To embrace the grey at 37?

[CherryGarcia23]

So I'm going grey. I'd say looking at my parting only, I'm at 25%.

I haven't dyed my hair since February this year. I'm considering going to a professional hairdresser to start dying a silvery grey to blend everything in.

I do not like the mousey brown / blonde/ grey that seems to be to go to in your 40's / 50's when a haiirdresser does a professional cover up.

AIBU to do this at 37? Everyone I have spoken to says wait until 50's??

What's people's reasoning for asking you to wait till 50s?
I say do it. My friend is in her mid 30th and is naturally 90% grey. She looks stunning. Just make sure you find an experienced hairdresser and book a consultation first so that they can let you know what is possible. And don't scrimp on your firsts colour job. This is a kind of scenario where you really get what you pay for.

I started going grey at about 27/28. Now 44 and I'd say it's probably about 40%. Never dyed it, either to cover it up.or try to blend it in. I embrace it by just letting it be.

I’d get professional hairdresser input and give it a try. A lot will depend on your colouring, your make up and overall style. Some people look lovely with grey but usually wear nice fashionable clothes, full make up etc. If you are more casual clothes, no make up it’s easy to look like cba or older with grey. Also most people won’t be honest with you. An acquaintance embraced grey and I think it’s very aging for her, I mistakenly thought some posts on sm were her mum 20 yrs older but I’d never say it.

Do it, it will look great. I plan on doing it soon too. I am 40 and about 80% full grey, only the back is still my natural colour. I get platinum highlights to blend it all together but plan on gradually phasing them out over the next few years.

Just took a picture of the top of my head. Maybe it's more like 60%. I'm not very good at these estimates.

Is it aging? Don't know, maybe. I think it makes me look the age I am so no problem

Go for it!

They're communities of gorgeous women on Instagram who have embraced the grey, so plenty of inspiration if you need it.

I’m suddenly reacting to dyes at 42, so have decided to just let the hair do what’s it’s gonna do. I’ll miss my vibrant summer colours, but look forward to the new look 😊.

I am 62 and not yet ready to embrace the grey. I’m almost white on top and in front but underneath and at the back still quite dark. I don’t think my hair looks mousy at all.

others may think differently of course

Personally I don't think most people have the skin tone for it.. you either need to be sallow skinned or wear makeup all the time or else can look v v washed out. Personally I think its v young to go grey, it is aging but some people don't care about that and thats fine too. I don't want to look younger but don't want to look older either

Err, @DappledThings how did you get a picture of the top of my head??
That's pretty much exactly me.
Never died it, 44, brown with significant grey content, with a frizz/wave to my hair.

Excellent! The frizz is getting worse with age but I'm embracing that too. I get it thinned out at the hairdresser's but I can't be arsed going there more than about twice a year.

I am 38 and I ve just cut off the last bit of colour. It's been a journey and it was hard. Dealing with everyone and their opinions on why I should colour my hair was a struggle. Now, I'm loving the grey, but some days, I still wonder if I should go back to covering it up. My mum went grey at 21, and honestly, I think grey hair is beautiful.

Thanks for all of your input. I wear make-up, increased how much I wear since the grey has come in around my face.

I think I'll like it silvery / grey. Its already there and everyone I know, know I'm greying so it's not like I need to hide it. I feel I just want it to look more purposeful now, rather than ... I CBA, IYKWIM.

It's a terrible idea. Grey hair isn't usually the best look on younger people IMHO. But if you like it then you should.

I'm 53 and won't ever stop covering the roots . I've got dark hair so pretty easy to top up and keep going with jobs around the house wearing my glam shower cup . I think it makes my complexion look better and definitely makes me look less drained and tired ..

@IrisApfelRocks you look stunning.

@IrisApfelRocks you look amazing!

I love my white hair, although it's still a bit badger-like at the back.
I did do all over colour for a while, and several attempts at growing out the colour.
Finally had bleached highlights a couple of times to help with growing colour out.

My only thoughts about colouring it grey is that there are a couple of young women I work with who have dyed grey hair - it doesn't look remotely natural, and from the sound of it, is hugely expensive to keep up.

it's quite fashionable now, isn't it? I suppose the thing is making sure your cut is on point so it looks like you're intentionally letting the grey come through rather than just letting your hair run wild. Not that there's anything wrong with letting your hair run wild as such.

Reframe it!

You are not embracing grey.

You have stunning (and if anyone asks, like my male boss once did) VERY expensive platinum blond highlights.😄

He didn't know where to look and it was very funny,

If you want to!

I’m 43 and left to be natural, I thinku hair would be mainly white going by the roots that come in.

My boxes of brown hair dye will have to be pried from my cold, dead hands though. I will dye my hair until I am in the ground. I’ll never have botox or fillers, my face and body can age, but never my hair.

But I wouldn't dye it grey. So much upkeep with that. Seems like more of a hamster wheel than any other dye. Sali Hughes from the Guardian had some silvery flecks in her brown hair (looked good tbh) and then dyed it grey and now is in a constant cycle of bleaching and toning and her hair looks frazzled.

I couldn't bear to let mine go grey. But I also get botox and wear makeup.

If I look good, I feel good. I'll never let myself go.

I just think if it bothers you, colour. If it doesn't bother you, embrace it. It's all about how it makes YOU feel.

We have a history of going grey very early in our family. I started in my early 20s (though it wasn't really noticeable until I was 31 last year) but my brother was almost completely grey at 16! Personally I colour, but I have confidence issues. I'd love to be able to embrace it, and for it not to bother me. Maybe I'll get there in the future.

FWIW my friends who embrace the grey all look great.

I'm not grey yet, but having never dyed my hair in my whole life I don't see myself starting in order to cover greys. The cost, time and effort that would be required to do it well seems way too much.

A lot of women I know in their late 30s and 40s seem to have the same attitude and are sticking with a natural greying look. I hope this becomes more the norm.

I fully support people in choosing their own style and adopting their own beauty standards etc, and I know that colouring one's hair is very common, but I really do wish our society didn't demonise grey haired women. It's so antiquated.

I think the silvery grey look can be fabulous, but to be honest in your 30s I think it would only work if you are quite pretty and/or have young looking skin. Also I think it is quite high maintenance, akin to having bleach blonde hair, to keep it looking like glamourous silver hair and not just regular frizzy grey.