To throw a Christmas card in the bin?

[MotherOfOlafs]

Got a Christmas card today, why this early I’ve no idea, from DH’s godparent. They have used a shortened version of my name, think Mandy instead of Amanda and the like. I’ve never used this nickname, none of my family and friends have called me it, and to be frank I really don’t like it anyway! So I threw it in the bin. DH says I was a douchebag but I think it’s ignorant.

A couple of points, yes it was addressed to me and DH, but not my DD (DH’s SDD). DH hates cards, he says they are a waste of money. DH’s name is quite similar to another different name and he always moans when people mishear him and calls him that name!

Christ almighty - I’d have slashed it to pieces, shat on it and sent it straight back to the cheeky fuckers.

I think you’ve been admirably measured and restrained, OP - you must have been sat there shaking and crying. Or fumming at the very least.

Yes, you were being unreasonable and rude. I have a simple name (along the lines of Emma) and, very occasionally over the years, my Nan has sent me cards addressed Emily or Anna or something else that's not my name. She's terrible with names, has about 15 grandchildren and a heart of gold. Unless there's a back story where you've met them 100 times and they clearly hate you and do it to taunt you, you were being rude.

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You must have a lot going on to be so stressed by this that you not only threw away a card, but also posted about it online. Hope you are doing okay.

They were wishing you glad tidings for Christmas.

You've got the hump over the invisible rules in your head not being followed.

Merry Christmas Everybody! 🎅

The card was to your husband. They tried by adding (what they think is) your name.

You threw away his card. Your DH is correct in his assessment of you.

You sound horribly petty. They were thoughtful enough and cared enough to send a card, fair enough they got your name wrong but it’s not the end of the world, it’s the thought and intention that counts.

Your DH is correct in his assessment of you.

And he'll remember... Some things cannot be undone. A a

Yeah blimey, I'm in agreeance with everyone. Hard work and petty. I'd be pretty p!ssed off if I were your husband

He should throw you in the bin.

Petty. You obviously have nothing else to worry about.

Quite simply it wasn't your card to throw away. Your DH is correct.

I assume there’s a big back story here.

If not you sound very dramatic and slightly unhinged.

It’s a Christmas card.
It’s a nice thing to do.
The end of November really isn’t too early to start sending them.
They shortened your name, possibly because their friends do the same and it’s just habit.
DH may hate cards thinking they’re a waste of money but you’ve wasted the money even more by throwing it straight in the bin.

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Don’t give her ideas, she seems the sort to do this.

I dread to think what she’s like if she receives a gift she doesn’t want.

a) your behaviour was very childish and petty
b) you were rude
c) this is not a hill to die on
d) I hope you recycled it

Much as I am not keen on Christmas cards and no longer send any (it seemed to be considered wife work), I would not deliberately bin one which had been sent primarily with DH in mind.

I'd display it for a while and then at least ask him first. I would hope he wouldn't just bin something that had arrived for me.

Oh, and by bin, I hope you at least meant the recycling bin, unless it was smothered in glitter and couldn't go there.

Yab more u for not recycling it

I think I agree with your DH’s assessment… I’m glad you wrote it because my post would have been deleted if I had written it.

We had been married for at least ten years and one of DH 's friends persisted in addressing the inside of the card to DH and family, rather than DH and muddyford, even though that's how ours to them were signed. I just crossed them off the list and after a couple of years the cards stopped. Sometimes the irritation seems disproportionate, at least from outside

This is also very unreasonable and batshit in my view!

OP you were 10/10 unreasonable.

Seriously. Unclench people. Christmas cards are sent to be nice, to uphold traditions, to let people know that others are thinking of them and hope they have a nice Christmas. Just accept them for what they are!

Unless they are addressed; to Cuntface and Dickwad, I hope you have a miserable Christmas and don't make it to see the New Year' I really don't think it's worth getting het up about.

Cuntface and Dickwad, I hope you have a miserable Christmas and don't make it to see the New Year

Well shit… is that why I stopped getting return cards? 😳🤣

The force is strong with this one. 10/10 Op & a great one to kick off the 2023 season 👏

I think OP was hoping for the 'crying and shaking' squad.

Too bad the sensible folk are on shift this afternoon.

How childish ... I frequently received a card from an (elderly) family friend addressed to me and my ex DH ... I have been married to current DH for over 30 years ... we both just laughed about it and now feel sad that the friend has dementia and we no longer get a card from her at all ...

My mom’s cousin has never got our family name right once when addressing cards. My parents have been married for over 40 years. I was once addressed as “Laura” on a card from my parents’ friends. There were three daughters called Laura in the wider friendship group (the name had a “moment” in the 80s) - but I wasn’t one of them. That’s before you even consider the long list of “and family” cards where neither I or more siblings were named.

Somehow we’ve all survived. I didn’t even need counselling. Hell, my mother sent me a video of “little Katie” the other day and I had to think for a moment before remembering it was cousin’s grandchild. I hope my cousin isn’t stuffing a voodoo doll of me as we speak.