainsbury actually enforce their spaces. i complained when a woman parked in the last space (ds was 4mths old) - her response was that she had a blue badge so could park where she wanted. sainsburys security made her move her car!

WOW your nice. hope you never need a blue badge.
(you can have dd's but you have to have the cp as well)

Desiderata · 15/03/2008 23:13

You need to cut some slack, sometimes, on the whole issue of P&C spaces.

I was 39 before I had ds. I spent many years of adulthood entirely unaware of such spaces. I don't drive, so naturally have never parked unwittingly in one, but I bet I would have done, given the means.

You know, it's not that obvious to people who have never had kids .. or had them before such spaces existed.

BexieID · 15/03/2008 23:26

The brightly coloured green spaces with a picture of a parent and child (and a large sign in front of each space) are pretty obvious in our local Morrisons! The disabled ones are blue, with pictures of wheelchairs.

Do people park in other places you shouldn't?

Desiderata · 15/03/2008 23:36

Ah, yes, Bexie! Once you have children, those signs are all too obvious, but they're not necessarily obviously to people who live in a child-free planet.

I always mention it to people when I see them parking where they shouldn't. Eight times out of ten, they're apologetic and say they didn't realize. For the most part, I believe them.

My father had two kids under the age of 25. These were the days before 'spaces.' I was talking to him about this the other day, and he had no idea that there were designated spaces at supermarkets for parents with children. I bet he's parked in them a hundred times

Irritating though it is, (and we get it all the time, who doesn't?), it's wise to cut some slack before going in with all guns blazing.

berolina · 15/03/2008 23:42

Germany doesn't have P&C spaces . Except at Ikea. Everyone seems to do just fine.

The amount of ill-will P&C spaces seem to inspire, going by threads on here, regularly leaves me (car-free, btw) staggered.

berolina · 15/03/2008 23:44

And kaa0901, having someone with a blue badge forced to move her car becuse she was in a P&C space is really crap, tbh.

Desiderata · 15/03/2008 23:47

I agree with you twice, berolina.

That's your quota for the month, mind!

berolina · 15/03/2008 23:50
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winniethewino · 16/03/2008 00:01

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needmorecoffee · 16/03/2008 08:10

Someone made a disabled person move!!!! I am shocked. Having a baby or child is not like having a disability ffs.

needmorecoffee · 16/03/2008 08:12

I'd get rid of P&C spaces and just widen existing ones. For some reason they make people behave like snots.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 16/03/2008 08:14

You made a disabled person move. Classy

TrinityfeelslikeahopelessRhino · 16/03/2008 08:29

I like to have the extra space to get dd2-nearly 3 and Gecko-13 months out of the car safely
I dint care how far away from the supermarket they are as once we are all OUT of the car, I can keep them safe easily. It's just the getting them out of the car.

I do get pissed off with people without young children parking in them.
NOT because I beleive I am more worthy of the space but because it shows that some people just do not care about what they are and aren't suppsed to do.If they dont ca\re about p&t spaces then do they also litter, speed, steal. Where is the bit in there personailty that keeps them doing 'the right' thing.

hercules1 · 16/03/2008 09:07

I hope the woman with the disabled badge complained to the shop bitterly and got an apology. I could never bring myself to complain or even be fussed about this but to go to the extent of being proud you moved someone with a blue badge world has gone mad.

TheHedgeWitch · 16/03/2008 09:21

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kaa0901 · 16/03/2008 10:57

thanks everyone for all your support - there was a disabled space right next to the door even closer than the m&b space. also for someone disabled she skipped out of her brand new merc with some speed!

BoysAreLikeBunnies · 16/03/2008 11:01

Kaa I must point out to you that disabilities are not always visible

kaa0901 · 16/03/2008 11:03

but why take up the last m&b space rather than park in the disabled bay closer to the door?

mylovelymonster · 16/03/2008 11:12

perhaps the blue badge was for husband/dependant relative not with her at the time? And maybe she wanted to save her lovely new car from parking dents courtesy of drivers who park in normal spaces attrociously? And perhaps I should shut up before I get myself into more trouble.....

Have been victim of vicious P&B space hogging myself, but haven't let it ruin my life. So many worse things after all. HTH.

RustyBear · 16/03/2008 11:12

But you didn't say in your first post that there were disabled spaces closer, so you shoukdn't be surprised if people thooufght you were unreasonable to ask her to move.

Also, are you implying that she shouldn't have a brand new merc if she was disabled? (I ask merely for information...)

And it is possible that someone had just pulled out of the disabled space after she'd passed it.

RustyBear · 16/03/2008 11:14

thooufght?

MN is definitely having a bad effect on my typing...

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 16/03/2008 11:15

My seemingly fit MIL had a blue badge, she was riddled with bone cancer, but her bones did not start to break down until the very end.

Oh and by the way, her lovely tan was all thanks to a cocktail of chemotherapy and drugs.

So judge ye not.

MissyTheFlouncer · 16/03/2008 11:19

can i ask why mothers with older children use the mother and toddler spaces? i may be totally o/t but i was under the impression they were for use with say younger children that you have difficulty getting in the car seats?