To think about just leaving everything behind and living a peaceful life of solitude

[Tarbert12]

Work fully remotely, live in a small house somewhere far from anyone I know, get a cat, no other interactions for the rest of my life. Try to avoid the news, just read and see out my time.

I wouldn't necessarily go mad, right?

Do it!

You would need more than one cat. Otherwise great plan.

All fine except the 'no other interactions' bit. This would be really bad for you. You could do the solitude thing but still go to the local village once a week or something, still avoid the news but have some human contact.

I often fantasise about this too but it wouldn't suit me. Instead I'm going on a retreat in the new year and am looking forward to the break

Sounds lovely, l live a very quiet simple life and never been happier.
Look at Green Renaissance videos on Youtube, these people have found secret of life.

Sounds like the menopause to me. See if you can get HRT

Plenty of people are living that life and it is lonely and soul destroying.

Nah. I used to fantasize about this but when my life actually was quite like this I went bonkers. I actually need human interaction more than I realised. I only need one or two hours a day of social company, most days of the week. But I do need that. Not many can cope with the level of solitude you are talking about.

I’m 34 and think this sounds blissful so I beg to differ 😂

Sounds great. I would be doing similar, but can't quite bring myself to abandon a toddler.
Somewhere remote, but with a decent interenet connection. As long as you can afford to run a car...

Sounds like bliss. Unfortunately we do need human connection to thrive. Which is a shame really coz they can be REALLY hard work. Humans that is. Not cats though. Cats are easy.

The toddler will be fine!

😂

Loneliness kills. You need human connection!

Well I take the point that we're social animals but I'm just completely sick of having to deal with everyone's nonsense. People are more harm than help. Maybe I could get a robot companion.

I live in London but live this life to a large extent. Two cats, wfh, socialise very little. I'm very happy! I do have a lovely, peaceful garden so I spend a lot of time out there. I'm not just cooped up in the house. I am going through the menopause but I'm not going to start on HRT just to make me more sociable! For various reasons my life has been hectic for decades. Having some peace and time to just relax and spend time on my hobbies is lovely. No demands. No dramas. Just peace and quiet.

A nice low key life with peace and freedom- yes.

No human interaction- no. Loneliness kills.

Much is being written about this currently.

Sounds bliss @EmpressSoleil

3 cats minimum

There's a big differences between chosen and unchosen solitude, though

I feel exactly the same at the minute. I feel like I’m managing everyone else’s stuff!

Im trying to step back a bit from some of the adults. Can’t step back from kids and partners but is there anyone you reduce contact with? Or is there anyone who doesn’t drain you, that lifts you, that you could up contact with?

It would be while the choice remained but then as the social contacts slip away and the social skills become clunkier and social interactions seem ever more unfamiliar, the gap between chosen and unchosen might be academic.

I get how you feel but the problem isn’t human interaction per se, it’s that your current relationships feel one sided- everyone wants something. Not much you can do about that re the toddler as they tend not to be very reciprocal 🤣 but think about your other relationships. Mind you, cats are also selfish little bastards.

Can I recommend my daughter's videos on the theme of 'slow living'. YouTube channel 'Nelferch'.

Very relaxing and all about what matters!

When I had small kids I used to feel this way! I don't any more.

Big difference between 'I need some time on my own' and 'I want to be alone forever.'