Who is bu about child's party?

[Alwayssomethingtodo]

So two relatives have fallen out.

Relative 1 - Barbara, is holding a soft play party for her child's 6th birthday.

Relative 2 - Eric and Dorothy are Barbara's brother and sister in law. They have 2dc ages 5 years and a baby 8 months old.

Barbara has invited the 5 year old to the party. It's on a weeknight after school so she offered to pick the 5yo cousin up as Eric and Dorothy don't drive.

However Eric and Dorothy have got very upset that the baby wasn't invited to the party.

Barbara said that as the party is costing a lot per head and there are only 10 places, although the older cousin is invited there didn't seem much point inviting the baby as it will be all school friends and the baby likely wouldn't eat the food or make much use of the place. They are welcome to come along but the baby won't be 'in' the party.

Eric and Dorothy said that Barbara is out of order leaving one of their dc out and have told Barbara not to bother at all.

Wibu?

Eric and Dorothy are batshit crazy

Eric and Dorothy have lost the plot!

E and D are bonkers!! And will have a hard life, if they don’t reset their expectations

Eric and Dorothy need to get a grip.

Well Barbara, I’d say Eric and Dorothy are a bit precious. You were more than generous offering to pick the young cousin up, they are ridiculous insisting a baby attend a soft play party -although I can’t see a venue actually charging for a babe in arms.
Why do they have such FOMO though? Very odd.

Eric and Dorothy are nuts. The baby has no need to be at a school child's party.

team Barbara

Eric and Dorothy are completely nuts. How generous to offer to pick up and look after their child at the party so a parent doesn't have to come. And why on earth would anyone want to take an 8mth old to a soft play party full of rambunctious 5 year olds.

Baby probably wouldn't be allowed into the actual softplay equipment/area anyway

E&D are hard work
a not even 8month old will be completely out of place on a school kid’s birthday
fair enough for the baby to go along with the parents and maybe get a balloon, but no way should the baby be part of the party

Eric and Dot are nuttier than squirrel shit. Hope Babs tells them to shove it up their arses.

Eric and Dorothy are cutting off their noses to spite their face. Were they expecting Barbara to take the baby too and are pissed because they were imagining an hour or so of child free time to themselves, so are now throwing their dummies out the pram?

E & D are nuts!

So, E & D were expecting a babysitter at that time so they could go and do what, shopping, have a cuppa on their own??
Or maybe they wanted some birthday cake!
THEY are being VERY UNREASONABLE, and should let DD go to her cousins little party and enjoy herself, while they go home/elsewhere with their baby!
Ffs, some people 🙄

E&D are quite right. The 8 month old is just us much part of the fam ... haha only joking. They are wildly nuts.

I'm with Barbara. It's fine to invite the 5 year old and not the baby. Although in my experience being the only cousin at a party with school friends can be a bit lonely.

Team Barbara.

An eight month old won’t know it’s missing out! And why would you invite a baby to the party.

I couldn’t have put this better.

Team Barbara

Perhaps E&D thought there would be cake for the baby and THEY would get to eat it. Same with getting the party bag and being able to play with it for 5 seconds themselves. Now their plans are in tatters and they are lashing out due to trauma. Life can be very tough.

I think the dynamic changes a bit with people who have older kids, and the relatives with younger kids feel like their younger children are missing out as rationally it doesn’t make sense for a young child to be in with a group of older kids but their older child got to experience parties with cousins so yes they are being ridiculous but I do get it

E&D are idiots. Of course the baby shouldn’t be invited. Completely ridiculous! Now their oldest child is missing out on the party.

My daughter had a soft play party.

We paid the £1 entry fee for her younger cousin who was 7 months old.

It not hard to invite the baby who will probably only sit in the corner sleeping.

I'm sure if you speak to the venue they don't mind the baby attending.

Personally I would do it just to keep the peace.

But yes thry are being unreasonable to insist and cause a huge fuss. But also it isn't difficult to accommodate them.

Team Babs!

Of course the parents would have to come and keep an eye on the baby.