Drinking all weekend?

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Every weekend, and then living the working week as though that was another me and I don't relate.

Go back and read what the OP has said. And then come back to me. @WashItTomorrow

I'd like to say no, it's always fun and social, although I do feel absolutely tired out the next day.

I’d say we do all do it and it’s normal. Depending on your background and class if I’m honest. If you’re a pisshead on benefits then sadly it seems worse than being a MC mum having drinks with the girls. I’ll probably get flamed for that but it’s true.

It’s not normal or healthy. Sadly, a lot of people do it though. Get the help you need to stop completely & enjoy life booze free.

It is a lot. Try having a soft drink every other drink during a session.

Thank you, I will give it a watch and well done for your years sobriety.

I've had two alcoholic drinks this year and will probably have a glass of wine and/or a lager on Christmas Day. So I'm not saying I'm never drinking again but feel some much better without alcohol in my life. No hangover. No stinking of stale booze the next day. Saved a fortune. So many benefits and don't feel I'm missing out at all. Would your husband join you in a dry January to see how you get on?

I do it. I am completely professional and like butter wouldn't melt all week and then the weekend hits and I party and drink and then spend Sunday hating myself. It's no life really, and I need to sort it out. Early 30s here.

You are drinking too much OP.

No judgement here, though - I was drinking too much at one point and eventually (it took me a few goes) stopped.

Just reading through the thread. I also have around 1.5-2 bottles on a Friday and Saturday night and regularly pass out.

I think its very common to drink like this in this country, but no, it’s not healthy, obviously. Not just physically unhealthy, but bad for the soul. Who needs hangovers, wasted days, not being able to have fun without a substance once you’re in your 40s? It’s a bad look.

I gave up drinking a few years ago and am amazed by how much more fun life is now it doesn’t revolve around drinking at weekends.

I love a drink but then saying that on mumsnet means you are an alcoholic.

No it doesn't. That's just something people say to make themselves feel better about their drinking habits, by making out that it's the moderate drinkers who are not normal. It's perfectly possible to love a drink but not be someone who can't stop until they've drunk two bottles of wine. If the OP thought it was fine, she wouldn't have posted.

Dh is a tomorrow never comes kind of man, he has a beer belly and eats the wrong food but I've lost count the amount of times he's started a new diet or as he puts it a "new me" from next week, next month, next year - no more beer and I'm going to start eating healthier!
And then cheers to that! followed by a "well I'll just eat and drink what I've got in" ... then buys more.
I can't see he'll ever change because I know he doesn't really want to, he's happy and that's fine.

Your body, your choice.

Have a read of This Nakd Mind or The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober.

Thank you, I'll look into that.

I don’t do this and never did. I can have gin and tonic or Baileys with coffee on some weekends or a bottle of wine to share with DH but it won’t be each weekend.
The criteria for me is that you can’t have one drink and then stop. It’s worrying.

If you’re in your 40’s then you may find that you go off alcohol soon. I just don’t fancy it anymore really apart from the odd glass of wine.

I don’t think what you do is a problem. It might not be ‘healthy’ but then lots of things aren’t. Enjoying the weekend with sociable drinks is a pleasure.

Although a litre of baileys and I’d vomit from the sheer richness of it!

You're drinking 40 portions of Baileys in a weekend. Of course it's not normal. I hope you are able to get some help

I would stop describing yourself as being able to ‘take it or leave it’ if you can’t stop at one. That’s most definitely not being able to ‘leave it’. Sounds like ‘all or nothing’ mentality, which is very unhealthy.

Cutting down isn't an option, I know I couldn't just have one.

Sorry, OP, I love a drink as much as the next person but this is BS. Of course it’s an option, you just choose not to. If you truly feel it is not an option then you are most definitely addicted to alcohol and are an alcoholic.

Plenty of people do drink through the whole weekend. It's "normal" in many circles in the sense that everyone does it. It doesn't make you an alcoholic. But that also doesn't mean it's healthy.

Part of the problem with alcohol is that people take cues from the people around them as to what's "normal" and "healthy". If the people around you are heavy drinkers they may be giving you a false sense of security.

I drank every weekend night without fail for about 25 years and thought it totally normal because everyone I knew did it. I now drink almost nothing because I got to a point where I didn't want all my social life to revolve around it and because I was worried about the impact it would have on my long-term health. It's one thing in your 20s/early 30s. It's quite a different matter when you're approaching middle age and have children and a demanding job. And I lost some friends in the process.

If most of the people in your social circle think drinking steadily through the weekend is normal you will have to work harder at this and you will have to be quite determined about your own boundaries. But it absolutely can be done. You will probably find that some of the people in your life meet you half way and the rest will sort of fall away.

I drink fri/sat/sun evening usually around 12 units a week. I can happily have one or two and can have none although I do enjoy it. I tend to drink more on a group as opposed to me n dh.

Ha ha I'm so not the weight police!