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Had to delete/block a guy before date after too many red flags

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struggling13 · 17/11/2023 19:13

Was speaking to a guy for around a month initially on a dating app and then on whatsapp/insta, everything seemed to be going well had a few facetimes and spoke often on the phone etc. Was supposed to be going on a date with him tonight however I had to cancel and delete him off everything due to what I think is valid concerns, my sister thinks I should've maybe still gone on the date.
The concerns include, he lied about his age on his profile which I didn't find out about until this week he said he was 35, he is actually in his 40's (I'm in my mid 20's). On the phone to him on tuesday evening we were casually talking about exes and he confessed he had stalked a previous ex stating when she broke up with him he hacked her Facebook, phone and emails and would park outside her house to make sure she hadn't moved on ( admittedly he did say it was 10 years ago and he had been to therapy since then) but it just gave me a really bad feeling in my stomach when he said it. Lastly on the first facetime I noticed he looked alot older/not quite like his profile photos and for what would have been the date he kept insisting to pick me up from my house, I was obviously unsure after his stalking admission and he kept pushing for my address quite persistently. Although not a mother, I do care for my disabled younger sibling here and felt it fair not to put them in danger if he turned out to be a looney. Was I right to trust my instinct by cancelling the date yesterday and blocking him off everything (mainly as he had admitted he could hack phones location etc) or did I act abit hasty?

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Americano75 · 18/11/2023 12:36

Report his profile to the site and think about reporting it to the police via 111, it could be one of those small pieces of Intel they'd be glad to have.

10HailMarys · 18/11/2023 14:47

You seriously have to ask if it’s ‘unreasonable’ not to go on a date with self-confessed stalker?

Of course you shouldn’t go on a date with him and anyone who thinks you should is an idiot.

Snuggleyou · 18/11/2023 16:56

All well and good, but I think we know better from watching news and womens accounts of harassment. Police don’t bat an eyelid until a woman gets harmed or worse.

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