Does anyone else fucking hate being busy?

[Justnoenergy]

It seems most people love being busy. Lots of comments about how they feel so much better, it distracts them from any anxiety, they get more productive the more they do, and so on.

I am the complete opposite. I feel a background tension and inability to relax if I have lots of stuff booked that I absolutely must do. It happens with things I really want to do just as much as something like a dental appointment.

I just find the constant having to plan to be somewhere and do the thing very difficult. I'm working very part time and sounds laughable but it feels like being battered against rocks some days.

I suspect I have very low energy even though I'm only in my thirties, due to chronic health issues but I also think it is psychological too, everything feels like constant mental stress and juggling. One of my illnesses is Type 1 Diabetes and dealing with it successfully takes so much mental input despite having the best modern gadgetry. Which incidentally failed last night (common, there is a problem making it temporarily useless about once a week) which means I had 4 hours sleep and spending the day trying to not die of low blood sugar while on my feet for a few hours at work.

Does anyone else detest being busy? Even if you enjoy the things you are doing? Do you feel you need far more down time than others?

I don't enjoy being busy but I have a busy mind and always planning, sorting etc. But that's not usually social things. I like having no plans more than I like having a full weekend. I have loads of 'busy' friends though and I do get annoyed at the ones who make themselves busy and then complain they're busy. It is a choice. But I appreciate one is more social than the other!

I like busy but I do make sure I book in quiet weekends when I am not doing anything social so I don't get overwhelmed. Just space stuff out properly. And don't give into booking stuff on your empty weekends.

I feel like this. I was struggling being a sahm to Sen dc and thought when dh gave up work to also be a carer that my mental load and physical exhaustion would be halved - not so. Now we are both just grumpy and exhausted and too much to do. I’ve started moving all appts to give us one week per month with none hopefully that helps

I’m with you, Op. love having an open diary. I’ve had people suggest to live a boring life; these people public share on social media how overwhelmed and anxious they are. I know what I like, and turn down invites to things I don’t.

An empty weekend is my absolute favourite!

I'm the exact opposite. I don't like being over-scheduled and having too much to fit in but long periods of aimlessness without structure or plans and doing nothing make me feel anxious and stressed to the point of physical illness.

My idea of hell would be being forced to spend a whole day in front of the TV in my pyjamas (which I know is a lot of people's heaven). It makes me feel literally unwell and I have to get away from it. Dossing about all weekend, never leaving the house etc makes me panicky and I hate being bored.

I'm a bit phobic about the idea of wasting time and unproductive time. I had it drilled into me as a child that downtime without purpose was wrong. My mum used to bollock me for watching TV unless I had express permission from her and I think I've never quite managed to shake it off.

A lot of people will probably be along to say this is wrong and I'm a victim of a capitalist ratrace culture or whatever and extol the virtues of loafing but it's how I feel and I'm too old to change.

Me too I hate having lots on even if it’s nice things. I’m happiest just pottering around at my own pace. Life in the slow lane for me is essential. Work often means otherwise though and that can literally make me ill. I wish I had a higher speed but I just don’t!