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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To want revenge on my neighbours?

159 replies

CocoPopsAddict · 26/11/2023 06:28

For deciding to have a loud party until 2am? Not the first time. One of the other neighbours must have called the council or something as somebody turned up to tell them to keep it down (I couldn't quite see who, didn't look like a police car).

Cul de sac of ten houses. Wasn't so much the music as the large amount of people spilling from their front door, shouting and swearing in the street until gone 2. My bedroom faces the front.

I'd quite like to find a way of waking them up now, without waking my other neighbours who are probably also knackered.

AIBU? And... any suggestions? Without getting myself into trouble.

OP posts:
ACynicalDad · 26/11/2023 09:12

Take them some paracetamol, but ring the bell, thought this might be useful, I'm sure you have sore heads.

CocoPopsAddict · 26/11/2023 09:12

Thanks all. They're opposite neighbours. They do have a wall running alongside their property that encloses someone else's garden. Wondering if the kids need to go have a kick about over there, if they used that wall as their goal, it'd disturb the noise makers far more than it would anyone else.

I feel I have missed my opportunity somewhat this morning as thankfully I got back to sleep. Although their shutters are still closed over there so I guess we could still do it.

I'm taking note of all these wonderful suggestions for the next time... and sadly, I am sure there will be a next time.

OP posts:
CocoPopsAddict · 26/11/2023 09:13

ACynicalDad · 26/11/2023 09:12

Take them some paracetamol, but ring the bell, thought this might be useful, I'm sure you have sore heads.

Oh I love this. Just being a considerate neighbour. Brilliant!

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ASimpleLampoon · 26/11/2023 09:18

Get your kids to throw a ball in their garden and ask for it back. Very early and repeatedly.

Passepartoute · 26/11/2023 09:19

CatOnTheCludgy · 26/11/2023 06:50

8am mow the lawn!

In late November, when it's been incredibly wet?

pinkstripeycat · 26/11/2023 09:21

I’m with you OP but can’t think of a way to disturb the party people without upsetting the neighbours.

Maybe post a small noisy child’s toy on repeat through the letterbox. Nope, stupid idea. You want to be subtle so they don’t know it’s deliberate.

Or have a party and invite all the neighbours expect for the party people. Nah too much effort.

There isn’t much you can do really.

pinkstripeycat · 26/11/2023 09:22

ASimpleLampoon: good one
ACynicalDad: also good

Passepartoute · 26/11/2023 09:24

I'm taking note of all these wonderful suggestions for the next time... and sadly, I am sure there will be a next time.

Have you tried asking them to have their next party somewhere else?

Sloth66 · 26/11/2023 09:35

I have a neighbour who in summer will cut the hedge dividing our front gardens at 6:30 am. My brother had a neighbour who was out mowing his lawn one Christmas Day- and split from his wife shortly afterwards.

Lovelyjubbbly · 26/11/2023 09:41

My neighbour is an absolute weirdo! She’s like 70 attacked me with a washing pole back in August because I used my OWN washing line she’s very controlling and thinks it’s her way or no way! I did just deal with her and let her do as she pleased for so long then I had enough my bedroom is above her bedroom and after I get the kids down to
sleep for around 9 I like to have chill time and catch up on what I’ve missed that day as soon as I go in to bed she hits the roof with a brush because the TV vibrates down baring in mind she’s not in her room she’s in the living room! This is just a couple of things she’s done I totally get what u mean for revenge let’s just say she doesn’t do any of that anymore I stood up to her and told her I will do as I please in my own time!

rainbowstardrops · 26/11/2023 09:45

I feel your pain! We used to live next door to a couple who didn't necessarily have big parties but they'd have people round very regularly and had their music absolutely blaring for hours and hours on end. It was soul destroying and made me quite unwell.
We did the whole council noise diary etc and they'd send them letters but they didn't take any notice really.
To those saying 'just go round and have a chat with them', that's not always possible. These oiks were drug dealers/drug users and I'd have ended up with a brick through my window!
We moved in the end 😕

Nightmarerels · 26/11/2023 09:51

Do you have DC? Get them recorders/any other instruments to practice first thing.

Lastarse · 26/11/2023 09:52

Country & western music or ballads played loudly in adjoining rooms on a Sunday morning, you can sing along too whilst hoovering, preferably with a Dyson.

SunsetApple · 26/11/2023 10:00

You are better off playing the long game and calling council environmental health, logging incidents, recording if you can and building up a picture so the council can take action.

user1471538283 · 26/11/2023 10:04

Yes do! In my experience noisy inconsiderate neighbors hate noise from others!

My horrible ex neighbor used to complain about her neighbour cutting his lawn at midday because it was annoying. Because sitting in a hot tub for 10 hours a day with loud music and shouting isn't at all annoying ...

OssieShowman · 26/11/2023 10:20

Send them a letter/card .. full of glitter and confetti. Anonymous of course.

MrsMoastyToasty · 26/11/2023 10:24

The finale of The 1812 Overture (the bit with the cannons) which obviously should be played at full volume might work.

Inheritanceconundrum · 26/11/2023 10:25

Absolutely go for revenge. It will make you feel so much better.

Inheritanceconundrum · 26/11/2023 10:27

Prawn juice through the letter box is a good one! 😉

maz210 · 26/11/2023 10:32

Take up learning the violin. Only practice at 7am the day after their parties, ideally in whatever room shares a wall with their bedroom.

LBFseBrom · 26/11/2023 10:44

How often do they do this? You say it isn't the first time but does it happen regularly or two or three times in a year? If the latter, I'd suck it up. If you are nice, they might invite you.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 26/11/2023 10:47

PastTheGin · 26/11/2023 09:03

We had neighbours like that! The next morning all other neighbours took turns mowing their lawn and then the children in the street all had to practice their musical instruments in the garden…

This is awesome, and makes me think neighbours can be a force for good!
please tell me that a marching band was improvised by the children - right outside the noisy twats?!

mrswhiplington · 26/11/2023 10:54

We've had our fair share of noisy neighbours. After one party that went on until 4am my DH decided to jet wash his car which is parked on our drive but close to their bedroom window. Gave it a really good clean.😄

QueenOfMOHO · 26/11/2023 11:01

Inheritanceconundrum · 26/11/2023 10:27

Prawn juice through the letter box is a good one! 😉

Oh I like this!

VickyEadieofThigh · 26/11/2023 11:01

Not an answer to the OP but we once had the police come to the door, having had a report that we were having a noisy party. It was about 10pm.

Amused, we let them in and introduced the two female friends we had round for dinner, sitting in our lounge with NO music on. Meanwhile, the party that had been reported - which was taking place at the house behind us - was in full swing and I took them into our back garden by way of illustration.

I'd like to say that the two officers simply said "Right - wrong house!" and left. Unfortunately, they stood there in confusion for a moment then said, "But HAVE you been playing very loud music this evening?"

I stood for a moment and then said, "You can HEAR the music now, can't you? It's coming from THAT house, isn't it?" After another silent moment of confusion, they said, "Right. We'd better go round there, then." As if there might have been any other choice to make...