To clutch my pearls (about a song)

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I'm going to do two threads tonight, both totally different. The other one will hopefully cheer me up after a bit of pearl clutching.

I was just at a birthday party for a 12 year old girl. There were maybe 25 girls there, and younger siblings too, aged 5-10 judging by height. Also I asked some of them.

Obviously I'm decrepit and know nothing about music these days. For context: when I was 12 and my friends were listening to take that, I was secretly listening to the Lion King soundtrack. Maybe that gives you an idea, but I went to a normal secondary in a working class town.

Anyway the music at this party made me feel so old. I did shazam a number of them, but there were lyrics like, (paraphrasing) "girl I'm looking at your physique", etc etc, or, "birthday sex! Birthday sex!" all delightfully sexual and tracks one and two on Now That's What I Call A PreTeen Birthday Party.

But then on came a song that really took the biscuit from under my nose, so to speak, and it is the main part of my aibu - aibu to clutch my pearls. Reminder, there were children aged 5-10 also present.

I don't want to quote the lyrics here, but if you are of strong stomach, you fancy Googling it, your children are safely asleep, and you know how to delete your browsing history, the song was called (according to shazam) "Or Nah".

If you don't want to look it up, and I don't blame you if you don't, to give you a toned down idea, here is an edited version:

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Lots of smoking and drinking, that's the ticket!
But I'm not sure my dear old mum would approve of you,
So shall we have a cuddle in a few minutes anyway?
This bottle of Pol Roger is pricey, so will you marry me if I buy it for you?
I'd love to have babies with you, but we should get some practice in first, but I don't believe in sex before marriage so we'll have to find another way.

We can sit cheek to cheek
Can you tie a knot in a cherry stalk with your tongue?
I'm an Obstetrician so can help you with your kegels
But my phone is broken so I'll be unable to call you tomorrow. I'll send a telegram instead, dearest.
My bed is also broken so I've been sleeping on the kitchen table.

So whaddya think? Yes? Or "nah"?
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The real song is, shall we say, much, much fruitier. The kids of today! But what surprised me the most is that the mum was right there in the room! And all the girls were singing along! Apparently the song isn't even new - it must have totally passed me by, but I don't expect it gets much radio airplay.

And then there were some songs about drugs and murder and other lovely things.

Aibu? I just read the thread about granddad's pride and wept a bit about the world so I thought I'd share this.

Final thought: the girls were taking endless selfie, and were pretty much totally covering their faces in the pictures. Is that a thing now?

Wish the spin classes near me had playlists like this. Its all a bit cheesy or random dance tracks. But WAP is a bit much, especially as the seats are already sweaty!!

“Bring a bucket and mop”
grim

😂😂😂

Remember singing along to "Do you wanna touch me" by Gary Glitter back in the 70s and watching him on Top Of The Pops doing rude hand gestures.

This is the song I thought of. I loved it.

We used to sing along to Salt n Pepa, pretty graphic by the standards of the time (although coming at sex from a totally different angle). I find these lyrics equal parts comedic and rank but being an old woman and mother of teens/tweens I am comforting myself that the girls are unlikely to be storing them up as a ‘how to’ guide for life; I mean, the clue’s in the song, it’s got to be Nah😂 Also thinking about how some people wanted Elvis banned because of how his gyrations would corrupt the youth. Sex and pop, what can you do

It's the explicit nature of the song. I do know WAP and that's awful too. I don't feel empowered by that sort of language: if my ds5 hears it, he WILL be asking me what the words mean.
If boys then think it's OK and normal to talk like that, what sort of culture does it create? So many people come on mn and ask parents of young boys to raise them to respect women.
Lyrics like this make that a really difficult job. Yes it's endemic, but it IS getting more explicit and less veiled. Everyone saying they sang along as a child and didn't understand, yes, but would your child be so in the dark about lyrics like this?

I've posted elsewhere about the headache for the teacher when one child comes in to the class of 30 and teaches the other 29 kids some rude words. Someone's child on here the other day was told aged 5, to fuck off.

Moreover the aggression, sexual aggresion and misogyny in the songs has a similar effect to the words themselves.

Kids in school start speaking like that to each other, aggression rises, behaviour disintegrates and we blame the school.

I'd never heard the song as it's most probably not on mainstream radio, but it is on YouTube, and kids have unfiltered access to YouTube. It's pretty sad, but like I said I'm old.

@Biffathesniffa it's peloton so you can pick pretty much any music genre. I usually go for hip hop or country but there's metal/rock/60s too!

It would be easier to comment if you’d posted the actual lyrics. I’m finding that a bit confusing.

I think there is a spectrum here, and you are at one end. Most people are maybe nearer the middle. So I don’t think you’re being totally unreasonable, but other people might have a different threshold. Eg you not understanding the ‘pearl necklace’ meaning is making me think you are particularly’innocent’ ☺️

When I was a kid in primary and The Bad Touch by Bloodhound Gang came out, it definitely got played at our parties, along with Sex on the Beach. I remember hearing Horny as a kid but I think the local DJs managed not to play that one to church halls full of children.

My 14yr old granddaughter makes me laugh when she sings or nah with the face she pulls when she says nah.

Ok. I will post the lyrics.

I have never heard the pearl necklace song. If the lyrics run, "let me put this pearl necklace into your pussy" they yes I'll concede it's quite bad.

So here is the song. As a reminder, there were five year olds at the party.

I gotta lotta cash (Mustard on that beat ho)
I don't mind spendin' it, yeah
I'ma smoke this joint then I'ma break you off
I'd be lying if I said you ain't the one
All these tattoos in my skin they turn you on
Lotta smoking, drinking, that's the shit I'm on
Heard you not the type that you take home to mom
Is we fucking when we leave the club or nah?
I ain't spending cash for nothing, I wanna see you take it off
I'ma pop this bottle, you gon' give me brain or nah?
Heard you from the hood, you rep that thing or nah?
Gotta lotta ass, you gon' shake that thing or nah?
Heard you smoke blunts, you down with paper planes or nah?
I feel like I'm Tony, you my boss? I'm thinking nah
The whole world I take it on
You gonna run it for these hundreds girl or nah?
Show me is you really 'bout your money girl or nah?
Don't play with a boss, girl take it off
Take it for a real one, you gon' get it all (oh yeah)
Is you really 'bout your money or nah?
Can you really take dick or nah?
Can I bring another bitch or nah?
Is you with the shits or nah?
Or nah, or nah
Would you ride for a nigga or nah?
Would you die for a nigga or nah?
Would you lie to a nigga or nah?
Or nah
Can you really take dick or nah?
Can I bring another bitch or nah?
Is you with the shits or nah?
Or nah, or nah
Would you ride for a nigga or nah?
Would you die for a nigga or nah?
Would you lie to a nigga or nah?
Or nah
Girl make that ass clap for young Dolla $ign
You already know my money go a long time
I could slide for it, like Nelly (like Nelly)
I'ma go as far as you let me (yeah yeah)
Girl is you sucking me or fucking me or nah?
Can I bring another bitch? Lets have a threesome
Keep saying you's a freak you gon' prove it or nah? (Yeah)
His bitch keep lookin' at me, she choosin' or nah?
You's a ride or die chick, you with the shit or nah?
Say you not a side bitch, you all in or nah?
You gon' make them eggs cheesy with them grits or nah?
Can you do it like that, on this dick or nah?
You gonna run it for these hundreds girl or nah?
Show me is you really 'bout your money girl or nah?
Don't play with a boss, girl take it off
Take it for a real one, you gon' get it all
Is you really 'bout your money girl or nah?
Can you really take dick or nah?
Can I bring another bitch or nah?
Is you with theshits or nah?
Or nah, or nah
Would you ride for a nigga or nah?
Would you die for a nigga or nah?
Would you lie to a nigga or nah?
Or nah
Can you really take dick or nah?
Can I bring another bitch or nah?
Is you with the shits or nah?
Or nah, or nah
Would you ride for a nigga or nah?
Would you die for a nigga or nah?
Would you lie to a nigga or nah?
Or nah
Gon make that ass clap
Gon make that ass clap
Ma-ma-make that ass clap
Gon' make that ass clap

I remember being about 5 and knowing all the words of Shaggy’s ‘it wasn’t me’ and singing it in the car on the way Christmas shopping thinking I was class. When I heard it as an adult I actually text my mum and said wtf why was I allowed to know that song??

😂
I was very much a late comer to this song. DH stuck it on in the car once when I was driving. Damn near crashed it. He asks me every year whether I'd like jewellery for birthday or Christmas and I know exactly what he's offering...🙄

@MrsRuldolph @mrsDracoMalfoy Yes that one!

All songs are about sex. Except perhaps "My Favourite Things" (ironically) from the Sound of Music.
It'll be fine.

Such a missed opportunity to title this post 'AIBU or nah?'

(You're not entirely wrong though)

QueenMegan the film I think is quite innocent really. And which Bonnie Tyler song are you talking about?

People who say "or nah?" are very irritating, even when they're not being disgusting. I hope this song puts an end to the practice.

Funny seeing a thread about "music these days" and it's about Or Nah, which is nearly a decade old

Also funny, but more in a sad way, to think about all the stand-up arguments I had with my parents over inappropriate song lyrics, and thinking that my generation would be so much more open-minded, then seeing people my age or even younger repeating the whole pearl-clutching routine as if they've forgotten the rude songs they used to love, or why the point of pop is to outrage parents etc etc

Off to blast WAP now though so this thread has at least boosted my Sunday morning

Yeah, you tell us, @gannett . You're very cool and down with the kids.

I remember when I worked in primary school dinners and one Christmas lunchtime they had music on and were playing Rockstar and all the teachers where singing their heads off. Now I love that song and in the great scheme of things it's not that bad but seriously did they not realise what they singing.

I can remember dancing to let's talk about sex.
Also, push it push it some more - sweat till you can't take no more......I used to sing to it aged about 10.
Suck on my chocolate salty balls.
Come here rude boy is you big enough? I don't know what the lyrics were for that song, sounded dirty.

YANBU that the songs are ridiculous and getting more daring.