To stop DD15 going to Alton Towers this weekend?

[TheSparkling]

DD3 is 15 and is currently really unwell with Glandular fever (diagnosed yesterday, after a good week of being unwell).
The doctor said its basically a wait it out type thing, paracetamol regularly and drinks and rest which we are doing. One thing the doctor said was no contact sports for four weeks due to possible issues with the spleen caused by the Glandular Fever. This isn't a problem in itself as DD has been to ill to go to school for the last few days and avoiding PE is fine when she returns.

The problem is DD has tickets for the theme park this weekend and she is determined to go as it is her best friend's birthday. I was updating my partner last night about DD3 and he said she won't be able to go the theme park as the roller coasters will be dangerous due to the spleen issues.

Honestly, this had not crossed my mind when the GP said no contact sports.
Now I am in a panic because DD will be devastated to miss her friend's birthday.

Does anyone thing the no contact sports applies to theme parks and roller coasters?
Should I let her go?

YABU to let her go.
YANBU to stop her going.

(Also just to add, I am trying to get to speak to the GP again to clarify.)

If she's ill enough to be off school she's too ill for a theme park. Glandular fever can be pretty bad too, plus is associated with post viral fatigue (like covid) and can be the trigger for type 1 diabetes, my friend developed it 10 days after coming down with glandular fever.

At the same age I messed up my health for years by hiding glandular fever from my parents so I could go on a trip. It needs rest (and no drinking for months!) to fully recover.

Absolutely the right decision.

Hope your DD isn't too upset/grumpy about it but she will understand one day.

We've had tears this afternoon but DD didn't really argue. We have manged to change the name on the ticket so someone else can go instead.
DD is very upset, angry with me but she has accepted the decision. I find it very hard parenting alone but thank you to everyone who contributed to the thread.

She can't go anyway!! Madness

You sound as if you are doing a fantastic job. You have absolutely made the right decision and, secretly, I think your daughter realises this, too. There are times when teenagers need someone to take charge and this is one of them.

If contact sports is a risk, a rollercoaster will be. She can’t go in my opinion

Sounds like she knows it's the right thing really.

She definitely needs to rest and properly recover for months not days.

She's angry right now but she knows it's the right decision (and in some ways it helps teens to be able to say "Mum wouldn't let me" rather than "I don't think I can, I'm not well enough/I don't want to")

Why would you take advice on this from STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET? You asked her doctor, do what the doctor says. Jesus Christ, are you seriously going to follow our amateur medical advice, are you insane?

Yes, you can’t make any other decision. One of those times when you have to take charge in their own best interests . She could go next year for the same event, surely?

Do you need to be shown how to get over yourself?

Had glandular fever at 15. Told no contact sports or rides for 6 months due to spleen.

One of my DDs had GF at about 10 - my GP OH was not worried about her - but I asked him to palpate her abdomen and he went a bit pale - her spleen was huge. He took it a bit more seriously then!

You know what they say about cobblers' children being the worst shod!

No, no, I don't think I am insane. Just a lone parent raising four teenagers whilst working full time and without much family support since my DH died. Really looking for some advice, back up, support, clear thinking by someone outside my situation.

To add I have spoken to a medical professional as well and they have also said not to let her go.

Does she really feel well enough to go? Talk to her and bring in a possible alternative to be done at some point.

Mine wasn't even allowed into school with an enlarged spleen. Risk of death/permanent injury from rides is far too high sadly.

And you are doing an amazing job.

Ignore unhelpful comments from people that have absolutely no idea.

I had glandular fever as a teen (1980s). I had no knowledge of spleen issues(so important to know that!!) etc but to be honest was so ill I was off school for 5 weeks , I slept with my mam for 2 weeks.
I was ill, gp was sure it was glandular fever, tested me - negative , 5 days later still ill gp tested again, positive . I THEN became really poorly. I didn't fully recover for nearly 6mths.

Just read your updates. I'm glad she's accepted the decision. Obviously having the advice from the docs supports that decision but I also wonder if she's feeling pretty rough and although disappointed on missing out, she might feel relieved if feeling poorly.
Hope she has a short illness and quick recovery.

That’s what I was thinking. Took me a while though 😂

Well no I wouldn't be letting her go on any big and tiring days out during her recovery!

Isn’t it contagious? Doesn’t she risk others catching it? I know it’s mostly classed as the kissing virus but I’m sure there are other was to spread it

I remember having glandular fever and a day at a cold theme park would have been unimaginable. I felt so unwell for weeks and would feel gland pain for around a year afterwards.

My son had glandular fever when he was about 9/10 and it took him 6 weeks to get over it. I personally wouldn’t let your daughter out. Rest and plenty fluids and ice cream to smooth the throat.