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Can I get compensation? Assaulted at hospital

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Plzstopthisstupidity · 11/12/2023 18:28

Good evening Mumsnet

My sister recently announced she is pregnant and it brought back a memory of something I had buried.

5 years ago, I had a C-section. The day after in hospital, when I was recovering, a nurse grabbed me by the neck in a hallway of patients, staff and visitors and threatened me. She verbally and physically assaulted me.

I can’t discuss the reasons behind it but long story short was she verbally abused me in private (my room) and then when she heard me trying to complain, she grabbed me.

The manager of the maternity ward saw this and spoke to me. She apologised and comforted me. I was humiliated, sobbing and traumatised at the time.

I moved on. I still think about it… more so recently.

I was given the nurse’s name and found out that she is still working in the hospital (this was a year ago not sure if she is still there now).

I am starting to feel immensely angry about what happened. Part of me wants to take legal action.

Mumsnet: is there anything I can do? Is it worth even doing anything as it’s been so long since it happened?

just looking for ideas/advice - thank you!!

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Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:03

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:00

But yet here you are, doing it again. I’ve called someone names before. I’m not proud of it but it’s been after a long period of being wound up and goaded when already vulnerable. So I have empathy.

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Also do you not think being called nasty names on every single post is goading? It goes both ways. I just didn’t bite the bullet.

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:04

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:01

That’s why I didn’t report it…..

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This is really distasteful. You’ve had many, many posts deleted on this thread for aggressively troll hunting. A poster is describing a traumatic experience. Nobody cares whether or not you believe her. But nevertheless, you’ve said it so many times absolutely everybody has got the message. But now you’re acting like you’re kind and thoughtful because you didn’t report the post where she finally lost her reason at you? Honestly, it’s not a good look.

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:09

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:04

This is really distasteful. You’ve had many, many posts deleted on this thread for aggressively troll hunting. A poster is describing a traumatic experience. Nobody cares whether or not you believe her. But nevertheless, you’ve said it so many times absolutely everybody has got the message. But now you’re acting like you’re kind and thoughtful because you didn’t report the post where she finally lost her reason at you? Honestly, it’s not a good look.

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Constant name calling isn’t a good look but here we are… more than half the thread were not buying it either. Lost her reason? I wouldn’t say that. Nasty name calling is kids stuff. I wouldn’t be reporting that. Also I only reply when I tagged hence this dragging on…

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:15

Plzstopthisstupidity · 11/12/2023 22:21

@Mailista please feel free to report me for
standing up against a bully.

Please sweetheart, step away from this thread. It's not doing you any good. You have bared your soul and in true MN fashion, you've been torn apart.

I am not going to cast any aspersions on your story - I believe you. And you have carried this for 5 years and it's become too much.

Speak to your GP. They can arrange free counselling - you might just have to wait a bit. Also see if your employer provides counselling through an Employee Assistance programme.

Finally, ask for your medical notes via a FoI request. The ward manager should have dealt with this, not left it to you to pursue.

I'm not sure if too much time has passed to take a legal case but maybe an explanation and a proper apology would make you feel better about it?

Treatment like you have described absolutely deserves financial compensation so don't let the nasties shoot you down!

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:16

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 21:32

No, I said your initial intention was money, your story was full of holes. I didn’t call you any names.

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And who exactly are you - the internet police?!!

ExcellentFabulous · 11/12/2023 23:19

Mailista · 11/12/2023 22:40

you are horrific
you are unkind
you have no compassion
you are using my assault and my seeking of support to make yourself feel better through cruelty and unkindness
the only troll here is you
youre a liar and you’re cruel

These are all the OP's words, and are all aimed at another poster. These are all personal attacks.

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Tbf, I wouldn't judge

You're unkind
You have no compassion
You're horrific
you are using my assault and my seeking of support to make yourself feel better through cruelty and unkindness

as "name-calling" or personal attacks. I mean if someone is being unkind, showing no compassion, being horrible, etc to you, then they're being unkind, etc.

What else are you supposed to say in that situation? It's a direct form of calling out.

Name calling/personal attacks to me would be unwarranted insults, swearing at someone, stupid, fool, mf, btch, idiot, thick, dimwit, cnt, twat, etc.something that's meant to put down someone.

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:19

Hope you’re ok, OP Flowers

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:19

ExcellentFabulous · 11/12/2023 23:19

Tbf, I wouldn't judge

You're unkind
You have no compassion
You're horrific
you are using my assault and my seeking of support to make yourself feel better through cruelty and unkindness

as "name-calling" or personal attacks. I mean if someone is being unkind, showing no compassion, being horrible, etc to you, then they're being unkind, etc.

What else are you supposed to say in that situation? It's a direct form of calling out.

Name calling/personal attacks to me would be unwarranted insults, swearing at someone, stupid, fool, mf, btch, idiot, thick, dimwit, cnt, twat, etc.something that's meant to put down someone.

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Agree.

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:21

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:16

And who exactly are you - the internet police?!!

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No, are you?

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:24

ExcellentFabulous · 11/12/2023 23:19

Tbf, I wouldn't judge

You're unkind
You have no compassion
You're horrific
you are using my assault and my seeking of support to make yourself feel better through cruelty and unkindness

as "name-calling" or personal attacks. I mean if someone is being unkind, showing no compassion, being horrible, etc to you, then they're being unkind, etc.

What else are you supposed to say in that situation? It's a direct form of calling out.

Name calling/personal attacks to me would be unwarranted insults, swearing at someone, stupid, fool, mf, btch, idiot, thick, dimwit, cnt, twat, etc.something that's meant to put down someone.

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Emmmmmmmm I was indeed called thick as well as extremely disturbed and one messed up individual,

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:27

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:21

No, are you?

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Don't be so ridiculous.

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:28

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:27

Don't be so ridiculous.

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Same difference.

ExcellentFabulous · 11/12/2023 23:28

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:24

Emmmmmmmm I was indeed called thick as well as extremely disturbed and one messed up individual,

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I would classify those as name calling yes but they weren't unwarranted to be honest. You were beginning to hound the OP and didn't budge even when she shared some horrific details. Lies or not, I think I'd rather err on the side of thinking she could be telling the truth or this lie isn't harming anyone. Is it?

So the name-calling isn't a surprise given how you've treated her. I'd classify your hounding her (with no proof of the lies you're accusing her of) as personal attacks. So you're probably even.

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:32

ExcellentFabulous · 11/12/2023 23:28

I would classify those as name calling yes but they weren't unwarranted to be honest. You were beginning to hound the OP and didn't budge even when she shared some horrific details. Lies or not, I think I'd rather err on the side of thinking she could be telling the truth or this lie isn't harming anyone. Is it?

So the name-calling isn't a surprise given how you've treated her. I'd classify your hounding her (with no proof of the lies you're accusing her of) as personal attacks. So you're probably even.

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So you think we are even? You think I am wrong so obviously you must think she is too. In regard to her story. LOTS of people thought it was bogus. She couldn’t back it up no matter how many people asked her questions or challenged her so it was tears and name calling.

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:37

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:32

So you think we are even? You think I am wrong so obviously you must think she is too. In regard to her story. LOTS of people thought it was bogus. She couldn’t back it up no matter how many people asked her questions or challenged her so it was tears and name calling.

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At best I’m thinking maybe you’re having a bad day, and I hope tomorrow is better for you.

Firefly1987 · 11/12/2023 23:38

Why the fuck would anyone bother making up a story like that?

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:41

Firefly1987 · 11/12/2023 23:38

Why the fuck would anyone bother making up a story like that?

Who knows? Nowt as strange as folk! Was like a story that grew legs and snowballed. I guess thats why so many people questioned the specifics because it got more implausible as it went on.

kissnm · 11/12/2023 23:46

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:32

So you think we are even? You think I am wrong so obviously you must think she is too. In regard to her story. LOTS of people thought it was bogus. She couldn’t back it up no matter how many people asked her questions or challenged her so it was tears and name calling.

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@Icopewhenihope You have possibly posted more on this thread than the OP has - with lots of your own posts being deleted.

OP’s thread has moved on from the aspects you initially weren’t happy with, and the OP seems very vulnerable. With that in mind, what value are your continued recent posts on this thread offering the OP who is clearly not in a good place? It’s redundant & circular to keep mentioning the same things.

It may be the best for OP’s mental health for you to completely drop it now and it may be for the best for your own mental health to ignore this thread and go on with your evening in peace.

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:48

And those of us that have similar stories, are we all lying? How about people that are reading this, that are deciding to keep their traumatic experiences to themselves after seeing the OP’s treatment? Never mind them either. If you’re actually right, I think I’d rather be wrong.

Fedupmumofadultsons · 11/12/2023 23:49

Sorry but I have heard this nonsense on another site a few years ago .probably everyone ignore such an attention seaker

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:51

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:28

Same difference.

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I haven't been sniping at the OP. Go away.

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:52

MeanMedian · 11/12/2023 23:48

And those of us that have similar stories, are we all lying? How about people that are reading this, that are deciding to keep their traumatic experiences to themselves after seeing the OP’s treatment? Never mind them either. If you’re actually right, I think I’d rather be wrong.

Come off it. She was standing her her cubicle with her tights down, asked a nurse to pull them up, nurse refused so someone else did which was grand because now her bum was covered. A few posts down this was forgotten and they were indeed surgical stockings. Her words not mine and they don’t add up.

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:52

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:28

Same difference.

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😂😅🙄

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:53

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:51

I haven't been sniping at the OP. Go away.

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Just at me then. Your argument is invalid.

Treesinmygarden · 11/12/2023 23:53

Icopewhenihope · 11/12/2023 23:52

Come off it. She was standing her her cubicle with her tights down, asked a nurse to pull them up, nurse refused so someone else did which was grand because now her bum was covered. A few posts down this was forgotten and they were indeed surgical stockings. Her words not mine and they don’t add up.

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Seriously????!