To be horrified to learn that there are men .. TMI warning

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This is not a men bashing thread
There are actual adult men that are unaware that periods can't be controlled like other body fluids and that pads and tampons are there in case of leaks. That we can hold it in until we visit the toilet.

At first I thought bullshit, then I realised, actually how would they know unless someone specifically pointed out the difference. I can't remember ever being told this, because I started in primary school before I learned about it at school.

I discovered this from a Reddit post so probably bs that a single parent man who was probably quite poor and thought that his daughter was wasteful/ too lazy to just not wait to visit the toilet.

I have never in my life met any man that thought this, but then again, I have never asked, but then I think about how many millions of people are uneducated about things that don't really affect them.

This is batshit, right ?

Well yes, I don't advocate holding it in if it causes you pain and actually once whilst heavily pregnant waddling around mother care one just happened rather loudly, I had no control over that instance 😬😂

Whoever actually knows this shit to be fair, since you would assume even the least educated woman should know, but not all men - hence the thread.

Nope, can't. Not since my first child ripped me to my arsehole as they came out. I'm fucked down there.

I can hold farts in!

Can’t say I’m surprised. I doubt that dh once ever had a clue about periods, apart from the extreme basics. An all-boy family, attending all-boys schools, and he hardly studied any biology - unless they were planning on being medics, it was considered a girls’ subject!

It wasn’t that long ago that I realised he knew zero about such a basic fact of life on earth as photosynthesis! And his senior school was an elite, very academic one.
But that was decades ago - I fervently hope things have changed.

Goodness, I'm so sorry.

I was told this when mine started, and accepted it as true without knowing why for far too long! I don't know, but I suspect it might date back a few generations to when poorer families would have used the same bathwater for multiple people. It makes sense in that case.

I was also told that virgins shouldn't use tampons and that under no circumstances should periods be mentioned to men or boys, and that all evidence of them should be hidden away. So it doesn't really surprise me that some men don't have a clue about how they work.

(This was in the late 1990s! But I suspect some of it was passed down from my maternal grandmother born c. 1910 - my mother was a surprise late-in-life baby for her.)

@ActDottie Glad someone else remembers that lad (he was 17 or 18 I think).
Imagine being so arrogant and ignorant that he "knew" he knew better than millions of women!

Not if the dad is as misinformed as some of those referenced on here 😂😭

I have always been honest with boys(not every single detail) but 4year old knows girls bleed and there ok its just something that happens for a few days and tampons and pads is to stop the blood going everywhere. He knows to that some babies come out your belly but most come out your nanny.

My first boyfriend, decades ago, accused me of deliberately having a period every month because it should only once every 3 months.

Always shagged in the dark in the missionary position?

The mystifying thing is everyone knows you can't hold or sniff up a nosebleed so why do they think you can hold period blood in 🤔

Hang on? There are actually people who believe we can control this? If that was the case, why would we be sticking random tubes of what is frankly cotton wool into our innards to stop it leaking out?? And all the girls and women who’ve had a random really heavy flow and leaked onto their clothes in public…..did it because they wanted to?? As someone who is so utterly sick of dealing with periods I WISH we could control them, I really do!

I once had a boyfriend who thought girls just had one period in their life, and that was it.
He wasn't a teenager either! 😳

When I was at college, a male friend thought that boobs came fully loaded with milk. So if you had big boobs you had a lot of milk and not so much in an A cup.

😂If only!

Wait, you were having his baby but he'd never seen your genitals???

My ex husband thought this when we met. He was 26.

When we had our first child a few years later, he thought I could “push out” milk to breastfeed him when he was hungry and he didn’t understand how I could struggle with supply.

I also had an ex who didn’t understand why women were “moody bitches” on their period because having a tampon in was like having a sex toy inserted all day, so they should be happy.

I must attract absolute fucking idiots.

A boy at 6th form confidently berated women for making such a fuss about the VAT on period products. After all, he said, a box of 20 tampons is only a few pounds and will last them almost 2 years…he thought we used one tampon per period…

I'm not at all surprised. My friends BF only learned in his 20s that women don't pee out their bum. Same with the people who think the vagina is where pee comes out, in fairness as someone mentioned above, its the same small hole for men. I didn't really know about ejaculation until i was old enough to be intimate with a boyfriend as a teenager, i knew it happened during sex to make babies but didn't realise it happened outside the female body. I also didnt know foreskin was a thing. I had no sex ed at school or home, just basics on how babies are made in science.

It's madness now I think of it, that was 1990s. In Ireland, at least in my school, we weren't allowed sex ed, even in science we had to be told it was only after marriage although I remember my teacher saying 'I have to say this but I don't agree..'. I remember a sub teacher told us about condoms and made us promise not to say it. We all knew of course by then.

TBF, I do remove my tampon when I pee, otherwise I find the string can get in the way and get wet or some pee dribbles to the tampon area and inevitably then gets soaked into the tampon. I change mine every time pee.

It had never occured to me that men would think this. It also doesn't make any sense as menstruation is often referred to as "bleeding", and everyone knows you can't control actual blood flow. Although on this note, I've had a boyfriend who thought period blood was actual blood.

I can't talk. Embarrassed to say that I'm one of the women being ridiculed on this thread who didn't know that women don't pee out of their vagina, I was in my 20s when I found out. No defence other than my mum's idea of period education was to tell me to "Just ask your friend Sarah", and my school's sex ed consisted of one hour in which a man came in to talk to the whole class, girls and boys included, at 13. He confidently told us that periods don't really hurt, women are just grumpy at that time of the month because "they have to wear a nappy". Then he told us that you're more likely to get pregnant if you don't shave as rough pubic hair is what breaks condoms. All the while our female class teacher stood there in silence...

Look up Roe vs Bros - an American woman interviewing men after Roe vs Wade was overturned to highlight why men should not be voting and making decisions on women's bodies as so many of them have zero idea how they work. Remember that senator who said women couldn't get pregnant from rape because the body has a way of 'shutting that down'.

The disgust, misunderstanding and ignorance we have about our own bodies in all societies is very disappointing.

I remember drawing endless graphs about the thickness of the uterine lining through the month and diagrams of the egg etc but never understood what all that meant in terms of getting pregnant until I was actually trying.

Yes i remember this, he was a teenage incel so not really surprised