To want revenge on my neighbours?

[CocoPopsAddict]

For deciding to have a loud party until 2am? Not the first time. One of the other neighbours must have called the council or something as somebody turned up to tell them to keep it down (I couldn't quite see who, didn't look like a police car).

Cul de sac of ten houses. Wasn't so much the music as the large amount of people spilling from their front door, shouting and swearing in the street until gone 2. My bedroom faces the front.

I'd quite like to find a way of waking them up now, without waking my other neighbours who are probably also knackered.

AIBU? And... any suggestions? Without getting myself into trouble.

Have you never had a party? Ddp your children. Never disturb them ?

Live and let live

All over our neighbourhood Facebook page is a cat alarm!!!!

ita driving people nuts. That’s a good idea!

Buy a job lot of those personal keyfob alarms off eBay. Very cheap, very loud. Activate and pop through letterbox at 5.40am. Every time there is a party.

I think you really need to unpack and think about being the type of person who thinks revenge would be a good idea to begin with. Is this what success looks like to you.

Do you think you may have underlying anger issues that are not being dealt with?

I think Charlize has never had persistently noisy neighbours.

YouTube has a 7 hour dog barking video....

Exactly. Any reasonable adult would want to sort it out and talk to them, not plan petty revenge.

Don't knock it till you've tried it!

If it's a one off I'd leave it. If, as you say, it happens regularly, I think you need to say something. Maybe a note through the door?

Send them catalogues - plenty of catalogues.

Surely in this instance an unskilled trumpeter is in fact what is called for? 🤔

Perhaps it was a birthday, in which case why not help them celebrate with a never ending Birthday card?

You can also get ones that are goats yelling for four hours. Option on glitter.

They're blatantly not reasonable adults themselves. They're not the kind of people I feel I can reason with, given what I was hearing last night (in terms of content... there was some fighting, not 'call the police' level fighting but pushing and shoving).

Do you think you might have been watching too many two-a-penny motivational videos from dubiously qualified 'therapists' on tiktok or Instagram?

THIS IS THE ONE!

I did try it once - very successfully - but not against the neighbours though. I don't think it improved my life long term. It was successful in the sense that it had an impact at the time, but it didn't alter the overarching issue. I'm not really a fan of petty revenge.

Last night is not the same environment as the following day. If you don't feel able to talk to them, use the official channels available to you.

Having said that, most official channels will quite rightly want to know how you've attempted to resolve it on an informal basis - and those methods won't include anonymous petty revenge.

@CocoPopsAddict you're welcome!

Sincerely,
Evil Genius in Chief

Do you share a wall? Get a drum kit. piano lessons. A tuba.

Of course, besides revenge another option would be to go knock on their door and introduce yourself as a neighbour. Steer the conversation onto the questions of parties and try to find out if they are intending any more and when the next one will be... How many people will be attending? Is there loud music and dancing? Is alcohol supplied or are guests expected to bring their own?... Will there be food, finger buffet, snacks... Is dress casual or will that spangly sequinned dress that you bought on the spur of the moment from the Charity Shop and could make you look like Dame Edna but who cares... is it too much to wear? Don't forget to mention that you love a good bit of Karaoke and have all the kit (you may need to buy one) and would have no problem bringing it with you... then break into a rendition of Whitney's Greatest Love Of All.

Just a thought.

Honestly it's brilliant, thank you so much.

I'd suggest that you grow up.

I'm beginning to suspect you are my neighbour, haha.

I'm certainly willing to consider official channels although as I said, I think somebody called someone out last night. We live in an area with really good council services so I wouldn't be surprised if it was that... I don't think it was the police.

I'll hold that loud, glittery birthday card in reserve.

I really, really don't want to speak to them. It's not just about last night, this has happened several times and (ok, I sound like I am drip feeding), I've overheard plenty of the same sort of language etc during the day. They're just not nice, clearly I am not the only one pissed off with them but I'd rather they didn't think it was me tbh.

Mate, I'm not the one throwing repeated loud parties and pissing all my neighbours off like a stupid teenager when they are very clearly in their thirties or older.