Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

husband disconnected landline

75 replies

maratara · 19/11/2023 09:59

I have just had a big argument with with my husband. Asked him to leave for the night ( its about9pm here). Couldn't find my mobile so grabbed the landline to ring it and he has disconnected it. Pulled it out of the wall ( he's an electrician). said he did it because I'm psychotic as I was going to ring the police to have him removed from my house. His parents aren't far away and can fit him in easily ( 5 bedder home ).That was what I wanted him to do. Go to them.I need some some space.
Suxh a stupid argument - he called me an anologue person in a digital world. Haha no probs
Disconnecting my phone is a step too far IMO. Fecking hell
I must have been awful in a previous life because this one is shit.
No idea why I'm posting, You guys are all asleeo anyway

OP posts:
Inthebitterend · 19/11/2023 10:02

This sounds a little concerning - are you safe?

HollieHobbie · 19/11/2023 10:03

Hope you're safe OP.

ACynicalDad · 19/11/2023 10:04

This is abuse. I’d consider taking it further.

Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:09

He's sitting in with our son.

OP posts:
Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:10

I'm ok. Just sad

OP posts:
Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:11

I just want him gone

OP posts:
Watchkeys · 19/11/2023 10:13

Is it 'your' house, or does it belong to you both?

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 19/11/2023 10:14

Couldn't find my mobile

Had he hidden it?

grabbed the landline to ring it and he has disconnected it

Did he disconnect it during the row/when you went to it. Or had he disconnected it previously and you've only just discovered it? As in, did he say he'd disconnected it at some earlier point because you're "psychotic" and he doesn't want you to be able to use it when necessary?

MintJulia · 19/11/2023 10:14

Did he take your mobile as well? Because that would be really concerning. He has effectively removed your ability to call for help.

And he thinks you're psychotic !! You need him out of your house, as soon as.

Watchkeys · 19/11/2023 10:15

Don't let your mobile out of your pocket. If he's trying to cut you off from the outside world, keeping it on you will fox all his attempts.

Did he disconnect the phone prior to the argument?

heartofglass23 · 19/11/2023 10:16

Go to a refuge before you become a dead woman stat.

AutumnFroglets · 19/11/2023 10:17

Hope you've found your mobile.

Can you ask a neighbour if you can borrow theirs if you feel unsafe?

margotrose · 19/11/2023 10:17

He sounds dangerous. Please don't stay in the house with him.

aswarmofmidges · 19/11/2023 10:23

You are posting without a mobile phone so you are using WiFi so he hasn't taken the ( usually small white ) wall connection off so just plug the phone back into it ?

Beckafett · 19/11/2023 10:25

It's totally unacceptable behaviour. Hope you and your son are safe.

Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:28

I still have internet. He just disconnected the landline. He's gone to sleep in the spare room. My son is crying.I could call the police but I really don't want to. Son isupset enough already

OP posts:
Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:31

I found my mobile. Sorry for sounding dramatic. I just freaked out when my landline was dead and he said he's disconnected it,. Not normal behaviour I think.

OP posts:
PonyPatter44 · 19/11/2023 10:31

How are you posting? Have you found your phone? Have you both had a drink tonight? Crucially, do you feel in physical danger?

In the morning, have a proper look at the landline. If he hasn't removed the socket plate, you might be able to buy a cheap plug-in handset and hide it in your sock drawer. If he's taken the whole thing out, you need to be more canny. Get a PAYG burner phone, put some credit on it, charge it, and hide that in your sock drawer.

Start thinking about a future without your partner. How would it work for you?

Watchkeys · 19/11/2023 10:34

Did he disconnect it before or during the argument, @maratara ?

betterangels · 19/11/2023 10:35

It's not normal behaviour, no. Nor is doing it because he thought you, who he calls psychotic, were going to call the police on him. Please be safe.

WeeOrcadian · 19/11/2023 10:36

maratara · 19/11/2023 10:28

I still have internet. He just disconnected the landline. He's gone to sleep in the spare room. My son is crying.I could call the police but I really don't want to. Son isupset enough already

I hate to be harsh, but how upset do you think your son will be when he sees his father beat his mother? Or when he has to visit you in hospital? Or lie to school because people are asking questions about his bruises?

It won't get better but you'd be silly to allow it to continue

Please do something - if only for your son's sake

Olika · 19/11/2023 10:37

This is not normal behaviour (disconnecting) so start thinking how to break up with him.

Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:38

Geez I don't know anything about that stuff. He does ( as I said he's an electrcian). Internet was never gone, just the landline. It's the one bill he pays so I don't know anything about them. He moved into my house. I owned it outright before I met him. MOney isn't really the think though. It was this weird way he was saying "Ooookkkaayyy". in my ear. That sounds stupid but it freaked me out as he kept doing it after I asked him to stop. He has another horrible voice that he knows I hate and will do it just to upset me.
Gosh that sounds stupid. But imagine you are in bed trying to have a discussion with you husband and all you get is is "oookkkkkaaayyy" whispered in your ear. Its fecking freaky. He thinks I'm mad but I've my doubts about him!!

OP posts:
Original poster
maratara · 19/11/2023 10:41

WeeOrcadian · 19/11/2023 10:36

I hate to be harsh, but how upset do you think your son will be when he sees his father beat his mother? Or when he has to visit you in hospital? Or lie to school because people are asking questions about his bruises?

It won't get better but you'd be silly to allow it to continue

Please do something - if only for your son's sake

Show quote history

He has never hit me ( well excluding a time when he kicked me in the boob) but that was ub reaction to me pulling his leg hairs and was over a decade ago . He is not a violent man. I'm not scared. I'm angry

OP posts:
BodenCardiganNot · 19/11/2023 10:42

At least the house is yours. Is his you son's father?

Swipe left for the next trending thread