To think I have a really crappy family?

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Little ones birthday today. DH’s family all called really early to chat to him. No one in my side called! I call and send cards and presents regularly to nieces/nephews but not one happy birthday. I just sent a message in my family WhatsApp saying “it’s (name) birthday today!” Should I have done that or just left it? My dad just said we forgot. To think it’s quite awful? He’s the youngest of all the kids and I feel he often gets overlooked compared to the older ones of my siblings.

Happens a lot in families , and yes it hurts . I hope your ds had a lovely day.

I remember when we used to get my dh (5) nieces & nephews birthday & Christmas presents.

First Christmas after we'd had our first they decided to stop gift buying so my dcs have never received a present from them.

that side of the family don't enrich OPs children's lives, and the other children get all the attention they need from their families.

Or do you think OPs children should grow up watching her mum give children in the family attention and love while they get nothing? and their mum / dad just let that happen? there is no way I'd let that happen to my DCs

I feel your pain! I’m NC with my family but DH’s family are like yours. No interest in my kids as dh is the youngest by a lot so our kids are all much younger than the other grandkids who got all the attention. The eldest GC is in his 30’s and my youngest is 10! By the time ours were born the in-laws were almost bored with grandkids! Breaks my heart but not much I can do about it. Dh refuses to ever call them out on it. He says he won’t give them the satisfaction of drama because that’s what they thrive on. But it’s just that he won’t rock the boat. Even my 4 Sils would never say happy birthday to my kids, and they don’t ‘do’ cards.

This is too much of a normal and sensible response. Is far more satisfying to get angry with family and go all NC etc and deny your kids of any relationship with them. My mother didn’t always get anything for my DC on birthdays etc and at times has given one GC something but not necessarily the other but she has a great relationship with them now they are adults

Bit of a pathetic response there @Ren34 . The op isn't talking about her kid occasionally having his birthday forgotten, its much deeper than that. You implying its pathetic to go nc totally disregards the reasons people do. Its not taken lightly.