To refuse getting the neighbours parcels in

[karpouzi]

There is a lovely couple staying on the flat below us that they are very often out and about. We are in very good terms but I have started getting pissed off that we have to get all their deliveries in. There is definitely one parcel a day, sometimes they can be two or three. Recently they were away for 4 days and they had 5 deliveries coming which we had to store until they are back. I appreciate you cannot always control when the deliveries come in but surely they knew that they will be away. We have a very narrow entrance (as we live in a period home) that is usually packed with a stroller, kids bike etc. plus I have to run 3 flights of stairs to open the delivery guy. AIBU to start refusing their deliveries? My partner is against that as they have occasionally. What should I do?

PS Even the EVRI delivery guy told me today that our neighbours have a parcel everyday and they are never there.

I wouldn’t want to have to dash to the door all the time for someone else’s deliveries. If they’re nice, talk to them. Explain it wakes up the baby or you when you catch up on sleep after a disrupted night, or if you’re working it stops your flow. Say you’re happy to take in parcels occasionally and would appreciate if they did the same for you, but to make sure they order stuff for when they expect to be in or get a lockbox with a code instead. On Amazon they can specify the delivery dates, and many others indicate ‘free next day delivery’ etc. So no excuse for daily parcels. I assume they just don’t know how inconvenient it is for you

It's so annoying especially when they know they have been delivered to mine and then don't come round for them and wait for me to drop them off!
I've started refusing to accept anyone's parcels now 🤷‍♀️

Just tell them to have it delivered to a nearby shop so they can pick it up. Those lockers are everywhere.

Basically they have their own private Amazon locker - you. They're taking the p*ss and they know it. Stop answering the door and they'll soon stop.

my new house has no porch first thing i did when i moved was buy a garden storage box couple of bricks in the bottom in case its winter, note of amazon next to front door please leave parcels in parcel box, odd parcel is one thing but this sounds annoying

I never answer the door if I'm not expecting anything/anyone. Our house was slowly becoming the drop off point for the street. Not any more.

I think asking for the keys is a good idea. The parcels can go straight into their flat. If they don’t like that plan, it’s much easier then to say you won’t take in deliveries, because you have tried to meet them half way, and they have refused.

Don't answer the door. They won't know that and they wouldn't know if you refused to take it in either.

Not unreasonable. Our neighbours started taking the piss when I was WFH and then on maternity leave, so we stopped accepting any parcels for them. They'd put us down on the delivery notes, when we'd barely exchanged hellos more than a dozen times in our lives.

Last nye my ndn took a parcel in (dd's birthday) then went away for the week! Who does that?

I'm the only wfh in the street, only car in the drive. Every delivery came here, regardless of if the neighbour had said so. Several a day, constantly. I ended up putting a little sign saying no parcels. For a while, they still knocked, saying "I've seen the sign but could you just ..." but they soon got the idea.

It sounds like op is talking about the buggy being in her own entrance hall, not the communal one.

My partner is against that as they have occasionally.

Have occasionally done what?

YANBU. I dont accept them any more. I did for ages but then it just got ridiculous. Its not just taking them in, they then have to come round to collect them and they'd often do it very late at night when we were in bed and we were in PJs etc.
Just dont answer the door, or refuse them. The postman wont tell them they've been refused, they'll simply take them back to the depot and leave a card for them to pick them up.

I'm the only wfh in the street, only car in the drive. Every delivery came here, regardless of if the neighbour had said so. Several a day, constantly. I ended up putting a little sign saying no parcels. For a while, they still knocked, saying "I've seen the sign but could you just ..." but they soon got the idea.

Me too.

I didn't use a sign but just started refusing to take them and within a few weeks, they stopped asking.

I don't mind doing it occasionally but if it happens all the time, it interupts too many meetings, having to both answer the door to accept the delivery and answer it again for the parcel to be picked up by the neighbour.

It really, really annoys me that the default option is delivering to a neighbour. We had horrible racist neighbours at one point and I used to specifically state on my orders "please do not deliver to neighbour" and they still bloody did! One time I rang the company and said, I specifically said not to deliver to my neighbour and you did so they had to send someone out to collect it and re-deliver it as after them racially abusing my husband, there was no way I was going round there to ask them for my parcel.

Just say no. No, just say no.

Someone who felt pressured to by a courier, probably.

A had a parcel delivered "over the gate". Only it wasn't over my gate. The company told me to go and ask the neighbours to check their gates but they're all quite batshit and I didn't see why I should disturb every neighbour until I found my parcel. I made them send the courier back out to find the house he'd left it at ... and it's wasn't even my street.

One of the options in Evri settings is "Neighbours to avoid" - so definitely use this. But you can only add one! And you can only do it for your own account.

During our 25 years at our address I can count on one hand how many times a neighbour has taken a parcel for us. One went to a neighbour across the road and they were never in when I went to collect and when I did retrieve it it stank of smoke. Another neighbour took in our parcel (a desktop computer that had been sent away for repair), the delivery man didn't put a note through our door and the neighbour went on holiday for 2 weeks with our computer in their house!
We now have people who live across the street, who the only time I've spoken to are when they pick up parcels. Last week one arrived, awkward and heavy and the delivery man said he'd been told to leave it at ours if they weren't in!

Yep. :)

That happened to us and it was our main computer that had gone away for repair. No note was left through our door so we didn't know it was there - and they went on holiday for 2 weeks!
If I have a parcel for someone I normally give them 24 hours and then take it to them just in case they had no note.

i can’t think of anything that I’ve ordered lately that let me specify a date and time

Do love an Amazon locker though

Thankfully they’ve moved and our new neighbours are nice 😊 this was a few years ago when evri was Hermes, I think? I put that note on the shipping instructions on the company website so thought it would be ok.