Christmas dinner!

[vixsta2001]

I've just had my head bitten off by dh because i dared to say I wasn't particularly happy about the fact that my mil is making pork for Xmas dinner!

I mean, what's the point of a traditional Christmas dinner if we aren't eating a 'traditional' turkey/ham?

I'm grateful she's hosting, but seriously? Might as well go to the local curry house!

Her argument was that the turkey was so expensive last year! Let me tell you, they are not short of a bob or two, and quite honestly I'm more than happy to contribute towards the cost if she had mentioned it!!

No turkey (I'm not even that keen on) but do like a traditional Xmas dinner, means no cranberry sauce either! And you can't ham the ham with bloody pork!! Ffs...

Dh told me if I have such a problem then I should go round and tell her!! Why can't he see where me and my grown adult kids are coming from and grow some and tell her it's not bloody on!!!

Buy turkey crown. Cook it

Take and ask MIL to heat up because everyone would love some turkey. The kids will be so disappointed otherwise

Simples

Tell her you're converting to judaism ??

My objection is that everyone HAS to have it because it's 'traditional' when a lot of people don't even like it!

I know what you mean, I don't think you sound ungrateful at all. If it's that much money then she should have mentioned a possible contribution towards it, but she didn't, and just assumed everyone would be happy with pork.
I also don't agree with hosting if you don't want to buy all the ingredients.
Don't offer to host if you don't want to buy the food.

We're having beef for Christmas day

So hate turkey. Not seeing my mum this year so we can have whatever we please

We are having beef Wellington, pizza for DS and chicken for my mum.

Xmas is about eating what you like.

And why can't you have pigs in blankets and cranberry sauce and bread sauce with pork? It's a bland meat like turkey.

I can't remember the last time I had turkey for Christmas dinner. It's at least 15 years ago.

It's still traditional though!.

YABU and please don't start a fight with your MIL about this. I'm not sure if you're aware but there is another Christmas tradition called peace and goodwill to all men...

We always have beef, as do my in laws. None of us like turkey, or pigs in blankets!

we have lamb. Turkey is just meh. Not spending money on something that’s not even particularly pleasant.

This is one thing I will never understand. If you’re not keen on turkey, why insist on it for Christmas dinner? I’m not keen on it but like everything else on a Christmas dinner so I’m having a nice organic chicken this year with everything else the same. I’d rather enjoy my food rather than having something I don’t enjoy for the sake of following the crowd. If she wants pork, let her have it. Buy yourself a turkey breast and cook it. It isn’t a big deal it’s just meat.

The thing is, if we don't have turkey, that means we also won't have pigs in blankets!

Why not?

What are all these weird food roolz??

I'd happily take roast pork and crackling over turkey any day (even Xmas day!). And if someone else was being generous to cook for me, I would even more happily eat it.

If it wasn't what I was hoping for, I would cook what I wanted to following day. I don't think I've ever cooked turkey for Xmas dinner - even when I've cooked for other people as I think it's overpriced and lacking in taste.

Turkey aside for a min, op, you do know you don’t have to end every sentence with an exclamation mark?

I'm not keen on meat and rarely cook it....plus we do a 5 mile walk in the morning before the pub. Totally relaxing day with no drama or unwanted randoms

Honestly if it’s just going to be like every other Sunday dinner I wouldn’t go.

We will do turkey and beef and a million types of bloody potatoes and pigs in blankets and outside of blankets and green hand grenades because why not. The boy may well have a curry later on but there will be the main big Christmas roast with an abundance of yorkies.

Turkey is one of the most unpleasant meats, YABVU.

America was hardly America in the early 1500s. Columbus only pitched up in 1492! Turkeys came to the U.K. via Native American traders.

And this is exactly why I refuse to host anyone for Christmas lunch. I don't particularly like turkey and it's more effort and expense than it's worth. I either do chicken and gammon or beef. But I'm also very tempted to get an Indian takeaway or do a buffet of M&S nibbles.

When it's just our immediate family I feel fine doing this but as soon as anyone else from the extended family are invited I feel the pressure to be traditional even if they also don't care for turkey!