To wonder where you'd say this person is from

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This is about my sons gf - she knows I'm posting and is ok with it.

Where would you say this person is "from"

She was born in Country A, this country gives passports to anyone born there, but neither of her parents are from there and she only lived there until she was 2, has a passport from this country

Mother is from Country B - lived there for 2 years when a child, has a passport from this country

Father is from Country C - lived there for 2 years when a child, has a passport for this country

Has been living in country D for 4 years since turning 18 - the longest she has lived in any country

The 12 unaccounted years of childhood were spent between 5 other countries 2-3 years in each.

She speaks 3 languages with similar prominence, if asked what her "mother tongue" was she would say I don't know, at home she spoke language 1 with one parent language 1 with the other and 3 was the language they spoke between them.

DH is adamant she is from country A, always tells people this.
I'm not sure this is the right choice and the girl herself just says European and answers the specifics if asked more

AIBU to want to know where most would say she is from?

I have a similar background.

When asked I’ve always said ‘Country A’ or ‘I’m half B and half C’. My answers depend on how is asking, why they are asking and how chatty I am feeling at the time.

Sh (and your DH) might be interested in some research done by David Matsumoto on cultural psychology which has shown that we tend to identify with the minority influence or the ‘other’. In other words, if we can claim heritage from countries B and C, we will say B if in country C, and we will say C if in country B. That is not a hard and fast rule, just a tendency.

She's obviously too polite to say "It really is none of your business-for the love of God haven't you got anything more interesting to think about??"

My kids are what is known as “Third Culture Children”. They were born in the same country as their parents but spent their formative years in another country. They speak the language fluently but always felt “foreign” there. Now we are all back in our home country, and they speak their native language fluently also, they feel just as “foreign.”

My daughter's an Army brat, lived here since 7 but as they have a better football team claims a different country when it suits!

I mean- I know my DD's boyfriend's heritage because he has family he visits "back home" and there have been necessary discussions about passports and visas which have led to less necessary ones about food and cooking and so on. I know where my son's girlfriend was born because it was in the same hospital as he was a week apart. And I know she has a British passport because I booked a holiday. It has never occurred to ask where her parents are "from"....

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Can you explain to your H that his inquisition is quite rude, and completely unnecessary.

If he lived in the US and was undertaking this sort of nit picking his motives would be considered very suspect.

@mathanxiety "If he lived in the US and was undertaking this sort of nit picking his motives would be considered very suspect."
Pretty suspect in the UK too, to be honest!

Once we were going through passport control in a European country and the agent said 'Father passport A born in country B. Mother passport B born in country C. Children passport D. Which is the real nationality?' I answered 'all of them', so he said 'have a good day, European family'.

About sums it up.

Lost me at A B C nonsense - YABU