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How far did you go to get your man?

154 replies

Bireadwhatiread · 11/12/2023 11:15

Casual acquaintance has lost 20lbs, got fake tan, veneers and extensions and bagged her man.

Another started a gossip campaign to smear her would be man's current girlfriend.

how far did you/someone you know go?

OP posts:
OhmygoshREALLY · 11/12/2023 11:17

Oh no no no no. HE bent over backwards to prove to ME that he was worth my time!

EyeInTheSky23 · 11/12/2023 11:19

bagged her man

Men can get out of bags, you know lol

Stresa22 · 11/12/2023 11:19

I got courted by my DH, proposed to on Valentines Day, and married several months later. That was 14 years ago.

DaphneduM · 11/12/2023 11:21

Work colleagues - I offered to do his typing!!!!! As you can tell, that was many years ago!!!! He said no - but asked me out anyway and we were married within the year. That was nearly 30 years ago.

NoNoNanette · 11/12/2023 11:22

When I read the title, I was going to reply with 'to Carshalton', but now I've got the idea, I'll say... 'to Carshalton'.

MonsteraMama · 11/12/2023 11:25

Thankfully my man likes me for who I am so I haven't had to dramatically change my appearance or be an absolute bitch to someone else's girlfriend (!!!) in order to secure him.

VeganNugsNotDrugs · 11/12/2023 11:26

About 120 miles

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Bireadwhatiread · 11/12/2023 11:27

I am quite amazed at the examples I gave because I have never made that much effort myself. Both did end up with well off, successful men though so maybe I should take note!!!

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Headband · 11/12/2023 11:28

I don't think I'd want to be with a man that I had to change my appearance to 'bag' .
All sounds a bit shallow.

Christmasmishap · 11/12/2023 11:28

I was thinking about this this morning actually, I've kind of got my eye on someone. I'm also very comfortable in my own skin, he either wants me or he doesn't. I think it's the same when your losing someone, if you have tale steps to "make" them stay it's all a bit pointless.

So I'll make an effort to show him who I am and get to know him, but if he doesn't want that, that's all good, I won't be changing anything.

ManateeFair · 11/12/2023 11:32

I didn't. I've only ever 'chased' one bloke in my entire life and that was when I at university, and I was mainly unsuccessful in my pursuit. I didn't do anything whatsoever to 'bag' any of my other partners.

DP and I just met at work and kind of ended up together somehow.

Toottooot · 11/12/2023 11:33

Ha ha ha ha ha.

Ihaveoflate · 11/12/2023 11:33

I was self confident enough to know that if he didn't want me for who I was, then he wasn't worth having at all.

I suppose the approach 'worked' because he was attracted by my self confidence, among other things.

vestedinterests · 11/12/2023 11:34

Huge fake lips, breasts and bum. Acrylics (mani & pedi), fake tan, laminated brows,

Russian lashes, hair bleached to platinum blonde and long and luscious hair extensions.

Also, under eye filler, cheek filler and a face lift.

Fat dissolving injections, loads of very heavy make up, very skimpy and sexy clothing and high heels of course.

I do wear a long puffer coat in this weather though

gannett · 11/12/2023 11:35

Your first friend is unhinged in a sadly common, insecure way.

Your second friend is properly fucking unhinged and toxic and I'd be running a mile from her.

I don't think I've ever put much effort into "getting a man". Much more interesting things to make an effort for in life. If he didn't like me as I was then he wasn't the man for me.

GEC44 · 11/12/2023 11:35

Work colleague started giving him (her manager) lifts to and from work, texting at times when he was with his then girlfriend, sent a Christmas card "I can't quite put into words how much you mean to me, you are very special to me' - oh yeah, she stole him. She was jealous of what he had with his beautiful girlfriend and purposely set out to destroy that. Booked them a holiday together. Many years on and they never married, and he's living a live of misery with her and their one young DC. She also tried to take another colleague's job as she was jealous of that too.

SpeedyDrama · 11/12/2023 11:35

This seems to be a very ‘share how bitchy and catty women are’ thread. Is it being reposted in a rag or on a male based forum?

BettyBallerina · 11/12/2023 11:35

‘Another started a gossip campaign to smear her would be man's current girlfriend.’ Vile. Does her man know that she did that?

I’ve never done anything to ‘bag a man.’ Like most people, I’ve just met them during the course of everyday life and it’s gone from there.

AgnesX · 11/12/2023 11:36

I didn't....he came to me (in his little Peugeot 108)!

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 11/12/2023 11:37

Fgs, what century are we living in? The idea that there are still women whose life plan is to set their sights on their eligible man and then use their feminine wiles combined with physical alterations to 'bag' him is just depressing, frankly.

Tibbb · 11/12/2023 11:37

vestedinterests · 11/12/2023 11:34

Huge fake lips, breasts and bum. Acrylics (mani & pedi), fake tan, laminated brows,

Russian lashes, hair bleached to platinum blonde and long and luscious hair extensions.

Also, under eye filler, cheek filler and a face lift.

Fat dissolving injections, loads of very heavy make up, very skimpy and sexy clothing and high heels of course.

I do wear a long puffer coat in this weather though

🤣

ManateeFair · 11/12/2023 11:38

Bireadwhatiread · 11/12/2023 11:27

I am quite amazed at the examples I gave because I have never made that much effort myself. Both did end up with well off, successful men though so maybe I should take note!!!

One of them ended up with a well-off successful man who only fancies thin women with fake tan, hair and teeth. If she wants to keep him, she can't eat what she wants, age normally, have a baby etc.

The other ended up with a well-off successful man whose head was very easily turned while he was in a relationship with someone. His head will very easily be turned again.

Neither bodes well for a loving long-term partnership.

SpeedyDrama · 11/12/2023 11:38

GEC44 · 11/12/2023 11:35

Work colleague started giving him (her manager) lifts to and from work, texting at times when he was with his then girlfriend, sent a Christmas card "I can't quite put into words how much you mean to me, you are very special to me' - oh yeah, she stole him. She was jealous of what he had with his beautiful girlfriend and purposely set out to destroy that. Booked them a holiday together. Many years on and they never married, and he's living a live of misery with her and their one young DC. She also tried to take another colleague's job as she was jealous of that too.

Edited

You can’t ‘steal’ a man, theyre not innocent little creatures who are easily swayed by the flutter of eyelashes and a stroke of an ego (coughcough to everyone who thinks this of Meghan Markle). Men are perfectly capable of making their own stupid decisions, and if they choose to leave for another woman, good riddance to them.

Barebones · 11/12/2023 11:38

He was my work colleague. I brought in a kit-kat every day for him to have with his cuppa.

We fell in love and 25 years later and 2 children we are as happy as ever 💖

YouHaveAnArse · 11/12/2023 11:39

The question you really should be asking is 'How can I find less boring friends?'