To refuse getting the neighbours parcels in

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There is a lovely couple staying on the flat below us that they are very often out and about. We are in very good terms but I have started getting pissed off that we have to get all their deliveries in. There is definitely one parcel a day, sometimes they can be two or three. Recently they were away for 4 days and they had 5 deliveries coming which we had to store until they are back. I appreciate you cannot always control when the deliveries come in but surely they knew that they will be away. We have a very narrow entrance (as we live in a period home) that is usually packed with a stroller, kids bike etc. plus I have to run 3 flights of stairs to open the delivery guy. AIBU to start refusing their deliveries? My partner is against that as they have occasionally. What should I do?

PS Even the EVRI delivery guy told me today that our neighbours have a parcel everyday and they are never there.

YANBU

YANBU. They’re taking the mick.

Yanbu. I'm happy to occasionally take my neighbours deliveries in (it's happened twice in the past year) but no way would I be doing it every day.

Ask them for a key so you can dump them in theirs. Might make them think twice about ordering stuff to be delivered while they're away

That's not fair.

Suggest that they need to put out a box for deliveries to be left in and mention no deliveries to neighbours in their notes.

The problem might be that delivery men will revert to contacting you to deliver the parcel even if they haven't been asked to. We don't want parcels left with neighbours because they are mainly air b and b and it disturbs them. Even though I always say don't leave with neighbours, they often try to. But you can refuse.

Other times the couriers just leave packages on the doorstep- would that be just as annoying for you?

But what harm is it doing you taking a parcel in. I regualerly tak eparcels in for neighbours and sometimes they take them in for me.

I don't find it an issue to popen the door and take one in.

I think op explained that the space taken by the parcels is making it difficult with the buggy etc

I get that there will be space taken up, but unless you are taking in a 3 piece suite and a week's food supply for a restaurant kitchen, I really can't see it's an issue.

Occasionally yes I'd take parcels in. Daily and multiple parcels would start to p!ss me off. I'd just say no. Especially if they are having things delivered while they are away, that's cheeky, knowing it doesn't matter because you'd be there to fetch them in.

Be more mumsnet, don't answer the door if you're not expecting anyone.

But she's not just opening the door, she's going up and down 3 flights of stairs. Not easy when it's every day and you have young kids.

Of course YANBU. You're not part of a delivery service. One every so often might be ok but not continually.

No way. Not all the time. If it's Amazon parcels then they can get it sent to a locker. I couldn't be dealing with parcels everyday, occasionally is fine

YANBU to refuse any deliveries that are causing you hassle. Just bear in mind that the favour (or rather lack of) might be reciprocated in future.

There are more options for collecting parcels these days (lockers, Collect Plus etc.) although I wish these were even more widespread.

What - you'd be happy doing that every single day, and sometimes more than one parcel? The OP also says it means taking three flights of stairs every time she answers the door.

I’d stop taking them. The neighbours aren’t going to know for sure that she’s refusing.. they might just think she’s out more. And some delivery drivers don’t leave them with neighbours anyway.

YANBU.
I don't take parcels in for neighbours anymore even though we have good relationships with them. In our last house I ended up with a similar situation to yours taking in daily boxes which they sometimes wouldn't pick up for a week. I don't want parcels cluttering up my hall and I don't want the responsibility of keeping them safe.
I don't have my own parcels delivered at home, they go to my workspace so I just don't answer the door to delivery drivers.

I don’t take parcels in because I don’t like my neighbours. I probably would do if I did, but I wouldn’t drop them round. Up to them to collect them.

Just say no to the delivery driver. If it’s usually the same driver could you ask him not to disturb you for neighbours parcels as they are getting multiple a day and it’s becoming annoying. Tbh if I wasn’t expecting a parcel or visitors I’d just not answer the door then you taking in the parcel isn’t an option. A few times of you declining they might decide to use a delivery locker or pick a ‘safe place’

Did they ask you to get their deliveries?

If not you can't blame them for your own actions.

Before you dismiss them as total CF, Evri and DPD routinely leave our parcels with the nearest terrace of houses to us... which is about 3/4 of a mile away! We hate it, have never asked them to do it and have asked the neighbours just to redirect the parcels up the track yet still the delivery drivers persist. So it may not be something they've asked the drivers to do...

I dont know why OP gets priority of space because she has a buggy?

She gets priority for what she chooses to keep in her own hallway. She wants to use HER hallway for her buggy, not for her neighbour's parcels.

OP is talking about the hall in her flat so not communal. So of course her buggy gets priority in her own flat

They are in the flat below, implies to me a shared access.