Can I get compensation? Assaulted at hospital

[Plzstopthisstupidity]

Good evening Mumsnet

My sister recently announced she is pregnant and it brought back a memory of something I had buried.

5 years ago, I had a C-section. The day after in hospital, when I was recovering, a nurse grabbed me by the neck in a hallway of patients, staff and visitors and threatened me. She verbally and physically assaulted me.

I can’t discuss the reasons behind it but long story short was she verbally abused me in private (my room) and then when she heard me trying to complain, she grabbed me.

The manager of the maternity ward saw this and spoke to me. She apologised and comforted me. I was humiliated, sobbing and traumatised at the time.

I moved on. I still think about it… more so recently.

I was given the nurse’s name and found out that she is still working in the hospital (this was a year ago not sure if she is still there now).

I am starting to feel immensely angry about what happened. Part of me wants to take legal action.

Mumsnet: is there anything I can do? Is it worth even doing anything as it’s been so long since it happened?

just looking for ideas/advice - thank you!!

That’s appalling!
So many midwives and nurses with “ Lack of competence “ and “Misconduct “

Near where a family member lives, a multi million pound house with a fleet of flash cars was built from the results of a medical negligence case.

Very sad case, evidently.

Someone had blundered.

I'm so sorry that some people have caused you this much anguish. I think I can understand being sensitive enough to feel this way regardless of it being online and by strangers.

I'd suggest that what you need now is some positive words, healing words, comfort and kindness. I know sometimes we hope to get it from strangers but if you can't, you have to turn to your loved ones. Could you possibly talk to your partner about what's happening right now and ask for some emotional support? If you can step away and ask mnhq to delete this thread, that may help you close this chapter and concentrate on your actual life. Don't worry about the unkindness of some strangers. There are many more kind ones around.

FOR EVERYONE -

but especially for @Icopewhenihope

i have just re-read every single one of my
previous messages.

other than the word “compensation” in the title (not financial comp or money, just comp) I have mentioned “money” in ONE post as a throwaway comment at the end of a paragraph.

one time.

i mentioned “money” one time.

one fucking time.

i am myself shocked that it was only once because of the amount of comments regarding me being hungry for cash.

i just wanted to clarify this out loud to everyone

i asked about money ONCE

AND it was in a later message (3rd or 4th) not even the first one

now @Icopewhenihope you said I “mentioned money numerous times” so would you like to publically retract that claim? Be honest maybe?

Tbf, this was explained earlier. The nurse overheard her trying to report her (the nurse) and became enraged. Reading the thread can help sometimes lol.

We are getting a lot of reports about this thread. Please refrain from trollhunting and personal attacks and report any concerns about specific posts to us using the report button.

As @EstherMumsnet has just said, troll hunting isn’t allowed.

Well trollhunting is not allowed on @EstherMumsnet, so maybe you need to take your detective self off somewhere else and leave the poor OP alone?

I misunderstood troll hunting, to me that meant hunting down trolls who post dubious stories. My apologies.

If this happened exactly as OP describes then the nurse was no doubt extremely unprofessional. But that said I honestly don't think I could entertain getting this wound up about somebody shouting at me five years ago. I'm really not sure pursuing it will end well but either way I hope things work out.

I've reported the troll, the most persistent one, so fingers crossed the poor OP gets a break from it.

Neither are personal attacks but you don't seem worried about that rule....

Heartily seconding riotlady here.

OP's account has the ring of truth to me, but even if it's untrue, what is to be gained from treating her like a liar? Doing so just creates a culture of fear for assault victims.

In fairness the amount of names you have called me and not once have I retaliated.

Standing up to an internet bully is not a personal attack.

This?
Did you mean to quote someone?

OP, I'd look at applying for a Subject Access Request to view your notes from your admission at that time. I think it would be worth contacting PALS and Midwifery at that hospital and see if you could report what happened (or see if a report had been made), and also go through a debrief and look through/explain your notes. There should be entries in the notes regarding this incident, along with a record of the incident report/datix reference number. If you have the staff member's full name (and she is a Registered Nurse or Midwife), then she will be on NMC register if she is still working as an RN/RM. You can easily look that up online.

As a nurse, I'm horrified about this. There's a lot about your case that I don't understand. Like why staff didn't report it etc. And why this wasn't followed up. Example: if I witnessed something like that on my ward, I'm obligated to report it (and document exactly what I had witnessed, and what actions I took). Because I'm risking my own PIN if I don't (not to mention, I wouldn't be able to hold my head up in public if I didn't speak up) - and I won't risk my PIN (and therefore my livelihood and a job I love) or my good name for anything. I've worked in healthcare over 20yrs: I remember a case where a patient made an allegation of abuse against a staff member (unfounded - pt had a history of making false allegations). It was reported and escalated immediately, the staff member was suspended (pending investigation), police were involved, statements taken, and an investigation happened. That's what is meant to happen.

I don't understand why no one reported your situation. It's really troubling. But maybe having a look at your notes, a debrief and contact with PALS might help to make things clearer for you. I wish you luck.

Look at the amount of comments you’ve had deleted and the amount of people telling you to stop.

You're embarrassing yourself. You are clearly doubling down on being mean. Just leave this thread and the OP alone. What is the point in your behaviour? Do you get a thrill from it?! Get a hobby!

If this happened on a maternity unit, it would be a midwife or a health support worker not a nurse if in the Uk.
im struggling to understand however how action was not taken at the time by the manager given all the witnesses. The manager who also witnessed this would be risking her job given you advise this was witnessed by other patients and was the day after a c section?

Where I work rotas only need to be kept for 2 years, so it may not be possible to find other witnesses 5 years later.

I didn’t report any of the names I was called for them to get deleted.