Drinking all weekend?

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Every weekend, and then living the working week as though that was another me and I don't relate.

I find it’s fine to enjoy yourself on the weekend but 1 litre of Bailey’s in 1 night is a hell of a lot. Why not have 1 night drinking on the weekend, arrange something with your DH that doesn’t involve drinking (after Christmas now I guess)

How old are you @Tailfeather if you don't mind me asking?

A litre? I thought she meant a little Baileys.

No it’s not normal for me.
Dh very rarely drink now. A drink at a bbq in summer or glass of wine at a dinner out and that’s it. We often go months with no alcohol.
We Have to drive home meaning one of us can’t drink anyway, and at home have a toddler who still needs looking after. I wouldn’t want to be looking after a small
child drunk or with major hangover.

@Eve223 46.

We don't get utterly trollied! But booze is definitely a common factor of our socialising, but this is across parent friends from school, work mates, old friends, neighbours etc.

Sounds like you and your H have a drink problem.

Sounds normal to me. I only drink one of the days at weekends and not every weekend but I have lots of friends who drink lots more than you on Friday and Saturdays.

A lot of people do it. But how do you fit in gorgeous day trips and exercise and hobbies?

One definition of addiction is a gradual narrowing of things that give you pleasure and a focus on one: in this case, alcohol.

How's your weight OP? Apart from being 17 units, a litre of Baileys is 3280 calories.

That’s an awful lot to have on a regular basis. I think the fact you’re asking about it here indicates you’re concerned about it. I’m in my 40s and have a glass of wine or two an evening, and I feel that’s not healthy. I gave up drinking for three months once and felt amazing, lost weight, had more time for hobbies and slept so much better. Really hard to do when your social life revolves around drinking though

Completely irrelevant. Why do the weight police always have to jump onto these threads?

I see what you mean.
Is it addiction though if I don't give it a thought all week and can take it or leave it at the weekend?

I don't doubt there's definitely a binge element but I can go out without drinking during a day out and I don't feel any cravings.
If I don't drink for a few weeks I get a terrible hangover when I do, until I build my tolerance back up.

If you can drink two bottles of wine in one sitting and repeat that the following night then you have a problem. I would be absolutely hammered after that amount of alcohol. 6 units is about my limit and even then I can end up with a hangover then next day, and I'm younger than you OP. I usually have a few on a Friday/Saturday/Sunday, I think that is fairly normal, but quantity is everything.

Perfectly reasonable question, I am petite at 5"2 but there's definitely a belly which is disproportionate to my skinny arms and legs.
I know this is the drink and the food the drink leads to.

I think the fact that you are asking shows that some part of you realises that this is not good for you, whether it is normal or not is another question. The majority of people drink more units than what is recommended, although recent studies have shown that there are no benefits to drinking alcohol.
I am younger than you and have a stressful job, so used to live for the weekend, until I got bored of being hungover until Tuesday & feeling depressed after drinking.

You should be listening to your body here not building up a tolerance again.

If it really is a litre of Baileys on top of two bottles of wine, repeated over two days, that would be (10 + 10 + 17) x2 = 74 units.

My DH had a very serious drinking problem. Hospitalised twice. I thought if I shared a bottle of wine each night it would stop him drinking the whole bottle!! Hahaha.

So I was drinking almost 4 bottles a week and he was drinking the other half bottles with me.....then all the rest hidden round the house. Once I realised this I just stopped completely. This was 8 years ago. I am not even tempted now. Had a blood cancer during the 8 years and chemo put me completely off even starting again.
For your health cut down or stop. You know you are drinking too much. It can be done. Just because everyone else drinks too much, doesn't make it less dangerous to your health. Liver cancer and cirrhosis creeps up.

No not both, just one or the other.

It's not completely irrelevant. If she is consuming an extra 4000 calories a week on a regular basis, then she MAY be increasing her levels of visceral fat. This could compromise her liver. And as her liver appears to be getting a battering on a fairly regular basis, she may be creating herself some problems that will be difficult to do anything about by the time she is aware of it.

I love a drink but then saying that on mumsnet means you are an alcoholic.

Do what’s right for you OP.

Is it addiction though if I don't give it a thought all week and can take it or leave it at the weekend?

But you don’t take it or leave it at the weekend. You just take it!

Is it having any negative impact?

But it’s not right for her - clearly.

It's normal for some people to drink the amount you do, yes.

However, we don't ask if our behaviour is normal unless we're unsure about it. I'm a recovering alcoholic and I also can't just have one drink, because I can't stop at one (over 1 year sober!).

Does this mean you're an alcoholic? Not necessarily, however I would classify your drinking as 'binge drinking', which does count under an 'alcohol use disorder' spectrum.

I think we often think of people who abuse alcohol as people who drink to excess daily, but in reality it's a progressive disease and full dependency is really one of the later stages. I could certainly go all week without drinking, until one day I couldn't, however, this isn't true for everyone.

I would recommend watching Adrian Chiles documentary drinkers like me, which is on youtube, it's a documentary focused around middle aged and middle class drinkers, might give you some food for thought.

My weekend drinking turned into week night drinking. I never drank before 18:00 during the week and very rarely at the weekends but it became a problem. Now 16 months sober. I feel fabulous, physically and mentally. I could never stop at one.