Drinking all weekend?

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Every weekend, and then living the working week as though that was another me and I don't relate.

How old are you and what other responsibilities do you have? How much are you drinking and is it affecting your health?

Work hard play hard!

I'm in my 40s, it's just slowly crept up, summer bbq's with friends and a few drinks, meeting friends for a drink, staying in with dh and having a drink or going out for a drink.
Xmas is coming so arranging to meet for Xmas drinks.
Lots of our friends and family are the same.
Dc grown up now and it's just become a way of life.

I think I'm just looking for someone to say, yes that's totally normal behaviour we all do this.

@muddlingthrou I would say I drink a lot so probably a binge drinker, but I don't "need" it I can take it or leave it but once I've started I can't just have one.

For me no, not anymore. But a serious health condition, not caused by drinking but drinking would make worse but a stop to my boxes of wine. Must say I don’t miss it. I do have a glass of wine if I go for a meal sometimes, but I am usually glad to switch to tea. I don’t enjoy being drunk anymore, and I certainly don’t miss the paranoia. I was a bad drunk too, I definitely drank too much and it wasn’t good for me. My adult son has stopped drinking, very proud in his mid 20’s he recognised it was becoming a problem, not touch even so much as a sip since 5yrs ago last week. I have friends from school (we are all 47 now) who still get hammered every weekend, it does feel a bit odd to me now and sad their entire weekend life revolves around drink (especially one, who would make her kids sit in pubs weekend daytime)

once I've started I can't just have one
You have a drinking problem

You must know its unusual. You're a bit younger than me, but I'm not sure how many people I know wouldn't recognise their workday self from their weekend self.

It's not normal for me tbh.

How many units do you think you drink over the course of a weekend, and what is the recommended maximum? Therein lies your answer.

I'm 8 years sober, I also couldn't just have one.

I had a drink Friday and Saturday night (three Friday, two Saturday) and then I had two mimosas with brunch today. This is generally about standard for me. I don’t class that as drinking all weekend and there’s not a massive difference in how I act compared to being completely sober. I don’t have a hangover or feel rubbish. I’m 29. If you are “drinking all weekend” and feeling like the you who drinks is massively different to the usual you - I think that’s a problem. Especially if you’re seeking others saying that it is ok.

It sounds like a lot to me. You need to quantify it - how much exactly?

I'm mid 30s and before I had DC, I used to drink way too much. A drink every night and more on the weekends. One of my shameful secrets is that I knew pregnancy and parenthood would be the kick up the backside I needed to tone down my drinking (obviously not drinking at all during pregnancy, before someone suggests otherwise) and it worked. I barely drink now. There is nothing worse than parenting with a hangover! But OP I guess if your DC are grown you don't have the same responsibilities and need to be sober. But you do need to reign it in a bit because being totally honest, from someone who's been there, it's not normal.

Yes and no. If I am not careful, i can have one too many on friday (eg after work drinks), one too many on Saturday (eg with DH or friends) and then a boozy lunch on Sunday.

But I hate drinking and feeling shite all weekend. So I really make an effort to have one booze-free day/evening and then only 2 drinks on the other drinking day/night.

We don't all do it.

Can you make your meet ups with friends more food or activity based?

I can easily pack away a little of bailies or the best part of two bottles of wine on a Friday night and then repeat on Saturday.
I've always had a high tolerance but for 5"2 I know it's a lot and I do tend to crash out suddenly at the end of an evening.

I always have a drink on a Friday and Saturday. Usually a bottle and a half of wine spread out over 2 nights. I live alone with 2 dc and rarely go out so don't really have anything else to do on a weekend once the dc are asleep. Is it the amount you're drinking that's worrying you?

Ok, that is a lot and not normal. I think you must realise this really.

Unless I've misunderstood, you only drink Sat and Sun? I don't see the problem.

Maybe once upon a time. It took me a long time to be able to acknowledge to myself that it was exacerbating my auto immune disorder. Just had a weekend away with some of our oldest friends without drinking. Zero regrets, had a brilliant time, they all drank, I didn’t and it was totally fine. It is doable and honestly, no one notices or cares.

Try a weekend night next weekend. You can do it.

Yes I probably am starting to worry about it but I don't know a sober life at the moment, my dh drinks, all our friends are drinkers and my family like to drink. I don't how I could be sober in when my life and everyone in it is very different.
I would think they'd support my decision but carry on without me.
Cutting down isn't an option, I know I couldn't just have one.

I do this, as do all if my friends. Work hard during the week. Weekends are dinner parties, meals out, long, boozy Sunday lunches.

Is it social drinking as in a few with friends as is pretty normal this time of year or do you feel as though there’s a problem? Could you happily have a weekend off or does the thought make you uncomfortable? It does sound like a lot but I have a rubbish tolerance for alcohol and just end up feeling unwell if I drink too much so probably not the best judge.

There’s no “only” about it. Say a bottle of wine has 10 units, and the OP has two each on the two weekend days - that’s a whopping 40 units, and that doesn’t even include the Baileys. The maximum advised is 14 units per week.

I'd absolutely never give it a thought during the week.