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To throw a Christmas card in the bin?

91 replies

MotherOfOlafs · 21/11/2023 11:45

Got a Christmas card today, why this early I’ve no idea, from DH’s godparent. They have used a shortened version of my name, think Mandy instead of Amanda and the like. I’ve never used this nickname, none of my family and friends have called me it, and to be frank I really don’t like it anyway! So I threw it in the bin. DH says I was a douchebag but I think it’s ignorant.

A couple of points, yes it was addressed to me and DH, but not my DD (DH’s SDD). DH hates cards, he says they are a waste of money. DH’s name is quite similar to another different name and he always moans when people mishear him and calls him that name!

OP posts:
ginasevern · 21/11/2023 15:38

If this is all you've got to worry about you are a very, very fortunate girl (I've deliberately not called you a woman). The first Christmas card I received after my husband died suddenly at the age of 47 was from a close family member. She had written the card to both of us, even though she knew he had died. I knew it was a terrible oversight and I wouldn't have dreamt of calling her out on it. Now, go away and grow up ffs.

catotangent · 21/11/2023 15:43

HeyNando · 21/11/2023 15:01

I think OP was hoping for the 'crying and shaking' squad.

Too bad the sensible folk are on shift this afternoon.

👏🏻👏🏻

Hibiscrubbed · 21/11/2023 16:02

Fuck sake… 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sherma · 21/11/2023 16:02

What a horrible thing to do.

RampantIvy · 21/11/2023 16:06

I bet the OP won't be back.

JstBlzd · 21/11/2023 16:40

Christ how do some people move through life being this chronically offended 😂

BlueGrey1 · 21/11/2023 16:44

agree with another poster who said that you sound like hard work

The card was addressed to both of you, you should not have thrown it in the bin, these people spent time and money sending you a card

Do you usually throw hissy fits over such trivial things?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 21/11/2023 16:53

DB and SIL hyphenate their surnames - which I remembered after I'd posted their card (to Oz, so not early). Pretty sure they won't care on account of them being grownups.

Hotchocolatemousse · 21/11/2023 16:57

Nasty and controlling of you to throw away your dh's card from his godparent.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 21/11/2023 17:15

Chemenger · 21/11/2023 13:02

Sometimes it seems that some people spend so much energy on checking they are being respected that they forget to show any respect to others.

This
So much drama and neediness on threads today.
How long till this one disappears?!

Cherrysoup · 21/11/2023 17:22

Pathetic, frankly.

Personally, I even stick up the cards from the local takeaways, god knows I need them to look popular 🤣

2024writeanovel · 21/11/2023 17:28

Christmas cards take up zero of my head space whoever they are addressed to.

Pinkpinkpink15 · 21/11/2023 17:30

How incredibly rude of you.

your husband is right!!

stop being so precious & appreciate their effort, even if it wasn't 'perfect'

gemloving · 21/11/2023 20:15

I personally don't understand how someone can be so petty. It's a kind gesture to send a card, how can someone resent it for using a nickname and sending it too early for their opinion. You sound unhappy. Unhappy people do these things in my head.

HolidayAddict23 · 22/11/2023 06:52

You’re a grown woman, time to start acting like it!

TrashedSofa · 22/11/2023 07:36

PaminaMozart · 21/11/2023 12:20

How about, instead of throwing away her card, you find a really beautiful card and take the time to write more than 'Jack and Jill xx'.

I have a friend who takes Christmas cards very seriously. Personally I don't care - but I make sure I always get her a lovely card. It takes so little effort but it means a lot to her.

Be gracious. It's ultimately more rewarding than not being gracious.

By 'you' hopefully you mean DH not OP?

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