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Original poster

To think she did this on purpose

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Daisydupe · 07/12/2023 19:07

Went to Christmas fayre. There was balloons to have your photos done. I said to my DD who is 4 ‘do you want to stand there and I’ll take your photo to show grandad’ (I’m a single parent). another mum looked at me and straight away said to her son ‘do you want your photo done to show dad’ really loud and emphasise on the dad. Aibu to think that was on purpose

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Curtainscurtains · 07/12/2023 19:07

Probably not.

Parentblame · 07/12/2023 19:08

Unless you know her how on Earth would she know you’re a single parent ?

RedHotAirBalloon · 07/12/2023 19:08

I think you're being a bit paranoid.

Sparklesocks · 07/12/2023 19:09

Does she know you?
if not, why would she even know you’re a single parent just from saying grandad?
I don’t think it was pointed unless there’s context I’m missing.

Original poster
Daisydupe · 07/12/2023 19:09

Just thought she would know as I said grandad instead of dad and she said it straight away after with dad

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WeeOrcadian · 07/12/2023 19:09

It sounds very much like you're projecting here OP

Wibblywobblylikejelly · 07/12/2023 19:09

Are you going tondrip feed some massive backstory?

Or is it maybe this woman heard you and thought great idea....

HoHoHoliday · 07/12/2023 19:10

She probably heard what you said and thought "that's a good idea, take a photo and send it to someone". Beyond that, you're jumping to a massive conclusion.

Original poster
Daisydupe · 07/12/2023 19:10

We were both in the line for the photo so I think she was going to get one anyway but just said it

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Ejismyf · 07/12/2023 19:11

Sounds more like she liked your idea. I wouldn't presume someone was single just from that.

PossumintheHouse · 07/12/2023 19:11

Even if they did, why bother about it?

JustCuriousASHP · 07/12/2023 19:11

Maybe she's a single parent too, in friendly contact with her ex.

Nellieinthebarn · 07/12/2023 19:12

I doubt it very much, my daughter takes photos of DGC especially for Nanny, there is no way she would've known you are single from this exchange.... but on the off chance she did, an insult only works if you accept it. Who is she to judge you? She is no one, don't give it headspace.

DaisyDando · 07/12/2023 19:12

I understand why you think she was being off. But I used to say “let’s take a picture for Granny,” all the time because Grandparents like pictures. Or say they do!

peachgreen · 07/12/2023 19:12

Life is exhausting enough without imagining people have it in for you.

FictionalCharacter · 07/12/2023 19:12

Sorry, YABU. She probably didn’t give a second’s thought to you saying grandad, or why. And the idea that a stranger is playing a game of “my child has a dad and yours doesn’t” is extremely far fetched.

Ejismyf · 07/12/2023 19:13

She likely said to her child to let them know what is happening the same reason you did. Defo think you're being paranoid.

RomeoMcFlourish · 07/12/2023 19:13

This was a complete non-event.

SutWytTi · 07/12/2023 19:13

I think that's paranoia.

DelurkingAJ · 07/12/2023 19:15

I say all the time ‘can I have a photo for granny’ because my DSs will pose for DM or DMIL. They won’t if I say it’s for DH so I’m afraid I think you’re projecting here.

Neriah · 07/12/2023 19:16

Daisydupe · 07/12/2023 19:09

Just thought she would know as I said grandad instead of dad and she said it straight away after with dad

You are being way to sensitive. This is your problem not hers. She had no idea if you are a single parent or in a polygamous marriage! If she was listening to you, which she probably wasn't, she knows that your child has a grandfather.

Fixit23 · 07/12/2023 19:17

JustCuriousASHP · 07/12/2023 19:11

Maybe she's a single parent too, in friendly contact with her ex.

I agree. I often say to my children let's take a photo for daddy. We are not together though

ForeverNameChangingABC · 07/12/2023 19:17

Are you paranoid about your circumstances with your child's father? I had a friend who was a brilliant single mum. Yet she carried a massive chip on her shoulder about it. She was constantly assuming people thought badly of her. It was so sad to see. This would be exactly the kind of thing she would be upset about.

I think she liked your idea. Or didn't hear you and just came up with the idea herself.

GirrlCrush · 07/12/2023 19:18

Is this even worth posting about? Such a non event

CumbrianYorkshireHybrid · 07/12/2023 19:21

I can't believe you even thought that, let alone stewed on it enough to write a post.