To be horrified to learn that there are men .. TMI warning

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This is not a men bashing thread
There are actual adult men that are unaware that periods can't be controlled like other body fluids and that pads and tampons are there in case of leaks. That we can hold it in until we visit the toilet.

At first I thought bullshit, then I realised, actually how would they know unless someone specifically pointed out the difference. I can't remember ever being told this, because I started in primary school before I learned about it at school.

I discovered this from a Reddit post so probably bs that a single parent man who was probably quite poor and thought that his daughter was wasteful/ too lazy to just not wait to visit the toilet.

I have never in my life met any man that thought this, but then again, I have never asked, but then I think about how many millions of people are uneducated about things that don't really affect them.

This is batshit, right ?

My mother would have fits of horror if I left my packet of Vespre towels in the bathroom ... because DB and DF might see them.

I had a friend doing GCSE biology who when a more adventurous friend announced she was using tampons said 'but don't you take them out to wee?'

And on an adventure holiday the boys were all marched of of the room so the girls could be told not to flush them down the loo.

That is the end of my 70s TED talk.

I always have a box of Tampax on view in both loos. Then if a visitor needs one (we’ve all been there), she can simply take one. It’s like providing loo paper really. It won’t scar make visitors for life.

ln a similar vein, while discussing how a woman “works”, more needs to be explained to men about our very best friend the Clitoris. Capital C deliberately used there because she deserves it 💕.

I was definitely NEVER told about the clitoris in early 1990s sex Ed in a Catholic school in the north west.

I don't think I even heard the word until I was much much older, maybe my late 20s. And for many years I thought it was the same thing as a g-spot.

First point absolutely.

Second I think is right as well - was about 22 before had too much of a clue about that. On the flip side I've met a few women who don't get that a bloke will generally cum much faster than a woman and there's a bit of recovery time😀

I am sorry to say that there are still many young men who have very little knowledge of female anatomy or periods. Especially boys in boys schools, with no sisters. Young male teachers will often also be a bit clueless. DD had one great teacher who could talk anything female related, as he had a twin sister, he was great.

Young boyfriends however, seem to still need to be given basic anatomy lessons. Why the hell mothers of these boys are not educating them, is beyond me. See also young boys getting all information on the female form from porn movies. Is it embarrassment?

@Moredarkchocolateplease and @ManAboutTown - I’m getting a signpost put up for mine 😂.

Will be singing this all day now.

I'll look out for it next time we're together😂

Thought of something else. Sanitary protection was kept in our bedroom when I was still living with my parents brother and my sister who was ten years older than me, we shared a bedroom and had cousins the same age as her and between they told me about periods before the school did.
Whenever Big Sis needed San Pro I’d be sent to the Chemists with a note to give to the assistant and a bag to carry them home with strict instructions not to tell anyone what was in the bag. (San Pro was kept behind the counter).
About the same time there was a tv programme, a medical drama series called Emergency ward 10 and watched it avidly. Me and a pal were upstairs in the bedroom playing Emergency Ward 10. I was the doctor.

This particular day was the day Big Sis had brought her new boyfriend home to meet The Parents. I didn’t know he was there and walked into the lounge wearing a sanitary towel strapped to my face with the loops around my ears like a surgical mask.
Pregnant silence..Mother was mortified, Big Sis horrified, our big bro sniggered and dad and Boyfriend tried not to laugh but failed, Boyfriend said he had six sisters and he wasn’t embarrassed at all.
Didn’t put him off, they were married for 60 years.

I have read through this thread with interest partly because no one has mentioned one aspect which affected me. I’m in my late 50s, so we had our talks about periods in primary school and secondary in the early and late 70s. Both in those talks and in anything I read later we were told that periods would be irregular, but would soon settle into a regular pattern. I think I was in my late 40s by the time I had what I would consider a regular cycle. I did once ask a doctor about it at the university clinic as I’d gone for a very long time (probably about 8 weeks) with no period (and no other reason). He was quite dismissive and I was too shy to push it further. He was probably right that it was stress, but gave me no opportunity to ask any follow up questions. As I’ve never had a circle of friends where we would discuss things like that I have never found out if I was unusual or if this normal.

To be fair I would think a lot of women don't know the first thing about the prostate gland .

Good point!

There used to be a club in t'North called the g-spot.

The joke was that it went bankrupt because nobody could find it.

The tampon should be fully inserted in the vagina and none of it sticking out. Apart from it being completely uncomfortable. Also might be that you have the wrong size in for the amount of blood.

It is fully inserted. Only part of the string it out.

So glad I started this thread for this alone 😂.

2 things, 1st, thank you for reminding me that san pro was automatically put into a bag when you paid for them - without question and 2nd , your story of wearing one as a mask with stay with me for a while 🤣🤣.

The only problem with leaving san pro in the main bathroom is.. I once caught my six year old son flinging my tampons out of his bedroom window at the front . I wouldn't mind but didn't get on with the then neighbour and had to rush out to get them before she saw what my son was doing 😂.

@Daffodilsandtuplips that's absolutely brilliant and sounds like something my younger dc would do in a similar situation!

I’m not really surprised. They’ve never had to deal with a period so why would they know?…..
I’m a 46 year old female and I know absolutely nothing about the menopause I’m fast approaching…. I also didn’t know much about pregnancy until I was pregnant…. No body tells you about the chance of (rather alarming) spotting while pregnant… when it happened to me I thought I was miscarrying…. I had no idea about the weird colour of the babies first poo etc…. We don’t know these things unless someone actually tells us…. And I guess as with most things in life, we learn about them on a pretty much need to know basis!

I have a male friend who thought that women only needed to use one pad/tampon a day. Had to explain that at best that would cause a god almighty mess and at worst horrible infections/death.

I'm not that surprised that some men are unaware, it's not something that they themselves will be taught in any great detail and I don't think many women go around talking about the details of their periods to any great extent

That is typical Kansas.

My son once put them in a Nerf gun, he didn't know what they were really for.

When I was about 8 my friend ( male) once used the applicators (emptied of some annoying bits of fluff inside) to create a fantastic marble run in an empty box. He brought it out at their New Year’s Eve party and neither of us could figure out why it was generating such amused interest from the adults. I mean it was quite good, but after all the marble kept sticking in the bends …

YOU URINATE VIA YOUR URETHRA! Urine doesn't go ANYWHERE NEAR your Tampon or your Vagina!

Out of interest, does anyone know a good site to get useful information about how male and female body parts (privates) actually work in a child-friendly but educational way? As a mother I feel it’s my responsibility to teach them this and not leave it to schools or chance but any good sites would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance xx