Sleepovers

[Foodie27]

Would you let your child stay at a friends house where you know the mum well and there is just another older brother there?
if now what would say to your child about not?

Yes I would.

Is the older brother babysitting them while the mum goes out? Otherwise it would not even occur to me to not let her go because of an older brother - unless you have a reason to be concerned.

glaring omission

age

What is the rest of your question? Why is the older brother important?

No the brother just there. He’s 18. Just added that detail @Wolfpa as sometimes that seems to be an element to make people uneasy.

Oops sorry nearly 10 year old child @pitchblackstory

No reason to be concerned just a worrier @Mothership4two and struggle to rationalise my own thoughts at times

i wouldn’t be concerned

but i would be a bit 🤔 at inviting my 10 year old over for a sleepover and then going out and leaving them with her brother 🤷‍♀️

They aren’t leaving with brother sorry think I’ve muddled that up 🤣

wtaf

the brother is just… there?

ie the mother is also present?

OP is this is indeed the case, i truly truly think you need some professional support with this anxiety

Yes.

and there is just an older brother there

Do you see all older brothers as a potential threat or just this one in particular?

YABU - if you don't want your DD to go to sleepovers then just say no, but unless there are concerns then I don't see why it's even an issue?

My DD is a teen now and has been having sleepovers with friends and family since she was tiny and I've never had a single concern about where she was staying. My only caveat was that I'd met the parents at least once (when she was younger) and I knew who was in charge for the evening and that I had their number (and they had mine) in case of any issues and I would always send DD with a piece of paper in her bag with my phone number on, just in case she wanted to get in contact.

Gosh sometimes mumsnet is so attacking! It was a question to see if my worry is irrational which obviously it is in this case. I don’t know why people on here can’t be supportive and have to comment so rudely @Doseofreality

what are you on about? show me the “attacking” posts?

Never mind. People’s tones on here are never supportive don’t know why I asked!!

I would be wary because my first sexual experience was with a friend's older brother at a sleepover when I was 13.

Thanks @AhBiscuits this is my sort of concern.

Although the majority of posts make me see I am worrying about nothing so thanks for that

Yes it sounds fine
perhap something happened to op to make her anxious about things like this
its v unlikely that the 18 year old would even pay any attention to the girls at all and he will probably be out with his mates if it’s like any of the teenagers that I know

So true @MondayBags678

The fact you are so anxious about it. Would indicate you are not ready for your child to go to a sleepover

I wouldn't, you don't know this 18 year old young man.

Yes.

In fact my DD is off to a sleepover tonight and I've never even met the parents.